I saw in the psychward (paediatric and adolescent psychiatric unit) and I didn’t really have an appetite to eat anything. The nurse that took my height and weight said “well honestly you eating isn’t a worry for me you won’t die you have enough fat”. I agree that I’m not the thinnest (5’4 130lbs) but I was sort of taken aback and felt super bad about myself. I don’t know. Am I being dramatic??
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Maybe they’re used to people not eating out of protest and that’s a handling response. I wouldn’t take it personally.
No I don’t think that’s appropriate
nah that’s fucked up
She was just jealous. Women should always build up other women not knock them down.
That is so incredibly not okay to tell someone so young (or anyone), especially not while you’re at your most vulnerable. She could have easily said something like “That’s not uncommon, try to eat what you can, and if you really can’t eat we’ll think of something.” Or you know… nothing at all if she’s really that stupid. But yeah, tell someone who you think will do something about it, complain to the hospital if you’re able to, do anything to make sure they know what she said. This is the kinda stuff that can trigger an eating disorder in someone. Regardless of weight, that is not appropriate to say in the least.
Rude that was
5’4” 130lbs is NOT fat, btw. I don’t care what anyway says.
Was she a middle aged/older white woman? Idk why but a lot of high school bullies become nurses.
I’m an EMT and work in an urgent care. Most of my coworkers are awesome, but a very specific subset are just awful.
That is right in the middle of the “healthy weight” range. It’s far from appropriate.
Definitely not, especially for someone working a psyche ward. For someone who would regularly work with people with eating disorders that was Hella inappropriate.
Totally inappropriate and unkind. You didn’t deserve that. I suggest you very calmly report this to a quality or medical director. Don’t bother with a department director.
That’s wild inappropriate, no matter your size! All I can imagine is she must’ve meant something else because your size isn’t overweight in the slightest?! Still no excuse to be so inappropriate. Sorry you encountered a rude nurse and I hope you’re doing better, definitely don’t pay any mind to that stupid comment.
I think we’re missing the key word here. She said you have “enough” fat – not you ARE fat. I read it like she was saying she would be concerned if you were underweight and skipping meals but that she thought you were a healthy weight.
You’re a healthy weight, and she, as a nurse, should know that. I bet she’s one of those mean girls who became a nurse to have that position of power over vulnerable people. Tell one of the head nurses, or the doctors, and your parents, so she can be reported. Saying stuff like that, especially in a mental health setting, could derail someone’s treatment completely. You just got in the door, who knows what other things she doing and saying.
You need to report them – especially if they’re working in a psych ward where they’d reasonably be treating people with EDs regularly. That statement could legit kill the wrong person.
That’s a 22 bmi nowhere near fat or overweight and even if you were overweight that would be a fucked up thing for a nurse to say