So I’ve come to terms that I have used my 20s mostly on autopilot. Pretty usual stuff, partying, drinking, clubbing until a few years ago when I started making some changes. Started traveling on my own and started singing which has been a great way to relax and I’ve been performing on different groups at different places.
Last year I made the mistake to leave my job without a backup plan, now I’m on the search of a new job but something has come to my mind. I’ve been thinking of having a family, maybe down the road when I turn 34 or 35. Right now I don’t have much going for me, except that now I have a somewhat career path in mind as a network engineer.
On the other side I also found out I really enjoy being on stage, and people have come to me asking for advice or lessons and I got invited to another bands. We got invited to a local festival o in my city and it was amazing. I feel this is something worth diving into, I have always wanted to be involved in music but had to make choices when money was short.
Now I don’t know where I should put my focus on, I’d like to have both and then add a family if I’m in a good position.
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> career path in mind as a network engineer
This is a completely solid path but you need to realize you have to put in the work and pay your dues, so to speak. No, your job is not going to be glamorous. It’s going to be boring as shit and you’re going to be around boring as shit people. But if you’re good at it you will work your way up the ladder and in 8-10 years be in a cushy VP position.
To do or not to do…. I spent my 20s and early 30s being a chef and drinking and doing and selling drugs. I’m playing catch up at 42 but I’ve got a career and a beautiful little girl. But the experience of traveling and moving all over and making amazing food, being a part of a running amazing teams and partying like we won the Superbowl every night… I don’t regret any of it. It’d be nice to have a house and more money in the 401k.
But I remember talking to people my age around 29, and they hadn’t done so much shit. They just complained about how boring their lives were and how they hated their jobs. My only problem was cocaine and not having more money. But I had enough to live.
I’m not the person to ask advice for this. But I’ll say this, in the words of the great Gibby of the Butthole Surfers,
“Daddy? What does regret mean?”
“Well, son. The thing with regret is, it’s better to regret something you have done instead of something you have not.”
SATAN! SATAN! SATAN! SATAN! SATAN!