Weddings are not enjoyable and are a pain in the ass to attend.

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Unless it’s one’s own wedding or a close family member, weddings are generally not a fun social event. They’re expensive (especially if one has to fly out of the state or country to attend) and requires quite a bit of forced socialization. It’s fun for extroverts who enjoy chatting and getting to know people. Sitting for hours possibly, listening to the couple proclaim their love for each other, the horrible music…it’s all just a drag and an experience that is unnecessary.

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  2. HammunSy Avatar

    its become more of a means of showing off these days

  3. SjakosPolakos Avatar

    Yeah. Quite often not fun and overpriced

  4. sadsolocup Avatar

    Even a family member’s isn’t all that enjoyable.

    Went to a cousin’s last year. It was mostly the bride and groom’s friends with very few relatives. It was just a big party for their friends and felt so out of place. Did have so much to drink to make up for it. Was also seated next to the bar so I wasn’t too upset.

  5. Samael13 Avatar

    Definitely unpopular with me; I love weddings. A chance to celebrate someone I like, attend a big party with a bunch of people, and dance into the night with fun songs? Sign me up. I’ve never been to a wedding where the ceremony lasted hours, though. That would be bananas.

    I’ve also never felt like I was obligated to attend a wedding; if I didn’t want to go, I just wouldn’t go. I’ve declined to attend out of state weddings because I thought it was too expensive. Life went on.

  6. _AskMyMom_ Avatar

    >It’s fun for extroverts who enjoy chatting and getting to know people.

    Also fun for introverts who enjoy being social. But realistically, how many weddings are you going to where this is an opinion? Lol

    You like weddings when you know people, but don’t like weddings for social events. But weddings aren’t inherently “social events” like something you say on a Friday night “let’s go to wedding, it’ll be fun”. You’re invited for a reason.

  7. Uhhyt231 Avatar

    I think y’all have just never been to a good wedding 😭
    Do you enjoy any parties?

  8. TraditionalTackle1 Avatar

    My wifes family are evangelical and their weddings are dry. Talk about boring! I find reasons not to go.

  9. PulIthEld Avatar

    Honestly it depends on the wedding. Weddings can be hella fun or absolute torture.

  10. AngelsLoveDisasters Avatar

    I thought this until I was a bridesmaid in a wedding last month. The actual ceremony was pretty quick, cue pictures then open bar and a dance floor. If you wanted out, you could be out within an hour.

  11. MidnightDreamer_6 Avatar

    Agreed. Of course, my close family and friends’ weddings were a blast because I was involved in them and actually enjoyed being around a solid amount of the people who attended, but as an introvert who doesn’t drink, I dread going to weddings that I don’t know anyone but the couple at (ugh, I have one to attend this summer).

  12. Anxious-Fun8829 Avatar

    I am an classic introvert, like I would rather stay home with a good book and my cats over pretty much anything, and even I enjoy weddings.

    Granted, I’ve only ever been invited to weddings of close friends and families. Weddings are so expensive that most people I know aren’t inviting people for the sake of having a large audience. It’s fun to get dressed up, see all my families get dressed up, and just act fancy and celebrate love for awhile. I’m always very grateful to the bride and groom for providing that opportunity.

  13. QuasarSGB Avatar

    I always have fun at weddings.  There’s an open bar, pretty decent food, and dancing.  Yoi get to dress up and party.  Just treat it like any other fun night out.

  14. CeeCeeOct23 Avatar

    I don’t think your opinion is unpopular. Lots and lots and lots of people feel the same way you do and they don’t go to the weddings. People who love weddings do go to the weddings. I like weddings, but I will not go to a destination wedding. But other than that, I don’t find them expensive… I only attend the weddings of people I care about so I don’t mind getting a gift and dressing nice.

  15. Ejmct Avatar

    Mostly not a lot of fun and more aggregation than they are worth. Once in a while I attend a decent one but mostly a waste of money for bad food and a mediocre time.

  16. XanderAcorn Avatar

    Except for the cake! Whenever I’m invited to a wedding, I always ask what type of cake they will have. Thats the decider in if I will go or not.

  17. Fancy_Environment133 Avatar

    Our small circle of acquaintances are mostly divorced. None of which have the desire to re-marry. We are in our mid 50’s and don’t socialise with younger people who may want to marry. We have politely declined wedding invitations in the past.

  18. spark5665 Avatar

    I think skipping straight to the reception would make things so much better.

  19. cwcam86 Avatar

    I liked weddings a lot more when I was single and my goals were to get drunk and try to hook up with someone. I was always at least 50% successful. Now that I’m old and married they aren’t as fun.

  20. rollercostarican Avatar

    I guess this is basically “I don’t like parties where I don’t know everyone there already and weddings force me into that situation.”

    I’ll upvote cuz I have a blast at most weddings. Open bar, dancing, food. I dunno lol.

  21. Maleficent_Can_4773 Avatar

    Ceremonies = most boring event ever. Receptions however are extremely fun.

  22. RootedRebel Avatar

    I agree, I hate weddings. Had to go to one last spring.. sucked.

  23. Jerico_Hellden Avatar

    But if you’re just going to be a face in the crowd say no thanks. I’ve been invited to five weddings. I’ve only attended two of them. This seems like a non-issue.

  24. FunImprovement166 Avatar

    This is one of those opinions that is unpopular in real life but really popular on Reddit.

  25. BuddyBrownBear Avatar

    Maybe you just aren’t a fun person?

  26. sofaking_scientific Avatar

    Plus you gotta give a big gift for some luke warm mediocre food

  27. kn0tkn0wn Avatar

    The can be great. But way too often they are awful.

  28. I-Am-Really-Bananas Avatar

    I never go. Write a cheque as a gift. No one seems upset in the last 20 years.

  29. OhAces Avatar

    Horrible music? The last wedding I went to the ceremony was at a fancy cocktail bar and the reception was in the speaker testing lab of a festival speaker manufacturing facility. The groom is a well known dnb producer and the bride part owns the speaker company. More than half the wedding was djs and producers and we all took turns playing music on n a massive rig in a perfectly tuned room with BBQ ribs, brisket, and chicken for dinner.

    You’re just going to boring people’s weddings.

  30. BigBranch61 Avatar

    I don’t go for the actual wedding, I go for the reception afterwards.

  31. Garfield_and_Simon Avatar

    I like them on occasion. I’d say one a year is pushing it.

    Holy shit late 20s early 30s sucks though going to everyone’s wedding 

  32. Single_Waltz395 Avatar

    I’m a massive introvert and agree.  I’ve always found it odd that people throw themselves a massive party and you are supposed to attend and act like they are royalty lording over everyone else.  It’s weird.  They then get all their friends to make speeches about how awesome they are, and their day will be ruined if, god forbid, someone brings a kid or some other stupid thing happens that actually makes the wedding memorable in any way.  

    When I got married I told my wife I wanted one thing and one thing only.  A fun wedding that was just a big hang out party with friends and family .  I didn’t want speeches, I didn’t want to force people to listen to endless droning and talking and self-praise when we could be eating, drinking, dancing and enjoying each others company.  

    Unfortunately, most people are basic and don’t have any imagination or original thoughts in their head. So their idea of wedding is very much the “we will pay for you all to come praise us and listen to long speeches about us” ego-centric weddings.  And they are painful and boring for the vast majority of time.

    I honestly can barely remember any wedding I’ve been to.  I know I’ve gone…that it happened…but that’s it.  Couldn’t tell you one single thing other than that about most weddings I’ve ever been too, they are all just the same.   Meanwhile, 20+ years later people will still bring up our wedding and how it was one of the best they’ve ever been to.  It wasn’t super expensive, it wasn’t super fancy…it was just a fun party where people actually felt welcome and like they were part of the fun rather than an audience or background players in some strange ritual or show.  Observe but stay distant!  You are not one of the head table chosen few!  Don’t ruin this!

    The one wedding I actually remember to this day was my cousin’s wedding which is what inspired me.  They just booked out a local restaurant/pub, and had zero formalities.  Come have fun and celebrate WITH us as friends fun family, rather than be subjects to our court.

  33. atinylittlebug Avatar

    I love weddings 🙁

  34. Then-Yam-2266 Avatar

    Man, and here I am sad that most of my wedding days are over for a while. My late 20’s through my 30’s were great. It was like 1-2 a year. Loved them.

  35. Brief_Buddy_7848 Avatar

    Agreed, I’m SO happy for the people in my life that get married, but I don’t want to go to the wedding. I will go anyway to support them because it’s important to them, and I will go with a smile on my face and in my heart for them, but 100% of the time I secretly would rather be doing something else. It’s just not how I want to spend my social energy bandwidth.

  36. Round_Yogurtcloset41 Avatar

    Going to them is nothing, try and plan one. Now THAT is a pain in the ass.

  37. SnarkyFool Avatar

    I mean, you can always say no…

    I usually enjoy them. The only peeve I have is when people have a destination wedding without a long lead time for planning. We tend to plan trips, especially international ones, far in advance to manage costs and get the best flight and hotel options

  38. bgm69 Avatar

    I’m kind of with you, kinda not. A wedding of a friend or someone you care about with lots of people you’re fond of in attendance is great. Especially if it’s an open bar. Being dragged as a plus one to a wedding for people you barely know or maybe don’t know at all is the absolute worst…. And yeah, most weddings the least you can give to cover your meal for yourself and your partner is $200….

    I’m getting married in a few months and honestly I can’t wait for it to be OVER. I tried getting my fiance to do a laid back, cheap event with only close friends and family, and she wouldn’t budge. Our parents were both extraordinarily generous (in my eyes). Between both our parents, we were given $45k for the wedding. They both said it’s ours whether we spend it all or not. I begged and begged and begged my fiance to consider having a small, laid back wedding that’s cheap and easy.. It’d be amazing to get married and maybe pocket $20k or more to start our lives as a married couple. That’s a nice down payment on a new home or car upgrade. She wanted the big wedding with everyone we’ve ever met that costs $60k. That may come off as a red flag to some, and it certainly pisses me off every day I think about spending $5-10k out of pocket as opposed to making money for something that is over in the blink of an eye…. But it’s every girls life long dream. It’s what she wanted her whole life, it’s what her friends did, it’s what she knows.

    Sorry folks, had to vent about it. Kinda went off there.

  39. smokey380sfw Avatar

    I’d reverse this weddings are fun to attend but a pain if it’s your wedding or you’re involved in the wedding in any way.

  40. diecorporations Avatar

    Ive only been to like 4 of these disaster events in my life. Each was was a total bore and hope to never get invited to on ever again. And yes, the music !!!!!! Horrrrrribbbbbbbblllllleeeee.

  41. SupaSaiyajin4 Avatar

    mine would have a lot of pierce the veil music, an emo theme, and a casual dress code. also good food. no cake there will be multiple flavors of pie instead

  42. Icy-Aioli-2549 Avatar

    Hard disagree. I am an introvert and I LOVE weddings. Dressing up, seeing my friends be in love, hearing all the nice things people say about them, eating and drinking for free, fun dancing! SIGN ME UP!

  43. enginerd2024 Avatar

    Hard agree. Hate receptions

  44. TacoGuyDave Avatar

    I agree 100%! Marriage and weddings are overrated and outdated. The US government should not give additional tax breaks to married couples. Common law marriage should also not exist. If marriage is not for personal religious beliefs, just be a couple and avoid the financial hardship and complications of divorce. when you split up. Weddings themselves are also a waste of money. Very few people are going to remember anything special about a wedding. The money spent could be used to secure housing or a better financial future. I’ll add in that anyone that plans an outdoor wedding when its 85 or higher outside should be condemned.

  45. Xokanuleaf Avatar

    I’m going to start a daily count of all the anti-wedding, anti-marriage, or anti-relationship posts on here.

    This isn’t an unpopular opinion.

  46. Normal-Check-848 Avatar

    Tacos, booze & music at my wedding. Didn’t see anybody complaining except a couple of the older aunts.

  47. Jdanois Avatar

    Weddings are the best! Free food, free drinks, and a built in dance party. You’re munching on hors d’oeuvres, sipping something strong, and tearing up the dance floor like a maniac. All while people watching with your spouse and quietly judging outfits, speeches, and dance moves like it’s a sport. Oh, and yeah… love. Weddings are great!

  48. Powerful-Gear-1213 Avatar

    This is a true unpopular opinion take my upvote

  49. WantWantShellySenbei Avatar

    Depends. Some are a blast, but some are a real bore. I think it depends on how relaxed it is and whether the guests are the kind of people who are welcoming to strangers and can let their hair down.

    Went to two weddings last year, one Glasweigian-French one which was great fun, one filled with London pseudo-creative cliquey types which was awful.

  50. Complete_Aerie_6908 Avatar

    I think they are fun, but I love seeing people happy, so ….

  51. thecdiary Avatar

    get invited to an indian wedding.

  52. Subject988 Avatar

    Agree. That’s part of why I didn’t have a wedding. Also because I didn’t really have anyone to invite, but like… I rarely enjoy weddings… so I didn’t really feel like making my friends feel obligated to sit and watch me.

  53. AppropriateTough6168 Avatar

    I’ve never even been to a wedding I think they sound awesome 😭

  54. Co-flyer Avatar

    If you think a wedding suck, just wait till your friends start getting divorced and telling you about it.

    Have as much fun at the wedding as you can.

  55. tboy160 Avatar

    I have a blast at almost every wedding I attend. But I like socializing, dancing and drinking so…

  56. Tagin42 Avatar

    Agreed. I try to get out of them when I can.

  57. glittersparklesglitz Avatar

    I agree with this so hard that I eloped!

  58. Immaboomer Avatar

    You gotta get a permit at a national park so everyone can go hiking and sight seeing

  59. Square-Classic616 Avatar

    There are always single chicks though.

  60. RevolutionaryRow1208 Avatar

    I’ve only ever attended weddings of my very close friends and family…they’ve all been fantastic. I don’t bother getting to know people because I already know the majority of people there as they’re all in the same circle of friends.

  61. StrawbraryLiberry Avatar
  62. air_wrecka_77 Avatar

    My husband and I have attended 24 weddings in the 7 years we’ve been together…. I don’t hate weddings, but they all feel the same now, there’s no original ideas anymore because we’ve seen it all. Even things you’d think are unique are not: we’ve gone to 4 weddings with “beer boys,” Bruno Mars has been played by every DJ, we’ve gone to three weddings where the bride and groom took rapid photos with every table in the time of one song, and all first dances and wedding party entrances are cringe. My husband and I fancy ourselves as wedding critics now. Now we’re starting to see the divorces from the weddings.

  63. BoltsGuy02 Avatar

    What a selfish take

  64. CrochetBass Avatar

    But open bars, though

  65. Alarming-Guess-8965 Avatar

    This is in no way an unpopular opinion.

  66. Ornamental-Plague Avatar

    Sounds like you go to boring weddings

  67. Jioto Avatar

    Crazy idea here. Don’t go? It’s not necessary to go. lol you CAN say no.

  68. Deceptiv_poops Avatar

    How does this get posted every week. You can rsvp no to weddings my guy. We get it, you’re socially awkward and hate music.

  69. Asymmetrical_Anomaly Avatar

    It’s fun for blowhards who love ranting on about how great they are

  70. tkecanuck341 Avatar

    I hate weddings. Always have.

    It’s really the only celebration where you are pretty much mandated to attend. If I politely decline a friend’s wedding invitation, then I’m an asshole. If I begrudgingly accept, but don’t bring a gift, then I’m still an asshole.

    These days, I just no longer care about being an asshole and decline with a note saying “I’ll come to your next wedding.”

  71. Krimmothy Avatar

    So just to clarify, OP you’re basically saying that traveling is expensive and parties aren’t fun for people who dislike parties.

    Any other hot takes you want to add?

  72. Usual-Language-745 Avatar

    I think the religious angle and how instagram obsessed the bride is are the two biggest factors either way. If you have to sit on a horrible bench for hours while listening to scripture, that’s going to be terrible. If you have to take hundreds of photos or wait in an un-air conditioned barn while they take hundreds of photos, terrible. If you just show up to drink for free with your friends and hook up with a bridesmaid, that’s a good time.

  73. Dirkem15 Avatar

    Two people coming together in marriage is an enormous life event. If you cannot be happy for them and want to celebrate that with them, then dont go – because they dont want you.

  74. lvdde Avatar

    I think if you actually care about the couple all of this kind of goes to the side, not everything is about you and how you like it

  75. YellowstoneBitch Avatar

    I hate a wedding, I’ve never been to a good one.

  76. S2Sallie Avatar

    I’m an introvert & I’ll always be somewhere in a corner chillin by myself but I love weddings.

  77. Zestyclose-Crow-4595 Avatar

    I actually agree with this. It’s worse if you were dragged to it and don’t know the couple very well or at all.

  78. NastySassyStuff Avatar

    This is not unpopular in any way lol…I actually really enjoy weddings but I also find them to be an obnoxious, costly burden at times, especially when you’re part of them.

    For the happy couple it’s one of the biggest days of their lives, but you can have another two biggest days of someone else’s lives in the next few weeks if you’re of the age when people start getting married. It’s hard not to feel a little weary, jaded, and financially put upon when that’s the case.

    And I’m sure many (probably recently or soon-to-be-married) people will say “you know you don’t have to go if you don’t want” but, nah, choosing not to go to certain weddings can be detrimental to important relationships so the pressure to attend is definitely high.

  79. VicePrincipalNero Avatar

    I think it kind of depends. The more over the top and formal, the less fun it is.

  80. AggressiveDistrict82 Avatar

    Agreed. Perhaps I’m just not very extroverted but I don’t even want a wedding for myself. Ship me off to the courthouse I’m not planning anything. It’s stressful, expensive, and I rarely hear anyone rave about how great it was. I’m always hearing people talk about the hundred different things that went wrong and how exhausting it was.

  81. asexualrhino Avatar

    You’re going to the wrong weddings

  82. rockviper Avatar

    Agreed! We had our marriage on the beach and only allowed 20 people to attend. I think the dinner we bought the guests was the most expensive part.

  83. Sitheral Avatar

    I’ve always thought that. I mean, I’ve never been on one but it sounds like pain in the ass, too many people, too drunk, too dumb, like I’ve been at many other events of that scale and rarely enjoyed them as well.

    I think it could be pretty good if you get like… 30 people? But if you get 300… and in all honesty, most of them you barely even know. Yeah, sounds bad.

  84. Many-Passion-1571 Avatar

    I love when people tell on themselves here. Like, okay, you’re a grumpy curmudgeon that doesn’t find joy outside of your own self.

  85. Jqf27 Avatar

    I like to think my wedding was fun. We didn’t even invite anyone over an hour away except family. We just had a big party then we got married real quick during the party. Had it in an old stage theater, bunch of food bars, and drinks, we set groups of friends together and knew who to separate. No one left a moment before it was time to close up! Even our “staff” from the venue partied with us and I have an amazing picture of my mom dancing with the caterers. Just a good time! Our ceremony took 5 minutes and we only allowed one speech/toast. Also no garter or bouquet toss! The only thing I’d change was my hair!

  86. Tiloshikiotsutsuki Avatar

    Just had a friends wedding and have another’s coming up. Can confirm they’re expensive as hell when you’re living on a budget. Love them and wouldn’t miss it, but I could do without all the extra spending

  87. WaterPrestigious1645 Avatar

    Not desi weddings we dance all night.

  88. Shotgun_Rynoplasty Avatar

    Every wedding I’ve been to is different. Some are a blast and some are boring as hell

  89. hektor10 Avatar

    Yup, please don’t invite me. And if you do don’t be mad that I didn’t attend your nothingburger of event…because somehow I am the ass even tho I never ask to be invited.

  90. rr90013 Avatar

    Yep everyone knows this