This is a broad question for the rules of this sub but if you want more details you can look at my other recent post on the same topic.
What are some reasons a guy might take things very slow with a girl?
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This is a broad question for the rules of this sub but if you want more details you can look at my other recent post on the same topic.
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Maybe he just got out of a relationship and wants to keep things casual for the time being.
He’s not sure that she’s what he’s looking for
Not a guy, but been the girl in this situation. A lot of the time they sense she might be a very untrusting person and they want her to feel fully comfortable, otherwise they might just find the girl really special and want to take it slowly so as to get to know her more.
If you already know the guy, it’s also possible he doesn’t want to ruin your friendship and is trying to feel out the situation without permanently damaging a relationship.
He’s waiting for his herpes outbreak to clear up.
Doesn’t want to rush into things. Sometimes if you have sex or kiss to early it ruins the element of intimacy.
I want it because I’m inexperienced.
He’s secretly gay or he’s very religious.
Either way he’s thinking about going to heaven with a guy.
He actually likes her and doesn’t want to mess things up. I’m a lot slower when I’m actually interested in a girl as opposed to just wanting a hookup.
From your other post, it sounds like you need to change your thinking from giving the green light, to stepping on the gas yourself. Some men take the lead, some don’t. Both are okay, but your type is clearly the latter.
For example, when you made the move that ended up being too late, you would have gotten what you wanted if you had just done that earlier.
Cuz he really likes her
I mean it’s really case by case, if it’s “take things slow” in the since that “I don’t want to meet your parents just yet” then sure, but if it’s take things slow in the “I don’t want to only sleep with you” then it’s toxic let it go.
Trauma
Because I’m single as fuck and the idea of introducing a partner into my life is rather daunting.
It’d have to be a slow and steady escalation into a relationship.
Fear of rejection
Unsure where she stands with him
Fear of something being taken the wrong way then being accused of sexual harassment/assault
There’s hundreds if not thousands of reasons.
But my personal reason? Because of my first marriage. High school sweetheart ordeal, we literally started dating the day we met and got married once she turned 18 (I was 19). Long story short we got divorced, so now I’m not really wanting to rush anything. Like we took our relationship pedal to the metal, full throttle all the way. 24/7/365 with each other. I’m not even joking, anywhere I worked she had to get a job at the same place and work the same hours.
So yea, been divorced for like 2 years now and I’ve been enjoying my solitude. Got like 2 friends that I rarely talk to and besides work and college I don’t really go out much. Tried some dating apps but my god I’m completely ignored for the most part and the few dates I do get they want to move wayyyyyyy too fast. Like rubbing my crotch on the 2nd date fast….. Just wtf…..
Worried about how he might come off, really doesn’t want to look desperate
Been burned before
Maybe shes slow so he’s got to slow it down for her.
A sexual assault accusation is a “guilty until proven innocent” scenario and can ruin a man’s life.