What are some signs women give that says they are nervous and you should back off? Also what’s the best excuse to get out of a awkward conversation?
What are some signs women give that says they are nervous and you should back off? Also what’s the best excuse to get out of a awkward conversation?
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“If it’s not ‘Hell yes’, it’s a ‘no’.”
excellent question… I’m hoping the answer isn’t every lady is different or ‘you just know’
cause some of us don’t
I have never experienced this, maybe if there is doubt, just ask.
I can feel the energy and my body just tells me to ‘nope’ out of there.
No excuse. I literally just turn and walk away. No sense in being polite anymore.
One word answers, defensive body language, tensing up, trying to put some distance between you like stepping back away from you.
Best way to get out. “Oh I gotta go”. Look at your watch if you really want to sell it.
Just play it safe. If there’s zero enthusiasms then just back off. If she brings her entire family to your sentencing hearing, then may be she doesn’t like you at all.
No is taken as no.
Women are not neutral towards men. They create excuses to either be close to you or distance themselves, it’s not difficult to discern.
Its all vibe. If she gives off a cunty vibe, gtfo. If she gives off an inviting vibe… socialize but remain neutral as a man because as soon as you reciprocate interest the vibe shifts the other way.
Nervous I dunno but
Not laughing, not making eye contact, not smiling or fake smile, flat out ignoring you by looking the other way/facing away
Check which way their feet are pointing. If it’s away from you they’re probably trying to leave the conversation.
You’ll hear it in the tone of their voice. Try to imagine how you would sound if you were nervous.
They’ll also be looking away, no eye contact, short responses, disengaged.
Best escape route is to just excuse yourself, say you have an appointment to catch or you forgot something.
Look into her eyes, they will tell you
A lot will be non-verbal most of the time.
Eyes scanning everywhere to assess possible resources/help, crossing the arms, fake laughing if nervous, holding their bags a little closer to them, etc.
If they don’t come up to you first, then it’s more of a no on all accounts.
Decades ago I was on a first date when I put my purse on my lap he knew I was ready to go. Very thoughtful to notice and yes we dated for a while after that, I was tired. I’ll say body language. Ending conversations it’s got to go, bye or ttyl after saying you have to go.
Generally speaking Women make it incredibly obvious when they’re uncomfortable. Unless you’re just absolutely horrible at reading body language. In that case you’re kinda SOL.
If I think the conversation is awkward I’ll just say “well this is fucking awkward” and walk away.
So take note of how much each of you is talking or contributing to the conversation. Are you doing most of the talking? Or is she asking you any questions and volunteering any stories? For both of y’all’s sakes, it’s probably better to think of it in terms of “interested/engaged with you” over “nervous.” It’s also just a lot nicer to have a shorter but mutually pleasant convo with someone, and means she doesn’t walk away feeling intruded upon.
It’s also helpful to build “off ramps”/graceful exits into your conversation, so that hopefully before anyone gets too much into that nervous point, you allow them to communicate how much conversation they want to engage in. You set up the off ramp and look to see if they take it.
Ex: you see a cute girl reading a book and ask her what she’s reading. If she just gives you the title and turns back to her book, she took the off ramp, so you say “cool thanks for the rec, I’ll check it out” and walk away with a short but positive interaction. If she starts talking to you about the book in more detail, she chose to stay on board for at least a little bit.
Being willing to engage other people (a bartender you’re friendly with, someone you know at the game shop) so it’s less 1:1 also helps here and gives a bit of an off-ramp (and is often just a green flag for not monopolizing a woman in conversation). If she excuses herself, or engages more with the other person, or immediately gets on her phone, it’s not a sure off-ramp, but I’d say it’s fair to wait at that point for her to reengage. No awkward exit required.
“I’m going (over here to do/look at a thing, do you care to join?” Is another option. As is excusing yourself to go to the bathroom or similar. Again, these aren’t necessarily taking the off-ramp, but it’s putting the ball in her court to reengage or not.
You can also be more direct: “by the way, if you had something to get back to please don’t let me keep you.”
Tl;dr look for interest, not nervousness, and offer graceful exits along the way.