When this woman comes to my house of a toddler while I’m 8.5 months pregnant you’d think extra adult hands would mean half the mess. How is my house twice as messy?!
She waits until I am 80% finished with a task to offer to help. Example: I was dumping my daughter’s laundry into the wash and she asked if I wanted help. Help with what??? Pressing start? Cmon! “Help” would be noticing her laundry is full, taking initiative, & starting it without anyone asking.
One time she offered to put clean sheets on my bed and then proceeded to ASK ME IF I CAN SHOW HER HOW TO DO IT?! Why wouldn’t I just do it myself at that point.
Dishes don’t get done. She lets my toddler drag her toys outside and dirt into the house. And then leaves it for me to clean up.
I remember I was also very very pregnant the first time she came to my house. I was scrubbing dog piss off the rug while she stood over me asking which dog did it??? Like it mattered. Making commentary like she couldn’t believe it — we had an elderly dog at the time so it definitely wasn’t a shocker. Go away lol.
Side issue unrelated – whenever she walks next to me she like cuts me off or gets super close to my shoulders where I have no space to breathe and if I move sides she ends up walking in front of me to also be near me. SHE DRIVES ME NUTS.
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I can’t stand someone in my personal space like that.
Not my MIL (who I’ve been NC for 10 years) but my friend’s wife is like that. All up in my face and space
Omg I could have written this myself
I just have to comment on the walking next to you thing. My husband does that me. I call it herding. I usually stop for a second and let him go in front of me and then I just keep traveling on my path. And he always seems confused, like he is wondering where I went…