My ex (25f) left me (24m) about 6 months ago it was an ok breakup it hurt a lot for me she left me at a very very low point in my life and basically said i was to broken to be loved properly. Now yesterday i went to get my hoody from the place she works, she was just supposed to leave it at reception but when i got there she didn’t. I called her and she came down to give it to me. Said hello was polite to her not rude she gave me the hoody and then asked for a hug i said no, then said goodbye and walked off. Now was i an asshole for doing that coz she acted very offended and then went and blocked me on everything ?
I just dont understand how she would expect me to give her a hug after everything that happened and under the circumstances she left me.
Was i really an asshole or is she just immature?
Tl:DR was i wrong for not hugging my ex ?
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No. Contact brings back painful feelings and takes longer to move on. It’s reasonable to be guarded
Physical boundaries are important, and you expressed them to someone. Nothing wrong with that.
She’s ridiculously selfish and self centered. You did nothing wrong. Stay 100% no contact
You are not an asshole, and she probably isn’t either.
You’re both upset, perhaps you more so, she wants to maintain some affection and friendship, and you don’t, both attitudes are OK.
No. Boundaries are to be respected. If my ex appeared and all of a sudden tried to hug me I’d tell them No and then some.
Good for you getting your shit back and breaking it off.