Hi all, not sure if im in the right place to post but anyway. So I always wear long pants, always. I havent worn shorts in years. Im not happy with my legs (muscle mass) and have had various ongoing injuries over the years including one really bad one right now. And then I also broke my toe at the start of the year so I obviously couldn’t train legs for that period (did leg extensions and hamstring stuff as this is ok with a broken toe, but still lost a little size in my calves, not huge but still plays on my mind)I hit and do legs as hard and as much as I can but given the pain Im in 24/7 I just cant train them as hard and make the same progress in my upper body. They’re definitely not twig legs but not something Im happy with, not yet. So my upper body is more muscular than my lower. That being said im never full satisfied with my upper body either. I would hate to think people would think Im a leg day skipper when this is simply so not true and I want solid legs more than anything. Anyway to compensate, I always wear long pants, looser ones too. And I wear loose t shirts. I live in Australia so its always pretty hot and people are always asking why Im in long pants, friends give me a bit of shit how im never in shorts and I know family probably thinking why is he always wearing long pants even in the heat. I know my girlfriend also wishes I would wear shorts sometimes, and I do understand that. Sometimes this makes me a bit self conscious. Anyway cut to the chase, im going away with some mates for a weekend. Of course I will wear long pants while they probably all wear shorts and they will say dude its so hot why are you wearing long pants again, its fine though I usually just say its what I like. But the real problem for me is the beach. My long pants are not coming off but I can also hardly wear long pants to the beach…right…? I mean even I admit I would probably look silly. (No I wouldn’t be swimming anyway) whats the alternative, do I make an excuse to stay at the apartment while the rest of them go and say I feel sick or something? The beach is one place I wouldn’t really have an excuse not to wear shorts, from their perspective anyway. If I said I didnt bring shorts they would probably think well who wouldn’t bring shorts to where we are going and offer me one of theres instead to head to the beach in. What am I supposed to do? Does anyone else have any similar experiences ?
Wearing long pants in the heat? Help
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First off, you need to let go of this need to impress people with your legs. No one cares what your legs look like, so there’s no need to hide them. Some people just have skinny legs and there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’re insecure to the point you can’t even go swimming at the beach, that’s a problem, mate. No shame in having insecurities, but you should consider working on unpacking them with a therapist.
That being said, there’s nothing wrong with liking long pants in the heat. It’s actually better for sun protection. Just make sure you’re wearing pants in a loose weave for better breathability. I’d recommend linen pants in a looser cut for maximum comfort in the heat. You can also look at technical trousers made with synthetic material. I wear Patagonia Terrebonne joggers when I’m on trail, but if you prefer a trouser cut, I can recommend Mountain Hardwear Trail Sender pants or Outdoor Research Ferrosi pants.
First, grown men shouldn’t wear shorts unless it’s for a specific purpose. Don’t just walk around your life in shorts. You’re an adult, put on pants.
But really, this seems like body dysmorphia. Who gives a shit how big your legs are? The real answer is, nobody but you. This is a delusional insecurity. Stop it.
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I wear shorts always. I never wear pants. – 30 out? Shorts.
Dude, no one cares about your legs, and even if someone made a comment about it, who cares.
If it means anything, I’m fat, and have no problem taking off my shirt at the beach or anywhere else that is appropriate to do so. I literally have stretch marks and shit. Someone asked me one time about them in a snide way thinking they would insult or embarrass me. Nah, I owned it and said “Stretch marks? Naw, those are tiger stripes. Better watch out foo.”