Update to locking my doors…boundary stomping.

This is kind of an update to my previous posts about how MIL talks bad about me for locking our door and refuses to accept boundaries. She so blatantly lies to keep crossing boundaries and not have to text first. We are looking to move but the logistics of it are not happening as fast as I’d like.

TL;DR: We live together but she claims she never sees us ans I’m always locking her out. I set a simple boundary to text before coming downstairs. She finds ways to not do this then berate me for “never seeing her” “always locking me out”.

MIL uses coming in “to bring you ____” as a way to check what I do all day and make stupid comments (newly a sahm but used to wfh which she never respected either). She gets my toddler all excited to see her just to basically ignore her and say she’s in a rush has to leave.

Today I told her I did not need anything and she keeps texting to ask “are you sure not milk? Not berries?” I told her no we are OK and she tells me she bought batteries for one of the baby’s toys. She also bought eggs from my sister that have been sitting in my fridge for 2 days, she hasn’t felt up to coming to get them until now so she’d bring the money for the eggs and wanted them when she came home. I told her if it was a good time I could bring them to her otherwise would leave them in the hallway later on but no need to stop in.

I was in the middle of changing a diaper and clothes and heard her tiptoeing around in the hallway. It was a few more minutes of listening at the door (I saw her shadow) before she started knocking at the door. I yelled “one minute I’m changing her” but the knocking got louder. FIL then called me to let MIL in because she’s standing there with money for the eggs. I told him she must not have heard me but I was changing a diaper and had to finish before I could. When I opened the door for MIL my toddler came running excited to see her. She tries picking her up while still holding 2 dozen eggs and was nearly going to drop my daughter but wouldn’t put her damn eggs down because she was in a rush

She told me her friend was in the car and FIL was upstairs waiting for his eggs so she had to go, but not before basically lying about how she spent her mothers day and a bunch of other shit I don’t care about. Commented about how the babys room was a mess and we still havent set up the ball pit she bought. She told me she just ran in before she knocked but I heard her in the hallway for a while. She told my toddler she would come home later and play with her because she bought her a book.

I am just so tired of her stomping boundaries. There was no reason the batteries or eggs needed to be exchanged right then except she just wanted to come in. I wasn’t going to answer the door but I just wanted her to get her stupid eggs and leave me alone. Plus when FIL called they wouldve heard me ignoring it. Now my whole day has been disrupted and I can’t settle the baby down, who just wanted to play with her, and she’s about to do the same thing in a few hours.

She is going to use the book as an excuse to come play with the baby meanwhile the last few nights she’s completely ignored us. Since my husband will be home he will allow it, and then go do his thing leaving me with her. I told her Iam not feeling well and need a break later but she’s more than welcome to take baby upstairs when she gets home…thats not going to happen. She always wants to “play” with my daughter with someone else around because she does not change diapers, feed her, or pick her up

Please send hugs or help. We can’t get this moving process started fast enough