Was your wedding night sex what you expected or was better, worse or nothing happened? Details?

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Everyone had such a great time at our reception it didn’t end until 1am.

We drove two miles to our appartment. I saw her get out of her beautiful dress. I have a photo of her and her dress!!! Unbeknownst to me she only had panties on underneath and saw the perfect imprint of her dress around and under her breasts. We crawled into bed and fell asleep in each other’s arms. We waited until the next morning to have sex.

It was perfect.

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  1. Quinocco Avatar

    We forgot to fuck.

  2. Spirited_Reception15 Avatar

    We slept only 2 hours the day before because we were preparing everything so our wedding night was just to sleep

  3. smooshiebear Avatar

    We were too exhausted for that, and hot and sweaty. We also didn’t eat much at the reception, so we went to our family’s rooms in the hotel looking for snacks. We have champaign and snacks.

    I have heard that wedding night sex for couples who have waiting is usually a nervous and terrible adventure, and you are better off waiting one more day, but we were just exhausted.

  4. rctbob Avatar

    We were so tired after everything that day we just went to bed.

  5. moto626 Avatar

    You did awesome.

    My wife and I had terrible sex the first night. Virgin issues. It got better. Way better.

  6. emkelly64 Avatar

    We showered and passed out

  7. PaulsRedditUsername Avatar

    It was after midnight when we finally got to the hotel room and we were exhausted. I honestly can’t remember whether we did any lovemaking or not. If we did, it was more out of a sense of obligation than passion.

  8. Gogo_McSprinkles Avatar

    worse than expected. We were too exhausted to actually finish. We got in the hot tub and were like, “naahhh let’s just go to bed”

  9. vrosej10 Avatar

    Sucked both weddings. We were too tired and my first husband acted like a dick at the reception so was in a mood.

  10. thewhiterosequeen Avatar

    She only had panties on under her dress? What else were you expecting?

    But unless you’re both virgins, who cares about having sex on your wedding night? We were both really tired. No need to to force something you both aren’t into because it’s supposed to be special.

  11. Mcsmack Avatar

    Had a threesome with one of the bridesmaids.

  12. scottwax Avatar

    My now ex wife’s Mom and her friend were drunkenly beating on our door right in the middle of it because they want to see all the gifts we got. And later when we got back to it, my ex was screaming “cum in me and consummate our marriage”. What the fuck? So overall it sucked.

  13. voteblue18 Avatar

    Non existent. We were so, so, so drunk. We made out for about 2 minutes and then passed out.

  14. Sustainable_Twat Avatar

    My wife said it was the best sex she ever had.

    I wouldn’t know about it as I was too busy looking for my best friend.

  15. mahogani9000 Avatar

    ours was the next morning. we were drunk. our wedding was a party! it was nice, we’d been around the block together plenty before then anyway

  16. abarua01 Avatar

    I was completely exhausted and had no energy in me. I tried to do it anyway but was unable to get an erection. I tried to do it the next night and the same problem happened 2 nights in a row. We didn’t do it until our third night

  17. Absurdscrawler Avatar

    None existence. Someone (not me) passed out on the hotel bed.
    😂

  18. SlimeReetus Avatar

    We both were exhausted. We didn’t get home until 11pm and then had to make sure everything was in place to leave for the honeymoon the next morning. Now that first night of the honeymoon. That was a good time

  19. killthecook Avatar

    This was the same for us. The day was an absolute blast, but it was long and exhausting. By the time we got back to our room we just grabbed snacks from the lobby since we hadn’t eaten since the reception probably 8+ hours prior, and fell asleep lol.

    Sex the next morning was great!

  20. Seroseros Avatar

    It was no different from the previous thousand or so times we fucked.

  21. sillysaurus13 Avatar

    Wedding ended very late. Friends mentioned strip club and a lot of us went. I got my first ever lap dance which was both awkward and fun. Maybe 4 am when Wife and I got back to the hotel. Thought we’d pass out but we had great sex. It felt intimate but also dirty and sexy. Took all our will to not cum in her as we are happy with our one beautiful child. We were surprised we had the energy and it’s a great memory.

  22. GianMach Avatar

    My husband and I had been having sex for 7 years before we got married. Getting married is tiring so we really just wanted to rest and sleep when we got home.

  23. Thejackme Avatar

    I was so sick so we watched The Mentalist and Bones in bed at the hotel whilst we listened to our families party on. The 12yrs following our wedding have made up for it though.

  24. WestBrink Avatar

    Was dog tired, went to bed, slept great

  25. Sawfish1212 Avatar

    First time, a little awkward, both too eager, rushed when we should have gone slower with the pregame activities. Never actually finished that night or the next day, but not for a lack of trying, ended up happy and exhausted each time after 45 min or so. Happily married 26 years now and still almost every night.

  26. frogmicky Avatar

    Nothing happened lol 😆😆

  27. VocationFumes Avatar

    we were honestly way too drunk to do it that night lol

  28. Honest-Bridge-7278 Avatar

    I didn’t do it. We went through cards and gifts, ate, chatted, and slept. 

  29. ajame5 Avatar

    We got so drunk that my wife ended up asking what my name was and which room I was staying in, before passing out. Kind of ruined the moment.

  30. prettyupsidedown Avatar

    well, sex was something we had been doing with each other for years so it wasn’t something we felt we missed out on. We didn’t get home from the after party until like 3am so sex was not in the schedule that day.

  31. _gega Avatar

    It’s such a weird thing that in the us weddings end around midnight. In most countries in Europe if it’s a medium or large wedding it’s common to last til 4-6 am

  32. Murphs121 Avatar

    We were exhausted, no sex happened it all took place the morning after instead.

  33. DeaddyRuxpin Avatar

    We were too tired to worry about “consummating” the marriage. Not that it mattered since we had been together for five years of consummating our brains out.

  34. Ok_Accountant1891 Avatar

    My husband got trashed. My mom helped me get him to bed and left. I undressed him while he was already asleep then stood in the kitchen in my dress eating leftovers. We were both very satisfied with how the night turned out, really. It was fun and I didn’t mind not having sex that night or that he was trashed. I also didn’t mind that the entire day was an actual disaster. Its a fun story we tell.

  35. TN_UK Avatar

    First wife, she was too tired. Second wife, she was too drunk. To be very very fair, second wife Took It To Heart in the morning and said, Don’t Worry. You’re not going down that road again.

    And she took care of business

  36. Evening-Dinner2457 Avatar

    It was midnight left mid party for her to change. We get up the room and I make a move while she is changing. She is on the side of the bed and my belt buckle is just clanking on the bed frame. We had an air b&b. I had been drinking since 10 am. I go about 20 minutes and she is like let me get top. She goes again for another 20 and cums, and looks and me like are you close? I’m like nope I can’t finish. I had whiskey dick for 40 minutes and stayed strong for her the whole time but not myself.

  37. Ed-Box Avatar

    Too drunk and tired. we counted this gift money and fell asleep. This happened to most couples ive discussed this with 😂

  38. yermawn Avatar

    20 years married and still waiting for the wedding night sex

  39. SteelMagnolia412 Avatar

    We had sex but it was standard faire. Nothing too crazy or over the top since we were both so tired. My husband spent over 15 minutes undoing the 55 covered buttons on the back of my dress so it was a matter of principle for us to do the deed. Afterwards we changed into sweats and he helped me take the Bobby pins out of my hair. We didn’t have sex the next day because we were so sore from dancing and standing all day.

    The smartest choice we made was to wait 3 weeks to go on our honeymoon. We were rested, packed, prepped and ready to go. That sex was amazing. Even though we had been together for 4 years at that point it was like a whole new experience every time. Vacation sex is the best.

  40. gigashadowwolf Avatar

    After spending 40 minutes trying to get her dress off, I ended up tearing it off… Then we promptly went to sleep.

  41. AdjectiveNoun1369 Avatar

    We rented a beach house for our wedding and slipped away to our bedroom as the reception was winding down. We had great sex — not the best we’d ever had, but still great — then passed the hell out.

    All in all I’d say it was about what we expected. It wasn’t like we’d waited for marriage, but it was still important to us that we had sex on our wedding night and we made sure to check that box.

  42. asicarii Avatar

    I only had a few drinks…. She had more than enough but was still ready to go. Fucked her in her wedding dress. Worth it.

  43. Trolldad_IRL Avatar

    It was great, but not the best ever.

    We didn’t live together before we got married so we weren’t going at it all the time, but often enough. We had rented an apartment for our future and alternated staying there every few days, but not at the same time. We also agreed to abstain for a month before, to kinda “reset”. We had a lot of champagne that night so we were well buzzed by the time we got to our new apartment, but not at so far gone we could not perform. It was our first time in OUR apartment, in OUR bedroom, so it was pretty special.

  44. nivekreclems Avatar

    There’s something better about drunkenly fuckin your wife compared to your girlfriend

  45. Cloud_Matrix Avatar

    Laziest sex we ever had because of how exhausted we were from the days events. If wedding sex wasn’t supposed to be a special thing, we probably would have just gone to bed.

  46. boymadefrompaint Avatar

    My brother-in-law came back to the hotel with us. He insisted on buying KFC and we watched a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles marathon for about 2 hours before he left and we went to sleep.

  47. joecpa1040 Avatar

    I was sick. This was a second wedding for both of us, so it was a extremely small event. but that moring I woke up not feeling the greatest. We drove 3 hours to where we were getting married, and I just got worse and worse. After the ceremony we drove 2 hours to stay at a hotel near the airport, I got to the room and went straight to bed like at 9pm. Woke up the next morning at 4am to catch our 6am flight, still not feeling great. We got on the plane and “due to mechanical issues” our flight was delayed. Caught another flight about 2 hours later and landed in Miami only to find that our connecting flight had already left and the next flight wasn’t for 8 hours. So I got to sit in an uncomfortable waiting area for 8 hours. We finally land in St Lucia at like midnight, had to find a ride to our hotel 1 hour away. So again we get to our room and we both went straight to bed. Luckily the next day I felt better. We enjoyed a day on the beach and some great food, and later that evening we enjoyed each other.

    Was it the best sex ever yes and no. Sex with a rando or whatnot is one thing. Sex with a person you love more than anything else in the world is on another level by many orders of magnitude. So ya, it was pretty soul touching.

  48. acekingoffsuit Avatar

    There was none. My ex and I were so exhausted from the day and everything that went into it that we were both out within an hour of getting to the hotel room.

  49. pickleranger Avatar

    I think we did have extremely tired “we have to” kind of sex.

    The honeymoon sex in Mexico was much better.

  50. EastCoaet Avatar

    She was asleep when I came out of the shower. That set the tone for the next ten years before I filed for divorce.

  51. ignore-me-plz Avatar

    We didn’t on our wedding night – we waited a couple days until we were on our honeymoon! We were too tired on our wedding night (though we di soak our feet and talk about the day together). The few days after we were hosting family and friends who came in from out of town. It was extra special consummating on our honeymoon as it was the first time we travelled out of the country together (without others).

  52. DM725 Avatar

    It was pretty similar to the sex the 100+ times together prior to that night.

  53. Stinger_20 Avatar

    Was the only time I’ve ever blacked out drinking so no sex occurred. Had our friends back to our hotel room to drink after the reception and everyone kept giving me drinks. Wife still gives me shit for it 🙃

  54. XanderAcorn Avatar

    I get married next month! I’ll let you know!

  55. mydeadface Avatar

    Nothing happened, we were tired. But the honeymoon was a different story X 7.

  56. monkey_trumpets Avatar

    I (wife) felt gross so we just rested and I think watched a movie, then went to sleep. That’s ok, we’ve definitely consummated the marriage plenty since then.

  57. Nemezis88 Avatar

    We watched The Texas Chainsaw Massacre (2003) 😂

  58. peperonipyza Avatar

    Pretty sure most people tend to not actually have sex on their wedding night. Or at least it’s normal not to. It’s a super long and tiring day, usually get up super early, get drunk and absolutely exhausted by the end of the night.

  59. KoLobotomy Avatar

    Terrible. Wedding night was the first time for either of us. She was suddenly hit by intense guilt from the nonsense purity CULTure we both grew up in.

  60. Numerous1 Avatar

    Ours was pretty great. We had some pretty awesome sex that night, and in the morning, then hopped into an uber for the honeymoon. 

  61. LinkedAg Avatar

    Had sex in the limo otw to the airport for the honeymoon. Best sex of my life.

  62. PeculiarLooking Avatar

    What sex there was no sex

  63. UniquelyUnamed Avatar

    We waited til the weeding night to have sex and it was awful. It never improved. It’s been 23 long years.

  64. uselesshandyman Avatar

    We had dressed up in our best underwear so we felt like we had to. It was one and done because my wife also had the toothache from hell at the same time. So I spent the rest of the night running back and forth to the drugstore for different painkillers. The next day we headed straight to the dentist.

  65. EndlesslyUnfinished Avatar

    Of all my married friends, only a few managed to have sex that first night. People just assume, but apparently it’s a normal thing to not get freaky after an 18hr day of makeup, anxiety, drinking, and photos

  66. thehippos8me Avatar

    We stayed at the El Cortez in Las Vegas…it was the sketchiest hotel room. My husband broke out in full Jody hives at 3 am and I had to go hunt down Benadryl for him. Once that calmed down we had sex real quick on the couch, and then slept on top of the covers because we did not want to see what could’ve been hiding underneath.

    0/10 recommend lmao

    We never did have an official honeymoon. We’ve been married 7 years and have 2 young kids. Our oldest was 9 months old when we married. However, we have had way better sex before and after that lmao.

  67. throwtheamiibosaway Avatar

    No time, no energy. Rarely happens.

  68. illcryifiwan2 Avatar

    We went to bed at 3am so there was no nookie. Then my mother came home with us for the next few days… so more no-nookie.

  69. Dirt-Southern Avatar

    We didn’t even have sex that night, we helped clean up everything and put on a movie and went to bed lol. (We had been together 8 years. Sex really wasn’t on the mind after a long day.)

  70. blutigetranen Avatar

    Didn’t even have it. We were too drunk and tired from the reception

  71. Litenpes Avatar

    So sad to hear couples aren’t having wedding night consummation anymore

  72. sanderstj Avatar

    My wife was hammered and didn’t remember any of it

  73. Loverboy_Talis Avatar

    Sex on wedding night?

    Who can be bothered? We were too exhausted to do anything afterwards.

  74. SalamanderNo3781 Avatar

    It took my wife a month to get comfortable enough for penetration. So either insanely sensitive or prior trauma.

  75. TehluvEncanis Avatar

    I was 30 weeks pregnant with our first and it definitely wasn’t the best, lol. I was determined to consummate our wedding night, though, dammit.

  76. apdml1919 Avatar

    Too tired to do it and was too busy packing our things for our travel outside the country.

  77. xutopia Avatar

    We had sex with her tiara on. It was honestly meaningful because it was the first time we had sex as a married couple but nothing crazy because we were so tired!

  78. warmwinter1 Avatar

    no we were so tired plus we had a flight the next morning

  79. Rich_Hamster5445 Avatar

    Honestly nothing happened, bcz you will be so much tired.. the real game starts after that😂

  80. Maire13 Avatar

    You were exhausted. I tore my wedding dress off and sait in a hot bath while we snacked on the dinners that the guests who didn’t make it left and the venue put in our room since we were starving and never got a chance to eat!

  81. Impulsespeed37 Avatar

    What we expected, yes. We didn’t expect it to be great. That’s just silly, it’s real life not a movie. Life is absurd and goofy and sometimes a person is tired and horny and all that. We were not good but we were still having fun.

    As an aside: my spouse had a lot more anxiety about getting pregnant. Like she looks back and realizes how much that simple idea really affected her. Even after getting pregnant she still was anxious. Like she was somehow going to get ‘secret double pregnant’ or something. Not long after our second child – I had surgery that is similar to a vasectomy. Afterwards, I could still have kids, but it was like statistically unlikely ~ 7% or something. That changed everything and wow what a great improvement. She relaxed and became a lot more confident, enthusiastic, and relaxed. The lesson is to address your emotions and insecurities.

  82. Sad-Afternoon8244 Avatar

    Honestly my wife and I were not really planning on having sex on our wedding night. That being said it happened organically, and while it was not ground breaking (we were also drunk), it was a pleasant surprise (for us both) and start to our lives.

  83. dicke_radieschen Avatar

    If you were still able to have sex that night, then the party wasn’t good.

  84. Zakarus97 Avatar

    Didn’t happen I was so drunk I separated all the presents and cards from each other. We have no idea who gave us what. While sitting in my boxers in front of my nan.

  85. colemada5 Avatar

    Oh man, we were hammered. We did get some in, but it was more like “we have to do something, it’s our wedding night…morning”. After we got back home a few days later we made up for it.

  86. crasho7 Avatar

    We got into an argument. He called me names and went to bed. I sat outside, wondering if I made a mistake.

    I did make a mistake. It lasted for 5 years.

  87. MopingPoping Avatar

    Non existent..we had been up since 7am and didn’t get to bed till around 1am. We kissed, said “good job”, and went to bed. Weddings are tough, I’d say it’s better to let each other off the hook and plan to not do anything and save it for a day or two later.

    This is as a person with no religious rules, so sex wasn’t a new thing for us. If it’s new for you/you wait till marriage, that’s on you to figure out.

  88. Azyall Avatar

    My period started the day before. Heavy bleeding and posh hotel room plus wedding day tiredness made it a complete non-starter. But we’d been doing the deed for a couple of years before then, so it would only have been a symbolic shag anyway.

  89. BarkingAtTheGorilla Avatar

    Is wedding night sex really a thing in 2025? I mean really?

    My relationship with my wife and my partner (poly) started with sex. Not a date, not romance, no courting… Sex. We meet the same exact day, same exact time, starting a new job together, in training. We talked at breaks and during work occasionally, and we were all very attracted to one another. Then one evening, before work was over, they asked if I want to come over and fuck… That started “us”… 30 years later we still fuck like minx. We had no desire to “marry”, we all think it’s just a piece of paper that doesn’t mean shit except for certain benefits (like income tax and getting on employer insurance together). The only reason that my wife and I married was because she got breast cancer, her insurance was shit, and I wanted to get her on my employer insurance to pay for it… We weren’t married for about 12 years or so of our relationship. So neither of us expected “wedding sex” to be any different than our normal sex of YEARS before it… and it wasn’t, it was just fantastic as always.

    Being 2025, where the VAST majority of couples have been having sex long before that get married, I can’t see it being any different for anyone. You’re merely doing what you’ve already done. Of course, spending as much money on a wedding as many people do, you might want to think of it as better for spending all that money 🤣

  90. SmolWarlock Avatar

    Pretty much all day. We just had a small ceremony in a park. Got back to my apartment, immediately fucked. Got changed then drove to the cabin we were renting. Fucked again. Went out and got some food I forgot and made a three course meal for us. Fucked again. The. Hung out on the porch and fucked again. The next day, not so much, that was the day for kayaking and hiking and shit.

  91. Silver-Wealth816 Avatar

    When I get married I will tell you (I am single as fuck)

  92. dragontatman95 Avatar

    Reading all these comments, it’s very obvious why we have a declining birth rate.

    People just don’t seem to be interested in sex anymore.