This is the REAL trial run for your relationship and also the time when your actions will set the tone for expectations to come.
If you share the place you NEED to be sure you’re not just bending to her whims everytime because if you do she will see and treat you like a doormat in time. She deserves her say in household and relationship stuff but you absolutely do too.
If that scares her off then you will have learned a solid lesson and dodged a bullet before things get more serious.
Also regardless of who makes what amount of money you two absolutely need to discuss and agree on cost sharing for rent, groceries, and utilities, assume nothing at all and get out in front of ALL of it because if you or her have certain expectations of something that you don’t both agree on BEFORE paperwork is signed it WILL be a point of either direct conflict or poorly suppressed resentment over time.
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Where you’ll go if/when it doesn’t work out.
Wish you nothing but happiness but it’s always smart to have a backup plan for residence. As statistics point the other way.
Toilet paper has 347 uses and not just for wiping yourself so be prepared for toilet paper consumption to go up 10 fold
Cleaning + chore duty expectations
How you’re going to split expenses
If it’s her lease, you’re out when she says so.
This is the REAL trial run for your relationship and also the time when your actions will set the tone for expectations to come.
If you share the place you NEED to be sure you’re not just bending to her whims everytime because if you do she will see and treat you like a doormat in time. She deserves her say in household and relationship stuff but you absolutely do too.
If that scares her off then you will have learned a solid lesson and dodged a bullet before things get more serious.
Also regardless of who makes what amount of money you two absolutely need to discuss and agree on cost sharing for rent, groceries, and utilities, assume nothing at all and get out in front of ALL of it because if you or her have certain expectations of something that you don’t both agree on BEFORE paperwork is signed it WILL be a point of either direct conflict or poorly suppressed resentment over time.
The only time you will ever see her with make up and not in sweat pants again is when she is going out somewhere.
How long until your common law
She will test your sanity and resolve.
Get dice. When you can’t figure out supper, whomever rolls the high number decides or starve.