Location: NY
I left my AD USMC CWO spouse after 17 years of marriage when I found out the last 5 years of marriage involved over $10k on dating apps, hiring prostitutes across Asia/Australia/US, porn, etc. We share 3 children who are still minors, but all are teens.
He’s proving very difficult to negotiate anything with despite having lawyers. He just acts very vindictive.
He just got stationed in the US from Japan this month. He brought my dog to me here in NY, and by “brought” I mean dumped the dog in his kennel on my porch at midnight and drove off. Despite our agreement (we have joint custody), he entered the state and left with the kids while I was at work.
Last night I was informed that he’ll be leaving in September for a military operation and that he will be leaving the kids with somebody. When I ask him questions about why he’s doing this, who he intended to leave the kids with, how long he’ll be gone, he tells me to “mind my business”. Alarms are screaming in my head over all of this kind of behavior. I’ve been calling my lawyer about all of these incidents, but they’re not giving me any help or guidance. I call the police, and they ask what I “hope to gain”.
What the fuck is this madness? Nobody is giving me guidance. The best I’ve heard is even though these things are “morally wrong”, we have joint custody so there are loopholes about what he can do with the kids now that he has them.
I thought engaging in prostitution while AD was punishable. I thought dipping with the kids was punishable. I thought dumping an animal and driving away was punishable. But no matter how much I call my lawyer or his CO or anybody, nobody seems to be taking me seriously. I feel like I’m going crazy. Somebody out there, please tell what I need to do to get results. I’m worried about my kids wellbeing and I just can’t understand how somebody can behave this way and get away with it.