Honestly, I feel stupid asking this at my age 54F. Anyway, a male colleague 50ish who is very married has started going out of his way to chat, joke around or offer to grab me a coffee. This alone would not raise any flags, it’s more a case of how close he gets and on a couple of occasions has been picking fluff?? off my clothing. Don’t think he’s OCD and havn’t witnessed him doing this with anyone else although he is quite flirtatious in general. I’ve just started to avoid interacting with him at this point as it’s getting quite awkward. Can someone tell me what’s going on here?
Weird colleague interactions?
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He seems to be hitting on you. Have u tried to push him away?
This man is absolutely testing your boundaries and you need to shut it down fast. When someone starts invading your space under the guise of friendliness it’s rarely innocent and offer a power play.
That’s what I thought, nope just avoiding him.
He is attracted to you and is exploring whether or not you are interested in him. If he is married you have to decide if you want to move ahead or not.
Tell on him to eveybody
I’d stop going for coffee or unnecessary things with him. If he gets too close or reaches for you again to “pick fluff” tell him that you have personal space issues, and he is welcome to tell you if you have fluff somewhere, but please don’t touch you.
He’s for sure testing you and it’s not long that he’s going to let you know what he’s wanting. Just avoid him. Always be busy. He will get the hint. If you nip it in the bud then it prevents the awkwardness of it all later.
Tell the truth and say “ never gonna happen “ and be sure everyone hears you!