Disclaimer: This is a lighthearted vent. I don’t think anyone is really that much in the wrong here, and if we were to flip it to my partners POV, my actions would also probably be considered annoying 😂
Living together is such a good and important chapter in a relationship, but can we talk about how annoying it is to decorate a joint home when you and your partner have different tastes??
I love a maximalist, eclectic home with all sorts of cute girly touches. A mushroom lamp? Yes I will take 5 because it’s adorable and adds to ambient lighting! Give me colors, patterns, and Knick knacks any day!
My partner prefers a very minimalist scandi aesthetic, minimal clutter, lots of open space, and not purchasing things when they aren’t necessary (especially because he’s a very ethical and conscious consumer)
And that’s a good take, but man, I’m so annoyed that everything we buy for our home is a whole discussion and finding compromise. Right now I’m annoyed that I wanted to get a colorful accent chair for the living room, but he doesn’t want the chair there at all because it gets in the way of the open living room he likes. And that’s fair, but man, sometimes I just want to buy a silly colorful chair without thinking so hard about it! Or big picture, I just want to have control with my design vision! Lol
Btw we live in a small space so there isn’t really a way to “split” to have our own rooms or whatever, so we both have to be happy with the design choices we make cuz we both be living there.
Anyone else have struggles with this?
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We fight about lighting constantly. And by fight, I mean light-hearted bickering. I’m a mood lighting queen. Lamps, soft white light, candles, Christmas lights, etc. He’s constantly complaining that he “can’t see”, always wants the “big” light on when we’re just watching TV, and wants to put recessed lighting in when we redo our living room (horrors).
I also struggle with saving money for rainy days, but in the long run it’s much better than having five mushroom lamps. Learning how to be a conscious consumer helped immensely. I love that all the “decor” in my apartment is purchased directly from local artists/crafters who make a living wage from it, has significant sentimental value, or or is made by me.
Hard agree!!! My partner is so eccentric and focused on functionally regardless of aesthetics. I want to value and weigh their opinion but sometimes WTF no lol
My husband and I have different tastes in decor, too. We have agreed on navy blues, whites, and greens, so I stay mostly within those colors—better than everything: beige, black, grey, and brown which are colors he likes.
I could have written this post about my otherwise perfect partner, who loves plain white walls & is not interested in bright colors at all. It’s VERY frustrating!