When a task seems too big to start and kind of overwhelming, I’ll give myself a five minute assignment of working on it before I do something else. Five minutes of prep work, five minutes of research, five minutes of cleaning… It’s easier to be overwhelmed by an entire task than it is to be overwhelmed by just working on it for five minutes at a time, And sometimes you get to the end of that five minutes and find a little bit of gas in your tank you didn’t have before.
The rate of return on even small amounts of time (e.g., 2x25min per week) spent doing resistance training is a real-life cheat code to unlock years’ worth of physical health and mental health. Invest minutes, reap years = cheat code.
Learn to ask for help… normally we want to solve all situations, issues, tasks, jobs ourselves, but it is not always possible, most of the time we require help from others but we are incapable of accepting or asking for it, analyze the situation and if you think it may be beyond you, ask for help
As a male, I don’t care about fashion, so when shopping with a woman, they would get upset when I didn’t have an answer to “what do you think of this outfit”?
Honestly, I cannot tell the difference. But I eventually realized that she wanted validation, but definitely did not want me to love everything. So I came up with an awesome plan that has served me well ever since.
I will only like one outfit out of every three. I mix up the order, so they don’t realize that I am just using math.
So, if I like outfit one, I will hate the next two, by saying something like, “the first one was better”, or “that one is definitely your color”. Whatever.. means nothing to me, but it makes her feel better and validated that I am an active participant with an opinion.
I am not being a jerk, she chooses her own outfits, and she looks fine in all of them. I am just trying to survive this and get it over with, in the most efficient possible way.
Had a young woman working for me. We worked closely together on a number of projects, so we got to know each other, warts and all. She was a very capable person, but there were times when she could be a PITA. But EVERYBODY at work, from the CEO to the loading dock, LOVED her. I asked her one time why everyone loves her the way they do. She said that whenever an interaction with someone else is ending, no matter what it was about, even if it was contentious, she always said/did something nice to/about that person. That way, she said, the last thought they had of her was a positive one. Now that I knew that was her trick, I started looking for it when we were in larger meetings/groups. Sure enough, she did it, and did it sincerely. Real life application of Angelou’s “They may not remember what you say, but people will remember how you made them feel.
It’s so simple: just be nice to others, especially those who are in a position to help you.
I see people call into support or something and immediately start throwing profanity at the first agent to pick up the call. If I were in that position as the employee, you automatically go to the lowest possible service I can offer you while keeping my job and I will do nothing as a courtesy to skirt a policy or a charge.
Be nice and courteous, explain the situation, and ask the agent if they wouldn’t mind helping you out to clear up the issue. Guaranteed you will get farther.
When complimenting women you don’t know or perhaps just aren’t close to, as a man, compliment something they had active control over. Say, a choice in eye-makeup. Or perhaps color-coordination of their outfit. Even a logo.
Complimenting body parts is risky as you don’t really know in what ways that person might feel insecure about themselves, AND, it shows you’re actively creeping.
Every time I tell a woman her nails look cool, their faces light up. I like being remembered as the guy that noticed something she went out of her way to do.
Quickly build a meaningful relationship w someone:
1.) Compliment them on something they do well. Be as specific as possible.
2.) Ask them for advice on how you can also do this thing well, just like them.
3.) Actually listen intently to their advice and apply it.
4.) Follow back up with them and share the great results you experienced by applying their advice.
5.) They will love you, root for you, go out of their way to help you, and will always give you the benefit of the doubt when you fuck up. Hell, they may even offer their daughter’s hand in marriage. So, only do this w people who you want a genuine relationship with. Its that powerful.
There is not a single person on this planet who is impervious to this tactic if done sincerely.
You can rewire your neural pathways into whatever you want — just decide and enforce it and eventually your brain will make new main paths that you chose while the old ones fade away/get replaced.
When you wake up in the morning, try to purposefully feel the emotion of having achieved the greatest thing ever. Remember when you got your degree, or finally got the girl of your dreams to say yes to a date? Remember the bliss of that moment? Well, now overlay it at the start of your day. Your brain can’t tell the difference between real/imagined achievement. If you want, you can set the brain’s happy juice on high by doing literally nothing lol
If you want to curate a specific desired outcome to repeat in your favor, say at work, don’t ask for it. Instead, act happy and excited anytime you get that thing. People tend to want to make others happy, and doing this will condition the person you’re working with to give you the thing that you want because they want the happy response you give them when they give you the thing. They feel good, you get the thing you want, and it’s harmless.
When you are working on something, like continuous progressive work. Leave your work on something interesting so it’s easy to restart.
Works with coding projects, writing books, even constructing things.
Trying random area codes and then 8675309 at gas stations for reward cards that give me 5 10 15 or sometimes even like 30 cents off a gallon if I’m really lucky. For those that don’t understand it’s the famous phone number from the song and people use it as a throwaway all the time so it’s basically activated everywhere. I’ve been using the successfully for the last 2 years since I found out and it’s been incredible I try to tell everybody I can.
The shit people talk about others behind their back always has a way to get back to the victim of the shit-talk. I realized this and, though I’ve never been one for backbiting, I actively started saying nice things about people behind their back.
I’m not sure I have a good metric of whether it works as a “cheat code”, but personally I would sure feel great if somebody told me something nice a co-worker or colleague or friend said about me when I wasn’t around.
If you want a response from someone, especially via writing (like if you don’t want an email to be ignored) ask for advice.
People LOVE giving advice, and then they’ll often address whatever else you’d written about too.
Bonus: if they give you advice then you can follow up by asking for feedback/reviews. Once they’re invested, people tend to be a lot freer with positivity
If you go to a takeaway, find out the nationality of the guys serving you. Next time you go, if English isn’t their first language, say thank you in their language. It’s like two minutes to Google and memorise this. Maybe thank you, goodbye, something like that. Not every time, but probably more than half the time, you get free stuff, and the world is a little bit more welcoming.
Being really nice to customer service reps. Sounds basic, but it’s wild how often you get upgraded, refunded, or helped way faster just by being cool to the person who deals with everyone’s anger all day.
If you act confident — even if you’re faking it — people rarely question you. Confidence is basically the human version of pressing “up, up, down, down, left, right, left, right, B, A, start.”
When you are walking somewhere at work, carry a piece of paper, glance at it occasionally like it’s important. Everyone will assume you are doing something.
If I’m waiting for my wife to get off the phone or stop texting or get dressed – all I have to do is start up a video or a game and she’s instantly done and wants attention. Works every time.
You can get just about anywhere with a clipboard and a high-vis vest.
It’s actually your confidence that gets you in, but the vest and the clip board help you convince yourself to have that confidence, and they discourage others from questioning you.
You know when you’re walking along a narrow street and there’s someone coming toward you, and you end up doing that awkward little ‘will I go this way or that way’ dance with them until you finally get the fuck out of eachother’s way?
Excruciating right?
Well, I’ve not had to do that shit for decades. Because instead of looking that person in the face on approach, I very purposefully look over one of their shoulders, indicating without words on which side I intend to pass them.
That easy little visual queue works every fucking time.
Your contact and eyeglasses prescription stabilizes. There’s no need to pay $300 or $400 for an eye exam every year you can pick up doing that again once you reach your 50s and 60s.
Online websites will give you a WebCam eye exam for 20 bucks. It cannot change your prescription, but it simply renews it and then you can order your contacts and glasses and spend half the money you were going into a traditional eye doctor.
When I find something that triggers me, instead of reacting, I take a moment to contemplate why it affects me. I then try to see a positive in it and then move on. Therefore, not letting it affect me negatively.
Please and thank you, when making requests. When I started working security, and had to ask loiterers/solicitors to move along, a polite “please leave the property” worked about 80% of the time.
When dealing with an angry customer the best thing you can do is actively listen. Let them have their say, make notes and then go over their grievances when they run out of steam (they will eventually, I promise). Most angry customers just want to be heard. I’ve had customers go from shouting to cheerfully shooting the breeze after a few minutes.
I think I just found one by accident for travel. Trains
Hear me out. I hate flying, the stress of getting to the airport waiting in line TSA. Uncomfortable seats and the rushed nature of the whole experience.
I’m on an Amtrak right now. They have full dining and bedrooms you can take. The cafe I figured would have little snacks, nope they’ve got burgers breakfast sandwiches and a menu bigger than I’ve seen at actual food places for reasonable prices.
Seats are comfortable, like first class comfortable on a plane for a fraction of the cost, and I’m the cheapest one. There’s chargers where some airlines I’ve taken didn’t have them. The ONLY downside is it takes longer to get where you’re going but it’s so enjoyable I wish my trip was longer and it’s 5 hours. I may never fly again
Be kind, be gentle, be nice. Then in the rare occasion when you do get upset, people will notice.
People who get upset or are belligerent often, we tend to just tune them out. Their baseline is ‘asshole’, they’re always yelling and cussing, so it’s not even noticed, just background noise, like “boy who cried wolf”.
But when a nice, quiet person starts yelling and cussing…everyone notices.
Sweet Deborah, who’s always cheerful and nice and pleasant to everyone – when she gets upset and starts crying, everyone thinks “that is wrong” and immediately drops whatever they’re doing to try to set it right.
Not just yelling and cussing, either. When the quiet man who never speaks does speak up, people listen. Because it’s unexpected.
If you’re wearing a suit you can pretty much walk anywhere. People just assume you belong there. I had to travel for work a number of years ago and I wanted to see the view from the top floor but that wasn’t our office. I just stood in the lobby and looked busy on my phone and casually moved to the door when someone came in and they just held the door for me. It was a nice office and I saw the view and then I left
If you ever find yourself in really strange place where in theory at least, you have absolutely no business being there, having your dog with you is a get out of jail card.
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When a task seems too big to start and kind of overwhelming, I’ll give myself a five minute assignment of working on it before I do something else. Five minutes of prep work, five minutes of research, five minutes of cleaning… It’s easier to be overwhelmed by an entire task than it is to be overwhelmed by just working on it for five minutes at a time, And sometimes you get to the end of that five minutes and find a little bit of gas in your tank you didn’t have before.
Smile at people.
The rate of return on even small amounts of time (e.g., 2x25min per week) spent doing resistance training is a real-life cheat code to unlock years’ worth of physical health and mental health. Invest minutes, reap years = cheat code.
Learn to ask for help… normally we want to solve all situations, issues, tasks, jobs ourselves, but it is not always possible, most of the time we require help from others but we are incapable of accepting or asking for it, analyze the situation and if you think it may be beyond you, ask for help
Act stupid with men at work
As a male, I don’t care about fashion, so when shopping with a woman, they would get upset when I didn’t have an answer to “what do you think of this outfit”?
Honestly, I cannot tell the difference. But I eventually realized that she wanted validation, but definitely did not want me to love everything. So I came up with an awesome plan that has served me well ever since.
I will only like one outfit out of every three. I mix up the order, so they don’t realize that I am just using math.
So, if I like outfit one, I will hate the next two, by saying something like, “the first one was better”, or “that one is definitely your color”. Whatever.. means nothing to me, but it makes her feel better and validated that I am an active participant with an opinion.
I am not being a jerk, she chooses her own outfits, and she looks fine in all of them. I am just trying to survive this and get it over with, in the most efficient possible way.
Being nice gets you way more than being a grump.
Had a young woman working for me. We worked closely together on a number of projects, so we got to know each other, warts and all. She was a very capable person, but there were times when she could be a PITA. But EVERYBODY at work, from the CEO to the loading dock, LOVED her. I asked her one time why everyone loves her the way they do. She said that whenever an interaction with someone else is ending, no matter what it was about, even if it was contentious, she always said/did something nice to/about that person. That way, she said, the last thought they had of her was a positive one. Now that I knew that was her trick, I started looking for it when we were in larger meetings/groups. Sure enough, she did it, and did it sincerely. Real life application of Angelou’s “They may not remember what you say, but people will remember how you made them feel.
First impression goes a long way, so make sure to look the way you want to be perceived.
It’s so simple: just be nice to others, especially those who are in a position to help you.
I see people call into support or something and immediately start throwing profanity at the first agent to pick up the call. If I were in that position as the employee, you automatically go to the lowest possible service I can offer you while keeping my job and I will do nothing as a courtesy to skirt a policy or a charge.
Be nice and courteous, explain the situation, and ask the agent if they wouldn’t mind helping you out to clear up the issue. Guaranteed you will get farther.
Something I learned as a teenager
When complimenting women you don’t know or perhaps just aren’t close to, as a man, compliment something they had active control over. Say, a choice in eye-makeup. Or perhaps color-coordination of their outfit. Even a logo.
Complimenting body parts is risky as you don’t really know in what ways that person might feel insecure about themselves, AND, it shows you’re actively creeping.
Every time I tell a woman her nails look cool, their faces light up. I like being remembered as the guy that noticed something she went out of her way to do.
Up down up down left left right right a bit start
I’ve ended up being a trainer at every job I’ve ever had.
Anytime someone messes something up that you’ve taught them on more than one occasion.
“No problem make the same mistake all the time”
They don’t get hung up on it. Next time I get to that step “remember this is the thing I’ve messed up before”. BOOM they get it right. Thing learned.
Quickly build a meaningful relationship w someone:
1.) Compliment them on something they do well. Be as specific as possible.
2.) Ask them for advice on how you can also do this thing well, just like them.
3.) Actually listen intently to their advice and apply it.
4.) Follow back up with them and share the great results you experienced by applying their advice.
5.) They will love you, root for you, go out of their way to help you, and will always give you the benefit of the doubt when you fuck up. Hell, they may even offer their daughter’s hand in marriage. So, only do this w people who you want a genuine relationship with. Its that powerful.
There is not a single person on this planet who is impervious to this tactic if done sincerely.
Avoid most financial problems by spending less than you earn.
Mm the top three that come to mind are:
You can rewire your neural pathways into whatever you want — just decide and enforce it and eventually your brain will make new main paths that you chose while the old ones fade away/get replaced.
When you wake up in the morning, try to purposefully feel the emotion of having achieved the greatest thing ever. Remember when you got your degree, or finally got the girl of your dreams to say yes to a date? Remember the bliss of that moment? Well, now overlay it at the start of your day. Your brain can’t tell the difference between real/imagined achievement. If you want, you can set the brain’s happy juice on high by doing literally nothing lol
If you want to curate a specific desired outcome to repeat in your favor, say at work, don’t ask for it. Instead, act happy and excited anytime you get that thing. People tend to want to make others happy, and doing this will condition the person you’re working with to give you the thing that you want because they want the happy response you give them when they give you the thing. They feel good, you get the thing you want, and it’s harmless.
When you are working on something, like continuous progressive work. Leave your work on something interesting so it’s easy to restart.
Works with coding projects, writing books, even constructing things.
Investing early and often
Trying random area codes and then 8675309 at gas stations for reward cards that give me 5 10 15 or sometimes even like 30 cents off a gallon if I’m really lucky. For those that don’t understand it’s the famous phone number from the song and people use it as a throwaway all the time so it’s basically activated everywhere. I’ve been using the successfully for the last 2 years since I found out and it’s been incredible I try to tell everybody I can.
Being rich
be quick to apologize. I struggle to say I’m sorry when I’m mad but if I can say it quickly I can change my mindset and get out of that anger state.
“You can’t control other people, you can only control your response” is a mantra I breathe daily.
Never argue with a narcissist, just get him to do the work since he’ll do such a better job.
you see a 1 2 1 pattern in minesweeper, the mines are in front of both 1s. Every time.
The shit people talk about others behind their back always has a way to get back to the victim of the shit-talk. I realized this and, though I’ve never been one for backbiting, I actively started saying nice things about people behind their back.
I’m not sure I have a good metric of whether it works as a “cheat code”, but personally I would sure feel great if somebody told me something nice a co-worker or colleague or friend said about me when I wasn’t around.
If you want a response from someone, especially via writing (like if you don’t want an email to be ignored) ask for advice.
People LOVE giving advice, and then they’ll often address whatever else you’d written about too.
Bonus: if they give you advice then you can follow up by asking for feedback/reviews. Once they’re invested, people tend to be a lot freer with positivity
Being born into wealth.
A lot of the posts here seem to be along the lines of “compliment X and do it sincerely”, etc. Maybe I can sum all these ones up!:
Be Genuinely Nice
If you go to a takeaway, find out the nationality of the guys serving you. Next time you go, if English isn’t their first language, say thank you in their language. It’s like two minutes to Google and memorise this. Maybe thank you, goodbye, something like that. Not every time, but probably more than half the time, you get free stuff, and the world is a little bit more welcoming.
If you rob a bank and dont get caught, you’re set for life.
Even if you do get caught, you get shelter and food. Just gotta put up with some suboptimal roommates.
Being really nice to customer service reps. Sounds basic, but it’s wild how often you get upgraded, refunded, or helped way faster just by being cool to the person who deals with everyone’s anger all day.
Spritz everything you put into an air fryer with compressed olive oil. It’s a cheat code for sure.
Costco gas hoses are long enough to reach the other side of the car.
Has been a big life changer for me.
If you act confident — even if you’re faking it — people rarely question you. Confidence is basically the human version of pressing “up, up, down, down, left, right, left, right, B, A, start.”
Go out of your way to ensure you get enough sleep, it is the secret seasoning of life.
The Jedi mind trick works every time,. “These aren’t the droids you’re looking for,” but don’t forget the hand gesture or it won’t work
When you are walking somewhere at work, carry a piece of paper, glance at it occasionally like it’s important. Everyone will assume you are doing something.
This can also work as a student in HS btw.
If I’m waiting for my wife to get off the phone or stop texting or get dressed – all I have to do is start up a video or a game and she’s instantly done and wants attention. Works every time.
Please and thank you go a long way, even on deaf ears.
You can get just about anywhere with a clipboard and a high-vis vest.
It’s actually your confidence that gets you in, but the vest and the clip board help you convince yourself to have that confidence, and they discourage others from questioning you.
Change that stern look you have all day for a slight smile. Suddenly, people will smile back, even greet you.
This is a big one.
You know when you’re walking along a narrow street and there’s someone coming toward you, and you end up doing that awkward little ‘will I go this way or that way’ dance with them until you finally get the fuck out of eachother’s way?
Excruciating right?
Well, I’ve not had to do that shit for decades. Because instead of looking that person in the face on approach, I very purposefully look over one of their shoulders, indicating without words on which side I intend to pass them.
That easy little visual queue works every fucking time.
Your contact and eyeglasses prescription stabilizes. There’s no need to pay $300 or $400 for an eye exam every year you can pick up doing that again once you reach your 50s and 60s.
Online websites will give you a WebCam eye exam for 20 bucks. It cannot change your prescription, but it simply renews it and then you can order your contacts and glasses and spend half the money you were going into a traditional eye doctor.
When I find something that triggers me, instead of reacting, I take a moment to contemplate why it affects me. I then try to see a positive in it and then move on. Therefore, not letting it affect me negatively.
Please and thank you, when making requests. When I started working security, and had to ask loiterers/solicitors to move along, a polite “please leave the property” worked about 80% of the time.
Being friendly and easy going with people, especially your coworkers. It’ll get you a long way.
When dealing with an angry customer the best thing you can do is actively listen. Let them have their say, make notes and then go over their grievances when they run out of steam (they will eventually, I promise). Most angry customers just want to be heard. I’ve had customers go from shouting to cheerfully shooting the breeze after a few minutes.
I think I just found one by accident for travel. Trains
Hear me out. I hate flying, the stress of getting to the airport waiting in line TSA. Uncomfortable seats and the rushed nature of the whole experience.
I’m on an Amtrak right now. They have full dining and bedrooms you can take. The cafe I figured would have little snacks, nope they’ve got burgers breakfast sandwiches and a menu bigger than I’ve seen at actual food places for reasonable prices.
Seats are comfortable, like first class comfortable on a plane for a fraction of the cost, and I’m the cheapest one. There’s chargers where some airlines I’ve taken didn’t have them. The ONLY downside is it takes longer to get where you’re going but it’s so enjoyable I wish my trip was longer and it’s 5 hours. I may never fly again
Be kind, be gentle, be nice. Then in the rare occasion when you do get upset, people will notice.
People who get upset or are belligerent often, we tend to just tune them out. Their baseline is ‘asshole’, they’re always yelling and cussing, so it’s not even noticed, just background noise, like “boy who cried wolf”.
But when a nice, quiet person starts yelling and cussing…everyone notices.
Sweet Deborah, who’s always cheerful and nice and pleasant to everyone – when she gets upset and starts crying, everyone thinks “that is wrong” and immediately drops whatever they’re doing to try to set it right.
Not just yelling and cussing, either. When the quiet man who never speaks does speak up, people listen. Because it’s unexpected.
Peeling a banana from the bottom
Ever in need of a rewards account, use your local area code and 867-5309 Jenny is guaranteed to have you covered.
Retention Department.
Say this during a phone call to your ISP or Cellular provider to get cheaper bills.
Being nice to most people. Service workers, bus drivers, etc.
Wherever you go in life and whatever you do, always make friends with the cook.
Be attractive. Don’t be unattractive.
Just nice and chill to people
My best advice is what ever you have to do and can do, do it NOW and stop postponing.
If you’re wearing a suit you can pretty much walk anywhere. People just assume you belong there. I had to travel for work a number of years ago and I wanted to see the view from the top floor but that wasn’t our office. I just stood in the lobby and looked busy on my phone and casually moved to the door when someone came in and they just held the door for me. It was a nice office and I saw the view and then I left
Being nice, positive, no back talk, can definitely be a cheat code however it can potentially negatively affect you in the long wrong
If you ever find yourself in really strange place where in theory at least, you have absolutely no business being there, having your dog with you is a get out of jail card.