I (F/24) met a guy (M/24) on Hinge nearly two years ago. We kissed on our first date and, after a few meetups, had sex. It was my first time; he’s very experienced. When I ask about his past relationships or the kind of women he likes, he avoids the topic but shares freely about his family, career, and goals.
I caught feelings and asked where we stood. Sometimes he’d act indifferent, other times he’d beg to meet. When I asked to get serious, he said no, so I cut contact. A year later, he texted to catch up, and we met and hooked up again. Our pattern is texting when one of us is nearby or occasionally checking in.
Recently, after six months of no contact, we met. He didn’t ask about my absence. During sex, he asked me to perform an act I wasn’t comfortable with, citing “too much friction.” When I declined, he insulted my skills and told me to “take lessons.” He bragged about other partners, like a 40-year-old woman, and said he prefers Russian women over Indians, claiming Indians judge based on looks. He called my friends unattractive but never complimented me, making me wonder if he says the same about me.
We share about family and careers but not his romantic past or feelings. Why does he keep hooking up with me after two years? What am I to him? What does his personality suggest? Please help.
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Strangers on the internet aren’t in any better position than you are for diving into this complete stranger’s brain, and knowing how he ticks, or what his motives are.
But what you DO know is how you feel about the way he acts with you, and what your relationship standards are. Is the way that he’s treated you something you want to address with him, and make sure doesn’t happen again? Or do you feel like a line’s been crossed where you don’t feel comfortable or confident with continuing a casual relationship with him?
Drop me a dm
Honestly just sounds like you’re available to him and he knows it so he’s gonna use you when he wants sex. He’s one of those ones who if you’ll let him will just string you along. Break it off, in reality you don’t mean anything serious to him. You’re basically just there when he’s bored.
Why did you stay casual for several years if you want a serious relationship? You can break up with people
His personality suggests he’s self centered and honestly he doesn’t seem to value women beyond their sex appeal. He will only ever want to use you. Stop bothering with him, he’ll never change or appreciate you.
Good men can be sexual but still will take a no as a no in bed, don’t love bomb, and don’t trash talk other women.