when you tell a person to be vulnerable their first thought it always, people will use it against them. But when you tell a person that is confident to be vulnerable, they can do so and not allow that weakness to be used against them or take advantage of it being used against them for their own benefit. Whenever i tell friends dating wise or relationships, just be vulnerable and pay close attention to what a person does with your emotion, they think of it as walking in to situation like a chicken with its head cut off. i always looked at it from a perspective of, when i give my vulnerability , im lending you my power to see what you will do with it, if you use it against me or dont handle it properly i know you are not for me. This technique always worked for me and never ran into the switching up person because they always let me know based on how they handled it through actions.
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> their first thought it always, people will use it against them.
Because 99% of the time it ends up being true.
>when you tell a person to be vulnerable their first thought it always, people will use it against them.
because that will always happen. it comes to the point where people will pretend its a vulnerability when it actually isnt.
Some humans use other folks weaknesses against them.
Its a weapon, but i can surely grab the weapon from your hand and harm you with it. But regardless yes, vulnerability is power
“Wear it like an armour, and it can never be used to hurt you”
Vulnerability describes a state in which one is susceptible to attack or harm.
The strength to brave a risk of being damaged in order to nurture a bond or improve oneself, should not be conflated with the actual vulnerability itself.
Vulnerability, by definition, is not strength – strength is strength.
As for whether it can be weaponized, it depends on what you mean by weaponized. In your example, deceit is the weapon, not the vulnerability.
Anyway, I’d be careful thinking your Machiavelli, the average persons instincts aren’t that bad and they can pick up on your run of the mill shit test.
While I agree on the last point. If you’re being vulnerable with someone who isn’t close enough to hurt you then what’s the point? If they can’t hurt you while you’re being vulnerable then you either don’t care about them or aren’t actually being vulnerable.
Which would explain why you believe it. Yeah giving people the opportunity to hurt you is a good way to learn their character.