So yesterday was my birthday and I was under the impression that my wife had forgotten. I got all up in my head questioning a lot of things in our marriage. My wife had earlier mentioned getting fast food from one of her favorite places and it made me think that my birthday wasn’t even on her radar. Well following the advice I received I didn’t say anything to her. I went to pick her up from work and give her her keys (We’re at one car between us because mine is in the shop) and everything played out as normal. However instead of going to Crushed Red like she had mentioned we pulled up at my favorite mexican restaurant that we only go to on special occasions.
Over the course of one massive burrito and some deep margaritas we got to talking. She said it was really hard to not say anything but she wanted to surprise me. I told her how I had felt and she was immediately apologetic. She blamed herself and I told her she had nothing to apologize for. She was trying to surprise me and I could have remedied everything by just communicating. We talked about our relationship a bit and had a good night. She asked me what I’d like to do and I just wanted a simple night so we went home and watched a movie together I’d been trying to get her to see (The Raid: Redemption) which she actually really liked. All in all it was a good night and a lot of my fears were misguided. I felt like I owed you guys an update after so many of you reached out yesterday. Hope you all have a good day
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Bro went from “she forgot my birthday” to “we’re bonding over burritos and beating people up in The Raid.” Emotional rollercoaster but 10/10 ending.
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Good update. This is why I HATE surprises like this though. Like you want me to spend half my birthday being miserable because you want to surprise me later? Makes no sense.
This actually made me tear up a bit. Sometimes we spiral in silence when all we needed was a little moment of patience. I’m really glad y’all got to reconnect over burritos and honest convo. This kind of quiet love and effort hits different. Happy late birthday
That is sweet. It sucks you were stuck spiraling. Because I’m the same way. But I’m glad you two were able to talk and spend your birthday together.
Edit: to fix spelling because I was in a rush 😅
Well we do think the worst for a reason or reasons. I’m really glad this worked out OP, and I hope you had a great birthday. Communication is so important. If we let our emotions fill in blanks we can quickly subscribe to a false narrative. From here it’s easy to think, do, and say things we regret later as resentments fester🙏
Why are people so stupid?
The Raid: Redemption is one of my favorite movies of all time! I’m glad she enjoyed it!
Communication is the key to a successful relationship.
INFO: Did it occur to you that maybe she remembered halfway through the day and just played it off like she wanted to surprise you?
I dont wanna be the asshole but how do you know she didnt just a vibe at the last minute? Im sorry, but it doesn’t sound like she knew. It sounds like she figured it out at the last second? Is she social media? If so, she could have figured it out by people wishing you happy bday there. Again, im not trying to be rude, but this doesn’t mean anything.
I’m too cynical. I would think she actually didn’t remember and only realized it at some point during the day and so not to look like a jerk she claimed she wanted to surprise me with my favorite restaurant.
NTA, it’s really understandable how you felt, and honestly… sometimes we all get caught up in our own heads about stuff like that. But sounds like you both ended up having a great time anyway, which is the most important thing, glad you got to reconnect over burritos and a movie. It’s funny how something as simple as a surprise can turn into such a bonding moment, and it’s kinda beautiful really.
I’m glad everything turned out much better than expected, OP!
Happy belated birthday! Glad everything worked out and you had a great night with the wife.
Glad it was just bland basic miscommunication. Great flick choice.