It’s been a while and the last 2+ years have been hell. But it’s finally over (I hope). In my first post I talked about finding out that my spouse “David” enjoyed dressing in women’s clothes. When I (39F) found clothes that weren’t mine I thought I was being cheated on. David said I was wrong and it was something enjoyable done in private, not in public. I honestly wasn’t bothered by David wearing women’s clothes at home. But I found out David lied and had cheated on me with both men and women. David said what happened with those people was too degrading to involve me because I was too good.
It ripped me apart. I couldn’t stay after fin finding out David had cheated with so many people and couldn’t even remember how many there were. At first when everyone found out David cheated on me so many times I had lots of support. When David started living full time as a woman and started seeing a therapist to deal with having to hide that, a lot of the support dried up. You really find out who your friends are when something like this happens. Twelve years of knowing David was a lie. I got lots of heat for not supporting David and for leaving. It hurt but the upside is that I know who my true family and friends are even if most people supported David over me. I filed for divorce in December of 2022 and it was finalized six days ago because David didn’t want a divorce and tried to stop it. While seeing other people still. It was finalized six days ago, a day after our anniversary. I’m over it now. I moved away from Vancouver and I have a new job and know who my real family and friends are. There were some nice comments on my last post which I appreciated so much.
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Congrats on the divorce.
Also, as someone under the trans umbrella, don’t let people hate on you for divorcing for that if it was part of it. You can support your ex’s transition while also admitting remaining in the marriage isn’t the right decision for you, you didn’t sign up for a same sex marriage in the beginning after all.
I wish you the best in your new life.
Cheating is still cheating regardless of whether someone is exploring to find themselves. It’s a marriage and they should be sharing that with you and not using their confusion for trash behavior. Good luck to you as you move forward.
You did not leave her because she transitioned. You left her because she CHEATED AND LIED.
Please do not carry this on your shoulders, and I wish you the best in your new adventure.
It pisses me off that people thought it was okay for him to cheat on you countless times just because he came out as a woman. Cheating is cheating. All those years he put your health at risk.
As you said, at least now you know who your real friends and family are.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳💐💐💐💐 HAPPY DIVORCE!
Life can only get better. Good for you, for respecting yourself! 🥂Cheers to better days!!