UPDATE:MIL tries to convince all her family that I stole her son from her

Update!! So MIL and BF talked about the whole situation Tuesday night,i wanted a week (day to see if she actually respects the boundaries or not.

So,like i said in my first post,MIL confronted me (18F) about a dispute between her and BF (19M),trying to imply that im the one drifting them apart then puttin his whole family on my back.

I will try to point the conversation by ideas so its more clearly.MIL cried and tried to hug BF during the whole conversation.

1.BF said that there’s going to be stronger boundaries from now on,that he will not accept being disrespected or to hear her talk sh*t about our relationship or me.MIL tried to protest saying she was the one disrespected when i told her to go by train and when i “shouted” at her but BF shut that up quickly by pointing out he said the same thing,why is it disrespectful when I do it but not when he does?

2.MIL tried to insist that no family of them likes me.She doesn’t like me becase im disrespectful and drift BF away from them,FIL because he simply doesn’t like me,paternal gradma because both times I came to her place I had a full face of makeup on and the aunt from the previous story because she has a son the same age as BF and she wouldn’t accept someone with my behaviour.BF said he doesn’t believe her since she constantly lies to make her story more appealing and that I’d they really think about me like this then contact is going to be limited.He won’t be close with people who disrespect his girlfriend and relationship.

3.BF told MIL about his perspective of the situation (gf wanting to stand up for him when his own mother pushes boundaries) and my perspective (MIL randomly calling me to complain and to gaslight me,then gets mad when I don’t bend over) and said insults about me are,of course, off limits and this will never be to to discuss,not even if I did something bad to him.MIL tried to defend herself,saying she will stop the insults when I stop insulting her (telling her to take the train is an insult now apparently).BF shut that bs down.

4.This was the longest point in their conversation but it doesn’t include me,you can skip if you want.MIL stressed him about his future,that it’s time to choose a uni and a career path.Everytime somebody asks BF about his future plans he just says “I don’t know” or “I will figure it out”,because who has their life figured at 19.All his family insists on police academy (4 years) or police school (10 months).BF is open to the police school to some degree but doesn’t like the fact that he will only come home once 2 weeks,his mother will try to guilt trip him into staying those days with her instead of me,we will be separated for 10 months by 250km and pretty much the aspect of being a policeman sucks,he’s in for the salary he gets right out of school (if he gets the job in/near our city).

5.MIL found out where my parents live and BF got mad and said that if she steps foot near their house he moves out and cuts all contact with her until she dies.MIL panicked and said that she won’t go there (why would she try to find their address then?) because she’s not the type to start conflicts. (…)

Overall,MIL tries to act nice rn so she can get BF’s thrust back (won’t happen) or to get him in a comfortable position to start an argument again.

Now to some minor parts of the story:

MIL insists I’m dragging BF down and that his academic performance went down since he has been dating me.She asked about my final exam grade and was bitter when she heard I got an 8,85 (BF got an 8,88) but I still think she’s in denial about it.

MIL told BF about how much FIL hates me,how he would beat me if he could (what the actual f*ck).BF is taking this with a grain of salt but is still extremely concerned and angry so he refuses to meet with FIL or let him speak to me until they have a conversation and BF figures out who’s lying.

As of today,MIL has mostly respected boundaries.No fights,no calls during our days together,nothing.BF hasn’t talked to FIL yet since he has distanced himself from him a lot.Gradma (MIL’s mom) gave BF money with the condition that he leaves me and MIL started arguing with her to shut up about me or BF will not come home to them anymore,so the conversation she had with BF probably struck a nerve.