Im (25)M South korean currently doing my military service in south korea , i finish 2026 april,
im currently partnered up a F(26) USA
she has a bad relationship with her mother but has a stable relationship with her dad
she studied “communications focused on asia” or something like that and is a english teacher
How do I know if shes the one I want to spend my whole life with , we havent really lived together for a long time just me using my military leave to see her for 3-4 days a month. I still havent gone to school for my career I want to be a Aircraft mechanic under a us company like delta. are there things to know when dating a American woman , i want to move to the us in the future but she keeps telling me its a dumpster fire with the trump administration.
let me know what you think ? ( sorry too wordy)
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There is never any reason to rush. Live together before you marry.
You gotta know the person and decide if you’re gonna be with them forever.
Check marks are going to vary on the person.
I guess make sure you enjoy talking with her and genuinely like who she is as a person, if all goes well you’d be talking to her for the rest of your life after all.
I don’t think relationship with parents matters much
The college degree, if she’s passionate in it, cool I guess, but if you see it as a negative, well decide how you feel about that. Don’t be with someone if you don’t respect them.
As for America, we’re doing good. People like to complain, but like everything is practically the same.
Really more so matters which state you live in, America is incredibly diverse culturally and even each city in a state can have entirely different vibes and cultures in them.
So for me, this would be my personal “checklist”.
We know eachothers long term life goals and they are compatible such as having kids, living abroad, lifestyle stuff
We have lived together at least two years without major living incompatibilities that are unreconcilable
There isn’t any lies going on and if we ever have a problem, we both feel safe and confident coming forward with it and communicating it
There’s probably a few other things that my Morning Brain isn’t thinking of, but I think that’s a good general list in my opinion for me.