I’m hitting 40 soon, and in truth, I’m nervous. My 30s were awesome but went in a blink. Looking for any positives you’ve all found after 40.
I’m hitting 40 soon, and in truth, I’m nervous. My 30s were awesome but went in a blink. Looking for any positives you’ve all found after 40.
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You find peace with yourself and with who you are.
There is less keeping up with the Joneses as you realise people are rarely honest about money anyway (‘I’ve worked hard for this’ is often a windfall, loan or inheritance).
There is still time to get/be fit.
Relationships are more real. No more pedestals, both partners know what they are looking for.
There are no good things about 40+ other than still being alive.
Depends entirely on your personal situation. There are no objectively good things I can think of about turning 40.
If your thirties were awesome your forties will be awesome barring some major event such as house fire, loss of job, death of loved one, car accident etc. Stay positive and maintain health. You will likely go through a mini mid life crisis but once you come out of it and realize you are no longer viewed as young life is even better because you appreciate things more and get more comfortable with yourself.
I’ve heard that when you hit 40, you stop caring about other people’s opinions and start doing what you truly want.
Would you like a few more variations depending on the tone you want (more casual, motivational, etc.)?
A lot depends on your health and fitness. Muscles can start to ache and joints start to stiffen up in your 40s. Also weight gain can accelerate too. Your hair may start to get whiter. However, if you’re active, eat healthily and keep trim, there isn’t much difference from late 30s.
Personally I found facial wrinkles, skin condition deterioration and hair thinning really kicked in about 45-ish.
The only positive thing for me being older is more respect and responsibility at work. Being seen as a veteran earns me more command in the company I work for.
You’re still young if you stay in shape and exercise, have more wisdom and have money to do stuff you couldn’t do at 30. It’s a pretty good balance, actually.
I think it depends more on your situation rather than your age.
But at around 40 I slowly got a lot more confidence with learning new hobbies, doing projects, some leadership type stuff.
The truth is, it’s just a number. All the stuff about wisdom and blah, blah, blah…that happens at different times for different people. A lot of things happen so slowly you don’t realize it. Depending on the person, it may not feel like much of a difference at all. If you take good care of yourself and make good choices, you’ll be happy. Cheers 🍻
Getting to play on the Lakers with your son
The 40s will be like your 30’s , but with more cash
Id say its more comfortable bc youre more comfortable about who you are and your place in this world.
While I’m not in the best shape of my life, I am stronger than ever. I’ve put on weight finally (130-140 in my 20s and early 30s, up to 180 now) and the wisdom and knowledge of how to use my body has now led me to appreciate what I have. I don’t like the aches and pains, and I am fighting hard to regain my old stamina, but I can still walk miles on end and working a 12 hour shift doesn’t make me flinch. I’ve found peace and balance are key to happiness. Gotta be more mindful of my health, but over all 40 is better than 30 lol
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Based on myself and my circle of friends, if you are going to get a divorce it seems to happen in your 40’s. First half of my 40’s were terrible and at 45 I imploded during my divorce. Took me 3-4 years to bounce back. But found my second wife at 48, we got married a few years later and came out of my 40’s a lot better than I did going in.
For the guys that didn’t need to worry about their marriage, career wise was the optimum decade. Careers went into overdrive. Guys that were group managers at 40 were going into the C-Suite at 50. Friends that owned businesses now had a long enough track record with their bank that they could secure financing to expand or grow their business. One friend went from being worth a million bucks on paper at 40 to being worth $10 million in cash in the bank at 50 when he sold out to a much larger competitor.
I’m not 40 yet but I’ll offer this.
When I hit 21 everyone said the world would change.
Same with your mid 20s.
My friends threw me this embarrassing and garish 30th birthday like I was 16.
And so on.
All of those “milestone” birthdays don’t mean shit. You wake up the next day about the sams dude you were the day before.
As you get older you have more time for family and more money (hopefully) for yourself. Thats about it. I wouldnt sweat it. You’re not changing by miles. Work will still be there and so on.
A lot of good advice here. Go to bed early, wake up and exercise before work. Take a multivitamin, Magnesium, D3 and Creatine. Drink lots of water. Eat smart. Remember, after you die your job and coworkers won’t call you. Focus on your family and friends. Work can wait.
Life becomes real. Real knowledge of your own self, real friendships, real relationships, more thought of ‘what future me would want me to do” (retirement, parenting, etc) the “noise” sort of drops away for a lot of things and you can focus. Not saying that makes anything easy or the realizations are all great, but you become your core self a little deeper.
I started getting value back, out of all those years of paying insurance without having any issues.
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You care less and less about what other people think of you. It’s really liberating.
Just enjoy life and stop thinking about this shit.
“Life really does begin at 40. Until then you are just doing research.” – Carl Jung
It is in the 2nd half of life that one begins to focus on purpose and accept their authentic selves.
You stop giving a shit about stuff that was always unimportant.
It’s not 50
There is nothing special about ages ending in 0. You can take stock of your life at any age.
It’s easy to write as a word. Thirty-nine was such a pain to write.
Start working out and lifting at 40 if you want to have better quality of life into your 50s and 60s.
I’ve found that life makes more sense in my 40s. I understand my wife more. I value my parents more. I understand my place in the world more. I’m a better father than I was in my 30s. I’ve learned how to let go of some unnecessary stress (e.g., things that I cannot control). I value each day. I appreciate the little things like sitting on the deck and watching the squirrels run around.
Our sex life is better too. To put it bluntly, I now appreciate that life is finite, so I value every second of intimacy with my wife. There is nothing better than having a naked woman in your arms, and I do not take it for granted like I did in my younger years.
What’s good about hitting 40 ….. The sweet sweet bliss of just not giving a single fu*k.
By 40 you should know who you are, who your real friends are and what you want in life, everything else is just white noise.
You’re one year older than Jack Benny
Nothing. You can be in denial about aging in your 30’s but by your 40’s those days are over. You know you’re old/aging and there is no denying it anymore. My 30’s were awesome beyond belief. 40’s are in basically every way worse than my 30’s.
You are a decade closer to getting that sweet senior citizen discount
You know 20’s and 30’s, you understand where 50’s and 60’s are going. Basically you get where everyone is coming from.
When you were 39, there were only possible things you could be in a year – 40 or dead.
Congratulations…you’re 40.
It starts to suck
All the new sounds & muscles you will find every morning when you wake up. The ability to drink far less alcohol with much higher next day outcomes. Coffee is now becomes a requirement.
All kinds of cool stuff man you are in for a treat.
Not a single thing.
You don’t have to work out as much because you’re hurt all the time instead!
More financial security. Better perspective on life. Not a lot of chronic disease yet.
Best thing is that you’re not turning 50 yet!
Well, it’s not 50.
I despise my 40s. Still behind in life and looks going significantly downhill since 42
you have enough money to absorb a layoff for a few years. Be prepared for your spouse to lose their goddamn minds
You can call it your “Double Score” birthday.