Was this stealthing?

Had a first date yesterday, we went to his house, cooked dinner together and had sex. There was a moment where I got out the condom where he said he sometimes struggled to stay hard while wearing one but was still happy to put it on. Afterwards we talked for a while and ended up having sex again. After a while he said he was close and pulled out and I realised he wasn’t wearing a condom anymore. When I called him out on it he said he thought I knew that it was off. I responded with that it was still something he should have checked in about, considering our conversation earlier, that we hadn‘t even spoken about STDs and he had no idea where I‘m at in my cycle plus I mentioned I wasn’t on birth control. He was very apologetic, said that I had every right to be upset, that he would be too in my position etc. I went into the kitchen for a bit to call a friend and ran the situation by them and we decided together that I‘d take a taxi to theirs and crash there for the night as it was late. I called the taxi and went back into the bedroom to grab my stuff. While I was assembling things he apologised again, said that he had gotten tested after his last partner and that it was all clear and that in the event of pregnancy he would be there for whatever I wanted to do if I wanted him to be. He didn’t try to stop me from leaving, just kept wanting to talk. I said I didn’t really have anything left to say to him, that I believed he was genuine, but that I wouldn’t be making any fundamental decisions about forgiveness or if I wanted to see him again tonight and just needed to be somewhere else. He sent me one last message apologising again saying that he wouldn‘t bother me again if this was the last time we met.

Thing is I can see how it happened as I‘ve been in situations before where me and my partner just got caught up in the heat of the moment and fucked without a condom for a bit but in all those situations it was very clear we were both aware of what we were doing. In this case we were in a dark room and I did touch him to put him inside me which is what he said to justify thinking I was aware that it was off.

I‘m really annoyed because it was going so well up until then. We got on really well and he put in a lot of effort to make me feel comfortable – he used to be a chef and I mentioned some of my dietary stuff as I have a lot of food sensitivities and he did a bit of research on my conditions and ran all the ingredients by me. He also offered to pick me up from the train station to take the bus back to his together so that I could decide if I felt comfortable about coming home with him. Idk if this is really relevant, maybe I‘m just trying to find ways to justify it. He did seem very genuine and sorry which of course doesn’t excuse it but I‘m just torn. I‘ll give myself a few days to figure out how I feel. I cried a bit in the taxi afterwards bc the second time we had sex felt a lot more sensual and intimate and of course now I know it was because he wasn’t wearing a condom. Such a headfuck, weird how quickly your perception of/feelings about an encounter cam change.