So my in laws were awesome… until my husband and I got engaged. Then my mother in law went off the deep end and my father in law showed off his lack of a shiny spine. Things obviously got worse when we had our kids.
My kids (twins) are 7 months old and my in laws just visited them for the third time. Honestly I’m mad about that because it’s tough on my husband because they obviously don’t care. But the months between visits are great. My in laws are a huge cause of stress in a marriage that was probably already doomed from the start.
My in laws won’t get vaccinated for anything except things that would ONLY help them (she goes out of her way to get a tetanus shot without the pertussis vaccine in it). Therefore, no face touching, kissing (obviously), and always hand washing before holding babies. Tonight, father in law BLEW IN MY SONS FACE like he is a dog! Husband has the same anatomical phenomenon as his dad and didn’t say a word, so I snatched the baby from him but not before FIL says, “I’ll kidnap you” to the baby! Yeah, the boys will never be unsupervised with those morons.
One baby wears a helmet for an irregular head shape. I have fought three orthotists and had to get him a new helmet because the first one didn’t fit right. It took a lot of “balls” from me because I’m not confrontational like that. MIL hates the helmet and makes comments “it looks so sad”, “it can’t do anything in that helmet”, “does it have any hair under that helmet?” “Sorry, I can’t see you because of your helmet”, “it can’t see anything going on because of its helmet”. We’ll get to the pronoun use later. I’m so mad my “DH” can’t brag on what an amazing job I did getting the helmet that fits correctly and has shrunk the misshapen part of the head to half the size it was. He is so close to graduating from his helmet, and my husband didn’t even think to tell his parents what an amazing job I did!? We are in couples therapy btw. Now, why the f would you refer to your grandkid as “it”!?? She does it in an obnoxious baby voice so I guess she thinks it’s cute!? I know I need to nip that in the bud next visit but hopefully I have two months for y’all to hype me up for that fight.
At dinner, I’m babbling away updating them on the boys, listing the solids they were eating. I get to allergens and tell my in laws that they’ve tried peanut butter and eggs. My MIL immediately asks husband, “do they eat any solids other than beans?” He goes, “uhhhh… eggs and peanut butter…” was I there? Was I taking? We may never know.
They are leaving (finally). I say my goodbyes and thank them for coming and dinner. They respond by saying… nothing… not a single acknowledgment that I spoke. They just look around and say nothing. I take the boys out of the room. Again, was I speaking? Do I exist? Please let me know if you can read this. 😂
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Oof. They suck. They don’t like you. Please see them less.
I definitely hear you. Welcome friend.
yeah deff have a conversation with your couples therapist that your husband needs to tell his parents if they can’t give you basic decency of acknowledging you when you speak to them, then their visits are going to be slim to none. i would not be taking that disrespect in my home.