For context this was my previous post – https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/DVeGIAbQ1v
I have re-started my no contact with my ex but I confronted my mutual ex friend saying that she did not know the what went in the entirety of our relationship and how my ex had treated me and how she had no purpose knowing since it was respectfully none of her business.
She said she’s breaking our friendship because she “saw my ex’s pov more than what she saw as mine” mind you she never asked me for my pov or any clarification. She cited my verbal abuse as the primary reason of ending our relationship when it was aimed towards my ex not her and I did not defend myself and said that I never condone it or justify it.
I did not however, present her with evidence of how my ex – the person she chose more of a friend than me had edited my pictures sexually or faked having a tumour or tried to manipulate my brother against me, etc in the past because once again I respected the courtesy of what my relationship was.
When I brought back referencing her past in which her ex 20M who was my friend at the time had vented to me about her and so did she about him. I reminded her that when I was in her situation I never took her side or her ex’s side because that was something personal to them. They were my friends in their own ways. And it wasn’t my place to break friendships over what goes one in any person’s private relationship.
She simply stated that her relationship isn’t relevant to this situation but somehow listening and believing my ex whom she sees as her ‘younger brother’ is more relevant and she doesn’t agree with how I treated him at the end. Once again, asking for no clarification whatsoever and believing his words or the story he showed against my own.
I do not think this is just about him being like ‘her younger brother’ lol. Something is up. I feel she has someone sided grudge against me. Because she sounded really stupid or that my ex manipulated her really well.
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