Was it wrong of me to ask my father why my mom was upset?

I posted this somewhere else but it didn’t gain much traction so here I am.

Story:

I know it sounds absolutely ridiculous from the title but yeah it basically sums it up.

This seems irrelevant but I will say it now because it’s context for the rest: I was raised in a very strict Muslim household. My father is agnostic and hates Islam, so they had their fair share of fights over the years, especially with me growing up as their daughter. My father tried to shield me from her religious indoctrination growing up, but honestly it didn’t work. I am 21 years old and she still tells me to pray, makes me read the Quran with her every week, etc. And only a year ago I was able to start wearing shorts around her without her having a cow. Overall, I love my mom, but she’s really insufferable at times. I’ll be honest, her forcing her religion on me put a dent in my childhood and I lowkey resent her for it. We’re also not very close, we have a cordial relationship and that’s really it. I now consider myself agnostic, and my father is very proud of me for “seeing the light.” Anyways, onto the story.

So the other day I picked out a dress at T.J. Maxx and my mother bought it for me. My aunt loved it, and told me to wear it for 4th of July. So that’s what I planned on.

So today comes and I put the dress on. I noticed that the cleavage was a little there but not bad at all, but enough for my mother to slut shame me for it like she always did growing up. I thought I didn’t need a camisole so I got a safety pin and called it a day. I go downstairs and my mom told me “my cleavage was really out”. Mind you, the dress opened up a couple inches below my collarbone. I told her I put the safety pin on but she said it wasn’t enough. I told her do you have a camisole because I am not changing, which looking back was rude so that’s on me I regret saying that. But she said yes and gave me on and I put it on. I still looked nice and I had a smile on my face and I thought everything was good now. But my mom still had a snarky look on her face. But whatever, I left to go to my grandparents in my car and she would follow me for the barbecue.

Everything was fine until about an hour ago. My mother asked me to go back to the house to get something, and my cousins came with me in my car. They told me my mom was talking shit about my me to my aunt about the “incident” that happened this morning. I was just like, that was 6 hours ago? She’s still mad? I totally forgot about it so that’s on her I guess and we moved on.

The hours between the incident my mom seemed happy. But a couple after that I realized she looked very visibly upset. But I didn’t go up to her because in my opinion I think it’s very awkward to go up to a very visibly upset person and ask what’s wrong, but apparently I’m in the minority on that one. My father was out grilling, and I asked him quietly why mom looked upset. He told me she told him about the incident earlier and he said he was torn and that I should have known. Which is fair I guess but also I feel like this is blown out of proportion at this point. She told me to put the camisole on and I did, what’s the problem? So I politely told him exactly that and I was not interested in talking about this with anyone further. And he obliged.

But of course my nosy aunt heard and she loudly told this to my mom, in front of everyone. My aunt said, and I wish I am joking, “I am on your mother’s side on this one.” Like okay? I almost laughed in her face. She is not my mother and it is not her place to be commenting about me like this.

So I politely told her I was just asking my father if my mother was okay and he answered. And she literally said I was using that as leverage for me. She humiliated me. Not only that, my mother AGREED with her and said “I do everything for you, and this is what you do.” She was upset I went to ask my father about why she was upset and not her. She said I should not have gone to him and she deserved more respect. I also overheard my aunt almost bragging to my mom saying, “yeah that’s why I called her out on it.”

I’m gonna be honest, I genuinely don’t see what she’s upset about. I went to ask my father because he’s my fucking father. I have every right to ask him what’s going on. Like does she just not want me to talk about what’s bothering me with him?

I decided to let it go because I’ve been through this position before and I just did not want to get into it. But to be frank, I’m hurt. I thought I was treated unfairly and my aunt was harsh and put her foot in my mouth and I feel like my mom was trying to manipulate me as well. So what is your take on this Reddit?