What are the everyday habits your partner has that make you feel special without even trying?
What are the everyday habits your partner has that make you feel special without even trying?
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What are the everyday habits your partner has that make you feel special without even trying?
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Always charges my car for me. Before electric cars he would always fill the tank for me so I don’t have to do it.
Pretty bad when I can’t think of a single thing he does that makes me feel special …
Never failing to forget kissing me before leaving for work
Always sending a good morning text, even though we live together
Checking in throughout the day
Packing my lunch for me, even though he knows he does NOT have to
Sets up my coffee so all I have to do is press the button, puts my towel (s) next to the shower, pours me a glass of wine after work, and he loves to cook. He makes me feel special every day.
Besides the million little things he does that he never talks about? I would say the hug and kiss I get before he leaves for work, without fail.
His actions tell me that he feels very comfortable around me and safe from judgement, like being able to share goofy ideas or ugly thoughts. And he also tells me so, too. When he’s stressed, he seeks my presence because he feels noticeably calm when he’s near me.
Then he returns the favor. Which was honestly way harder for him because I spent years being overly guarded with the double whammy of having no idea I was doing it. Like having to convince someone the wall in front of them is there and them not believing you lol
He gives me ‘nice things’ (compliments) right before sleep while we’re cuddling, every night. It’s always a list of like 4 or 5 big compliments. It doesn’t matter what mood we’re in or what’s come before in the day. If he’s up before me, he’ll set up our coffee machine ready to go but he won’t turn on the grinder before I’m awake (so I’m not disturbed). There’s always a kiss and I love you before we leave. He messages to check in throughout the day. Honestly I feel special all of the danged time.
He always knows how to comfort me no matter the situation. Sometimes it feels like he knows me better than I know myself. He’s so kind too and it makes me feel very loved
He tells me every single day of my life that I’m the most beautiful creature he’s ever seen, or something to that effect. He knows that in my first marriage, my ex was embarrassed of the way I looked. This one makes sure I feel beautiful.
He brings me coffee to bed or has it prepared for me when I’m running late for work.
He takes my lunch out of the fridge so I don’t forget to take it. I have a habit of not eating lunch cause I would forget it in the fridge and he would worry about me not eating.
Always gives me a kiss before leaving to work and before falling asleep
Every morning we play wordle. Either he or I sends it first but that’s our morning ritual. Consistently he will bring me little treats from the store…just a little something that tells me he thought of me. He checks in to make sure I’m comfy and happy. He’s good at sharing the TV and the radio. If I stay over on the weekend he makes me coffee and breakfast. He’s just the best!
His 5:20 alarm that is just there for him to cuddle me for 10min before he need to get to work.
Morningkisses
Among many other things I could list, he flirts with me 🙂
Always asking me how I’m feeling. Genuinely wanting to know how I’m doing, how I’m feeling, what I’m thinking about. She worries that sometimes she annoys me doing that, but I greatly appreciate the way she loves me and cares for me.
Gives me sweet kisses before either of us leave in the morning and when we’re reunited at the end of the day. He lifts me in the air because he’s excited to see me. He always makes sure I’ve eaten and shares his food even if I don’t hint at wanting it lol. He always tells me how lucky he is and how much he wants to be the best partner he can because I deserve it. Supports my ambitions, goals, and accomplishments. Listens attentively and always asks about my day. These, among other things.
Most nights I cook dinner but he always clears the table without me having to ask! He just does it and I don’t think he realizes how much that little gesture means to me.
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He calls me beautiful all the time. He kisses me like he means it every time he kisses me. He does silly stuff like pick me up and spin me around like we’re in a movie. He cleans up any and all vomit that may eventuate in the day-to-day, also, and we got a mess of kids and pets.😬😅
We also work together so when he hypes me up on the job it makes me feel pretty special lol
Nothing. He’s usually so tired from being up at 4am that I get whatever is left over of him after work. I don’t love it but hes the sole provider right now so I will take the best he can do.
He will always give me the last bite of food or give me his food if I like mine better.
Makes me cups of tea constantly and does the housework, except cooking. I do that.
My husband cares for me as an action word. He actually gives a shit. In the way a serious adult man handles his business.
It’s been 6 years and I’m starting to actually believe he’s real.
Opens every door
We don’t live together yet:
He calls me every morning on his walk. It’s a nice time to check in.
When I ask him if I should come over he always has a reply like “heck yes” or “of course”.
When I get there he gets up from whatever he’s doing to give me a long hug and a kiss, and he walks me to the door each night to give me a kiss.
He texts me good morning every day and good night on any nights we don’t spend together. He gives me a kiss before he leaves to work even if I’m sleeping. He always makes the bed and warms up my side for me in the winter. He carries around chopsticks on roadtrips so I don’t get my fingers dirty eating chips. He makes breakfast, lunch and dinner each day that we spend together. He’s just really thoughtful and caring. There’s so much more I could add.
Always making the bed in the morning
Texting me every so often about how much he can’t wait to see me after work
Trying to make me laugh or dance with me when I’m in a sad mood at home
Vacuuming the house every day
Reading at night to me in Spanish (after I asked him to)
Asking me what my dreams are and aspiring to achieve the means to help me get those dreams
He’s the best
He leaves for work at 5am, but I don’t get out of bed for at least 2 more hours. He opens the curtains ever so slightly so I can wake up with the sun (which I love, and he forced me to get blackout curtains ha).
He asks how I am doing & feeling every day. So far from the emotionally unavailable people I’ve had in my life. He’s 24 and I’m 33. Not that it matters, but he’s treated me with the most care anyone outside of my grandparents has.
We don’t live together and live in opposite directions – we meet at the same coffee shop daily and he drops me home and takes out the extra time to do it – Every. Single. Day.
We are both running our businesses and work days are pretty tiring and really hectic so we don’t have a lot of time- but he just really likes seeing me safely reach my house and does it always.
Keeps tabs on my financials – so, numbers and excels freak me out and I am so bad at them but ever since we started dating, he keeps on top of them and helps out whenever and wherever he can to help me navigate without me having to ask for help. I am expanding my business and it’s a lot of confusing load and he just hears me out – doesn’t try to take over or give unneeded advice but just makes the entire thing so much easier for me to deal with. He started it when he noticed that it’s giving me stress and just so that I don’t have anxiety.
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Makes coffee in the morning when he’s up first, brings me flowers or a treat just to say I love you or when I’m feeling sad, fills my car with gas and washes it, takes out the trash, fills up my Stanley cup full of water every night before bed, always gives me a kiss goodbye in the morning and when he gets home in the evening 🙂
Sometimes when I’m doing something he will watch me with puppy dog eyes and a goofy lookin’ smile and when I notice him he will compliment me or come over and start rapidly kissing me. It feels wonderful to be admired.
He puts gas in the car when he knows I need to drive to the office. He picks me up little things at the store. He tracks how much of my favorite face cream I’ve used and buys me more when I’m close to running out. If we haven’t seen each other all day on a day where he has evening plans, he waits to go out with friends until after I’ve gotten home so we can have a few minutes together. He tells me he loves me all the time and compliments me, not just to my face but to others even when I’m not around. He’s pretty great.
Wrapping my towel around me when I get out of the shower, refilling my iron gummies and buying me meat snacks so I can keep my levels up when I am not in the mood to move around. Listening… like actually listening to what I say even if I am saying nothing substantial.
Kisses me good morning every morning
Opens the car door for me every time
Genuinely wants to make me happy/cares how I feel
Surprises me with small gifts
Truly listens to me babble
He turns on my bedside lamp every evening on my side so when I walk into the bedroom or come home from work late it is on for me
He compliments me all the time and is the sweetest. Makes sure I’m eating.
He also spends so much time with me and is always planning things for us to do together although I wouldn’t consider that without trying, but they are everyday habits.
Goodmorning kiss, kiss on the forehead before going to work. He cooks for me, iron my uniforms, brings me food to work, picks me up when he has a day off. Waah I miss my hubby, now we’re in LDR 🥹
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Speaks so much life & encouragement into me.
I grew up in a home with a lot of shame, punishment & guilt. But now if I mess up he just sees me as human, helps clean up the mess if needed, or offers kindness & compassion.
He has helped rewire a part of me I didnt even realize was there. He reminds me its okay to be imperfect and that Im still loveable even in my worst moments.
Gets me a coffee on his way home from work. He works nights and gets home as I’m getting ready to leave for work.
In the evenings, after we’ve had dinner, washed up, done all our chores, put our baby to bed and can finally stretch out on the sofa watching TV, he then grabs my feet, pulls them up onto his lap and gives them a little foot massage and rub.
He brings the remote to me whenever he leaves the room.
This is one of those small, thoughtful gestures that melt my heart.
My husband likes watching tv more than I do, so usually we watch whatever he likes when we’re together. But whenever he leaves, he makes sure to set the remote by me so I can switch to something different without having to get up.
I never asked him to do this.
After every date, he texts me thanking me for going out with him, telling me he had a fun time and he can’t wait to see me again and he loves me so much. We’ve been dating for 3 years, even then every date feels like he is putting in First Date effort
My ex boyfriend would wake up earlier than me and get ready for the day and whatever be doing stuff around the house for an hour or so and he would always come back and give me another cuddle after, made my heart melt every time
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always makes sure my phone is charging, brings me snacks when I’m focused, and kisses my forehead like it’s the most natural thing. That kind of love hits different.. :3
When he leaves for work in the morning he puts another blanket on me because he knows I get cold without him
when they bring me snacks without asking or remember the tiniest things I say
Not really a habit but he accepted my dog moving in with us. Was dead against it for so long but came to the conclusion it’s me and the dog lol
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I kind of started it by accident but he sends me video logs. We’re still long distance but it’s nice waking up to a video of my husband and our cat. Right before we get on video call and spend time with each other.
She says every couple of days “How did I ever find you? How did I get you”
Makes me feel soo fucking loved and valued. And then we have a nerdy banter of who loves the other more lol.
“I love you more than Avogadro’s Constant”
“I love you more than Graham’s Number”
“I love you more than Tree(3)!” and so on and so forth
So nice to see that there is still real luv in this world <333
He wipes the bathroom floor after taking shower cause i hate anything gloopy.
he mastered the art of making coffee cause my day doesn’t start without one.
nothing because everything he does for me he do to other girls too
Whenever we’re grocery shopping he remembers all my favorite snacks and quietly adds them to the cart. Never makes a big deal about it but I notice every single time.
Every night before bed he plugs in my phone to charge without saying a word. I’ve never asked him to do it but he noticed I always forget. Seven years later and I still pretend to be asleep while smiling like an idiot when he does it.
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Calls me every day, sometimes multiple times a day when he has breaks at work. We’re nearing 7 years together.
can i get a ban. thanks!
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He often makes my tea for me in the morning. He always touches me when we are near each other-rubbing my back, massaging my hands, etc. And, sometimes he calls me Stardew.
He works multiple jobs and has limited free time. However, whenever he has any window of free time, he will call me (even if it’s just 5 minutes) or makes time for me.
He cooks for me even when I tell him I’m not hungry.
When we work from home, he comes by every hour or so to chat and give me a kiss
He’ll always refill my water bottle and never complain about it
Massages
He cooks 95% of the time and is usually cool with whatever I ask him to cook. His homemade bagels are to die for.
If there’s food I like, he’ll always give me the bigger piece or leftovers and lets me try whatever he ordered or cooked that looks interesting.
When the cat I had from before I met him barfs on the rug, he cleans it up without waiting for me or me having to ask.
We have amazing (and sometimes weird) conversation
He pretty much always makes me orgasm and probably wants to go down more often than I want (I prefer other things)
He never whines or complains or criticizes me or things I do or my hobbies
He’s introduced me to so much new stuff from movies to politics to music to foods to fitness to what a healthy relationship looks like
We’re getting married next year. I’m seriously considering sending his mother a thank you card that reads “thanks for birthing him and not raising an asshole”
He makes me coffee every morning
Remembers little unimportant details, likes/dislikes etc
He always tries to include me in the stuff that’s important to him, wants me around when he’s hanging out with friends, at work events, etc whenever possible.
When my car pulls into the driveway (He is usually home from work before me)he will always open the front door for me and say hi with a kiss. I do the same for him.
Brings me coffee in bed when we’re home together in the morning.
he sets one alarm a couple min before mine so he can roll over and kiss me awake and say good morning
he hypes me up at the gym and gives me little kisses between sets
he texts me little updates and pictures throughout our work days to stay connected
we cook dinner together almost every night
he fills up my water for me anytime it goes below halfway
countless things, I am so lucky!
Every morning, he wakes me up with a big kiss and sweet smile in his face before making me my tea just the way I like it (with too much milk, which he hates but does anyways!). He lets me sleep those extra minutes while he’s preparing it because he knows I’m such a sleepyhead
Then when he comes back from work he sighs a breath of relief like we haven’t seen each other for weeks, then hugs me super hard and kisses me 🥰🥰🥰
He always tells me how proud he is of me
He never gets angry at me when I accidentally spill of break stuff, and always helps me clean up
I wonder what little things I do to make him feel special 🤭
Packing my lunch + writing a sweet note on it every single work day
Always texting “Good morning”
Always DD’ing for me and my friends
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Puts my electric toothbrush on the charger if he sees the battery is low. I’ve never done it myself. And the kiss before he leaves for work everyday
The hug and kiss he gives me + the usual have a good day see you later with an extra kiss before rolling over and going back to sleep (I get up at 2am m-f to be to work by 3 he’s not due in til 7) Making my coffee for me without my asking (on the weekends when I’m off from work) letting me sleep in when he knows I need the rest and takes care of the kids. Always willing to help with dinner if asked (I don’t ask very often because I prefer to be the only one in the kitchen) the daily from behind hug and kiss after he gets home from work with running his beard across my neck. And so much more. He also checks in pretty regularly through the day too more so when he gets up for work and I’m a good 3-4 hrs into my shift because I have a very frustrating high demanding job and I’m constantly dealing with a micromanager. He typically knows when it’s not been a good day so far if I’m venting to him before he even gets up which happens a lot 😅 he makes me feel special everyday and I could go on.
He wakes up way earlier than me to go to work. He wakes me before he leaves and in my half sleep I hear him say he loves me and he kisses me on the forehead. 🥰
-tells me at least five times a day that I’m pretty/beautiful
-the first thing he does when he wakes up each morning is pull me into his arms and kiss me
-If he happens to get home from work before me he’ll often either be in the kitchen making dinner or already have it on the table.
he brings me a cup of hot coffee to bed along with the bottle of creamer and says “tell me when” and pours it
Sometimes I see him looking at me and smiling, like the other evening I was just reading my book on the sofa wearing my giant dressing gown and when I looked up he was watching me with a really happy look on his face.
He brings me coffee in bed in the morning.
When he’s at work or out and about he sends me photos of things he sees that he knows I’ll like (like cool cars or giant tools, or cats!)
He is always complimenting me and flirting with me!
If he’s fixing up his bike he checks mine over at the same time.
He’s not super into reading for leisure like I am, but he asks me what I’m reading and is interested in hearing about what I think.
•He drops everything when I turn off the water in the shower so he can come and wrap me in the towel. It makes me feel sooooo loved, like a little child.
•I never had a day since we are together when I haven’t had flowers in the vase.
•Tells me everyday I am out of his league and that he is lucky that he can love me.
• He brings out the child in him by telling me “I love you, like the lottest “ you are beautiful, like the mostest beautiful girl ever“ (we both know it is grammatically incorrect, but I love hearing this)
I love him to death
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He kisses me before he leaves the house, no matter how soon he will be back.
He always opens doors for me.
He never lets me carry anything.
He always brings me sweet treats.
If he wakes up before me, he will go to Starbucks and get my favorite drink for me. He kisses me before he leaves, and when he gets back he kisses me, puts my drink on the bedside table and starts making breakfast.
He is very affectionate, always hugging, kissing, or touching me throughout the day.
He write poems and love letters for me.
Honestly, there isn’t a single thing he wouldn’t do for me.
When I stay at his house on a work night he insists on bringing me breakfast in bed. Even though it’s usually just a toasted pancake, sometimes accompanied by some strawberries and iced coffee.