We’ve been dating for almost 5 months now. Idk why, but in the beggining when we first started talking, I saw his exes pictures and for some reason I had a gut feeling and didn’t like his last gf.
Last month, he left his phone beside the bed when he went to open the door for the dogs and I saw that his ex was asking if he was already up. Then one day I saw she was calling him. Then I asked him and he said that she calls him everyday on her way to work and on her way to home. And still texts him throughout the day.
Since then we keep getting into an argument because of her. I don’t like her. He says she is only a friend. According to him, he broke up with her because she drinks a lot and they’re better as friends. He said he won’t stop talking to his friends because I won’t tell him what to do and he won’t tell me what I do. He swore that he had no feelings for her. How do trust him?
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Well. I wouldn’t have a bf who talked to his ex girlfriend every day. The effort he puts into her!
she’s already needing him first thing in the morning and waiting for him to wake up and the effort it his for him to fight about it with you…..in fact it seems he’s willing to lose you.
And do you think a woman would be calling him to and from work if he was telling her that he’s into another woman? What do you think he’s telling her?
5 months. Nah.
He’s right, you can’t tell him what to do and what friends to keep. He’s told you he’s keeping her. It doesn’t sound like he’s concerned about your feelings whatsoever. When a man is into his woman, he doesn’t talk 2 x a day minimum to another woman and one who’s his ex. He would feel it’s wrong.
I’d stop considering him my bf, I’d probably soon feel glad I realized he’s not that into me.
I’d end this. Even if they truly stayed good friend after breaking up that’s a lot of communication
Here’s how you deal with this: don’t date men (or women) who are chummy friends with their exes. Cordial? Sure. Friendly in social settings? Okay. Calling twice a day every day and texting throughout? Nope. I don’t even do that with my closest friends, what is he, in high school?