Sup men, I’ve run into a little problem of trying not to make one of my good buddies feel left out and was wondering if maybe someone has went through the same instance as I am now? I know it’s all about the groom and the groom does drink. I’m planning on renting out an AirBNB on a lake and now that I’m sitting here getting a bunch of drinking games together I have no clue how to make my completely sober friends feel included ? Also, while I’m here do yall have any cool ideas for drinking and smoking games you have ever played before please let me know ?! Thanks men
Update: I love being a man 🤣
Reading y’all’s comments makes me want to invite the good majority of y’all to the bachelor party cause it sounds like you all know how to have a good time. For the people saying to find alternatives the Groom likes to smoke and drink. His finance doesn’t like weed or when he gets drunk so I figured let’s have one last big shabang with all the things he loves haha. Wish I could reply to all of you but just know that you all are helping me tremendously! The guy that doesn’t drink has never touched a drop or done anything in his life for that matter. He’s a really good friend of mine and it’s awesome he doesn’t drink of course but now I know what I can do. Thank all of you for the enlightenment.
Ps. To the people hating on drinking and saying is that the only fun that we can think to do? YES, YES IT IS 🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅🦅
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I am not suggesting that your plan is bad but personally I would suggest more activity based stuff.
Things like Ax Throwing are fun and finding a place with a bar that you can rent a pool table would be good too. It gives the sober person something to be included in.
Well, you have a designated driver already on board so that’s half the battle!!
Have the one not drinking be the designated driver.
Uninvite the non-drinker.
golf or something.. fishing trip if you’re somewhere that can do that
What about a golfing trip, river rafting, camping, mountain biking, casino, deep sea fishing
You can talk to the groom and see what he thinks. My best man found out that I had never been bowling, nor played minigolf, so we went to the local bowling alley, which also had a minigolf course (green-painted concrete!), with the groomsmen and ushers a week or so before the wedding. We had a good time, and drinking alcohol wasn’t a part of it.
The best man set a theme of “Give DrHugh more hobbies,” so everyone was supposed to bring me something to start a hobby.
Bachelor parties don’t have to be drunken or sex-themed revelries.
Somehow, work a few 12 Gauge Shotguns into the festivities.
why do you have to have drinking games? You’re only able to have fun if you are drunk? wow does your funs seriously have to involve drinking and smoking? That’s sad.
other guy says activities. please expand your life
How close are you guys and what do you like to do for fun?
During my friends wedding we played a DnD one shot, but we’re also late 20s early 30s and extremely nerdy.
In my eyes, it doesnt need to be anything super special, it just needs to be a time for yall to go out and kick it and have fun.
Have you spoken with the teetotaler? He might be totally fine just being your sherpa for the evening. While you should want everyone to have a good time, the point of the stag do is for the groom to enjoy himself.
Just get beer&Cider
Is the non-drinker in recovery? Like, does he not want to drink for fitness reasons, or because he’ll end up in handcuffs? Because if it’s the former, you just tell that dude he’ll be on wrangling-cats duty. If it’s the latter, you need to plan around activities; shooting pool, sky-diving, comedy store, sports game, go-karting, LAN party, bowling, music venue…
I mean, there’s a lot to do if you live in a decent sized city
Maybe focus group activities that don’t involve drinking or at least casually. Axe throwing, paintball, if there’s a minor league baseball game nearby tickets are usually cheap. Then casual drinking can be done at the house. That way non drinking friend can still participate in stuff
I planned one years ago. The groom was into paintball and gambling, so I got together a bunch of dudes and a party bus. Tjem we went paint balling and gambling. We did end the night at a strip club and there was drinking.. but eh, I’d say check in with groom and let him guide you.
Speaking as a non-drinker (former alcoholic) we don’t need much and are generally pretty self sufficient when among drinkers. As long as I can get some food and there’s something interesting going on besides watching everyone else get drunk. Of course I’m always packing mushrooms and weed so I have a great time no matter what lol
The dude that doesn’t drink isn’t gonna care, he probably already hangs out with everyone while they’re drinking anyway
Bring enough Mushrooms so everyone gets the same amount only nobody is allowed to not do them. Problem solved and what’s better than 6 friends tripping balls by the lake staring at the stars and shit whilst taking about the good ole days?
It really depends on what everyone likes, but my favorite bachelor party was a camping trip.
No strippers, in fact no women at all. Just a bunch of guys up in the mountains deep in a national forest with several coolers full of beer and food.
A couple of the guys were either cops or vets so they brought up a small arsenal of guns and one of them acted as the range safety officer. We’d shoot in the morning. Then the guys who wanted to would hike around usually picking a nearby peak and trying to get to the top, then we’d get hammered and come up with stupid forest games to play before a team of two or three guys made dinner for the rest of us. The next night the other half of the guys would make dinner so everyone but the groom had to cook at least one meal.
Camping gives your non-drinking friend lots of stuff to do.
As for games, you can always have him drink pop or non-alcoholic beer. A big part of drinking games is the comradery and fun as opposed to simply getting hammered. Bring a deck of cards with you. Maybe a bunch of solo cups for flip cup or beer pong.
On a lake you can rent a boat, kayaks, paddle boards. At the house get some board games or outdoor games like can jam
Fun card game ideas (don’t require alcohol): cover your assets, cockroach poker, love letter
Go kart racing was one of the best day bachelor party activities I’ve ever been to. We had so much fun and there was zero drinking, but it wasn’t missed at all. Afterwards, we just went out to a bar.
Location is a great choice, sounds like a bachelor party I went to a few years back.
My recommendation would be to bring non-drinking games and activities too. Or pick games that are fun even if you’re not drinking, simple as that.
If your people like games, bring some decent board games, card games (even as simple as poker), a Nintendo with some multiplayer stuff like Mario kart, etc. Or even just a football or racquets to play some sports. There are tons of fun yard games too. I went to a wedding reception a while back that had loads set up for guests, and it was a great call.
Any game can be turned into a drinking game, but not every drinking game is fun. If the game is fun enough, the non-drinker can probably just have fun playing the game and winning against the drunks 😂
I don’t know your group, but most people I know can only drink so much before it’s not that much fun anymore. We had a 3 day bachelor party at an Airbnb, and while I like partying, by day 3 none of us were feeling great. The heavy drinking of night 1 was…sustainable, but not as fun as the party continued. Thankfully we had other stuff to do on the side when anyone needed a break.
Tubing trip on the lake or nearby river. Nobody has to drink. You just float and relax. That’s what my groomsmen did for me. It relaxes everyone. Drink if want to, but it’s not necessary.
Whatever you do, you’re Best Man, do not let this dude be singled out by the others. The groom has him there for a reason.
Hell, play water pong so you can all hydrate.
There’s also the option of noon-alcoholic beer so he doesn’t feel left out.
Drinking games? What happened to traditional wholesome Bachelor Party fun?
Where the fuck are the strippers?
I just planned a bachelor party for 18 dudes (RIP) and was the best man. I dont drink alcohol so planning was for sure a challenge.
Booked a large AIRBNB in Las Vegas. Enough so that everyone had a bed to crash in. AIRBNB had all the bells and whistles for a Bach, 2 pool, huge yard with sports amenities. We did competition based games that required drinking, most of the other guys were willing to sub in for me to take the drink as well to not feel left out.
Majority of the time we spent at the Airbnb chilling, drinking, smoking, playing games. I would highly suggest activities that you CAN drink while doing vs Activities that require drinking.
(Ex: Golf, Pickleball, river float, ETC)
Honestly as the non drinker in the group and best man i just wanted to make sure the groom and everyone was having a good time, when shots were being poured at the house, i made sure that everyone had a drink in there hand and made sure to be the best photographer to capture everyone having fun. Also was happy to be the DD when it came down to going out.
When I was at Uni we included non-drinkers in the games by going with larger quantities of soft drinks. It’s a challenge all of its own and still feels like a penalty. Something like, “finishing your drink means finishing the 2L”
As a former drinker, who is 7 years sober, if I knew that a drinking weekend was planned, I would politely opt out. Now, if the guy simply doesn’t drink because he doesn’t like to or it gives him a headache, then maybe he’d be cool with it.
As others have mentioned, don’t make the weekend about getting drunk and playing drinking games (what are you 19?!). Plan activities that maybe ends with dinner (and if people want to drink, great).
I don’t mind at all being around people drinking, but I will not be around people drinking to excess anymore. I’ll go to bars or events, but I’ll duck out early to avoid being there when people get all shitfaced. It’s no fun for sober people. Try it sometime, drunk people are annoying and I still apologize to people for all of my years of being a drunken spaz.
Axe throwing and a dinner
Plan it around the groom.
I’m a 1-and-done drinker. My groomsmen planned a couple rounds of TopGolf, an escape room, a campsite with some hiking, and then a day of drinking and board games at a lake house Airbnb so the guys that drink far more than me were able to do that. The most expensive thing we did was buy the alcohol.
Is weed legal where you are?
I was just in the exact same situation two weeks ago. 6 of us on a bachelor party, one was sober. We just didn’t drink. Unless any of your friends have a very unhealthy relationship with alcohol, you should be able to last a few days without drinking. As long as your days are filled with outdoor activities that take up most of your time, it shouldn’t be too much of a problem.
Just went through this, except I’m the non-drinker. Plan activities that aren’t alcohol-centric. We played topgolf, went to a baseball game, and did some gambling. My friends drank around me, which is fine. I never felt left out. When it was fancy dinner time, I bought the round of 18yo single malt for the boys.
They dude that doesn’t drink can be your DD. Problem solved.
True friend post right here, that man doesn’t know what you’re going through but he got himself a brother.
As other suggested, physical activities and minigames. We’re men and we like to feel powerful and energetic, nothing better than playing fun games like when you were teens
If you’re on a lake, see about renting a boat and going tubing. You have a built in sober driver, so there’s no worries about someone who’s been drinking crashing the boat
Be sure to include non-alcoholic drinks and make the sixth guy wear beer goggles.
I don’t drink, and I’ve been to a few stag dos. In all honesty, I just grit my teeth and accept that after a certain point, it’s going to get boring for me. It’s my choice not to drink and I don’t expect to be catered for at a piss-up.
If the non drinker is friends with everyone, they should be used to others drinking.
1.) Rent a boat to go out on the lake or tubing
2.) Find a nice hiking trail near or around the lake
3.) Bring stuff to grill out
4.) play stump
You need a large stump or a really wide log.
Everyone has a nail they get started on the stump in front of them.
Stand in a circle around the stump and take turns with the hammer.
When it is your turn you try to hammer another players nail in. You must hold a beer in one hand and the hammer in the other. Flip the hammer in the air and in one motion catch it and hit another players nail.
Once a nail is all the way in or is bent over so the head touches the wood, that person is out and must chug their beer.
If sparks fly, everyone takes a drink.
When not your turn stand back in case of players missing the nails and stump and hammer going where your shins are.
Dude, golf trip. Play 18 holes, bring some good cigars, solid lunch, hit the pool, and then just go out downtown. Cruise and let the flow take the boys somewhere. Exactly what I did.
Paintballing, gun shooting, kayaking, fishing, ax throwing, something more activity based. Have a cold one in the evening, maybe poker or fun board games like Catan.
Hookers and Blow! No alcohol needed. 😂
I ran my brothers bachelor party, and he had folks in his party who didn’t drink. I took us go karting, then to a brewery (they have killer food and I know the op manager so we got a private tour, enjoyable even without drinking), and then we went to a casino. Good times had by all!
Step 1, don’t plan a bunch of drinking games. Plan a bunch of games and group activities, and let people drink at their leisure. At some point drinking games will naturally break out but that doesn’t need to be on your itinerary.
Also to not make the non drinker babysit would be nice for once. I’ve almost always been the soberest of the group and it’s always annoying as hell when the others go over the top and I’m stuck putting out the fires and cleaning up the mess/drama. Idk for my best friend I was best man for we had a few beers smoked some grass and vibed together. No strippers, no whores, just a small bbq hang out and some board games vibing with his family.
I’ve been the sober guy at many bach parties. Plan for the groom and not for the one guy. He should be able to exit when he needs to. Group activities are fun. Golf, skeet shooting, boating. All stuff you can do while drinking but it’s not mandatory
My Bachelor party for my good friend was awesome, even though I had only a few days to plan, as he ‘fired’ his other best man because he wasn’t doing shit.
11 AM: Pull into Putt putt golf. I had $300 in my pocket, all in $1s and $5s.
Front 9: Par pays a buck, birdie, $5 Went back to the car for shots and a joint.
Back 9: Par pays $5, Birdie $10
Now most of the boys have about $50-$100 in small bills. (Foreshadowing)
Mexican lunch.
Strip club for the day shift, which really isn’t going to be that impressive. The main stripper looked like Anna Nicole with corn-rows, before TrimSpa.
Use up all the singles and $5s, or they can keep it.
Then we drove to the rehearsal, smelling like baby powder and with some residual glitter.
Great time, and no one got hurt or drunk, and 2/6 were not drinkers.
If you have to cater to everyone’s whims, then no one is going to have a good time. You’re friend that doesn’t drink already lives in a world where many people do drink and is probably fine with it. I mean, it IS a bachelor party. Even if everyone drank, I wouldn’t make the party about drinking anyway. Do some activities where drinking can be done at but it would be fine if you didn’t drink. I’m sure your non-drinking friend will be fine unless you make the whole party about drinking. Drinking is an activity done while doing other things. It isn’t the main event. If it is just all about drinking, then it will be a shit-show. People are going to get in trouble and act a fool.
Go to Bangkok.
tell sober guy what he will probably witness, and if he’s ok with it, advise him to make his own travel arrangements so he can bail early if need be
I’ve been to 3 bachelor parties which took place near a ski mountain and and my skis never left the roof box any of the 3 times because we spent the entire time drinking and smoking weed 🤷♂️
Go to a bbq joint. They likely have other options than beer and you get yummy bbq to fuel.
You could also check with that sober friend and see if they even mind being around drunk people. Some dudes who don’t drink still love to hang around their idiot friends being drunk idiots and others are repulsed by it
Just finished my bachelor party with one sober guy. Was thinking about the same thing. Activities are great—we played mini golf one day. But he also was happy to play beer pong without drinking and generally hang. I wouldn’t worry about it too much.