My life is pretty much a restart right now, a clean slate. 1 month into a 1.5y relationship ending and I really had lost who I was. I’m excited to see what happens now. ☀️
It’s good! I have a good job (that I don’t like and I’m looking for another one), I have a safe and cozy home, a healthy child who I battle with but that’s ok, I have a great friend group. I struggle with my mental health and some chronic health/pain issues but my life is good. I am lucky.
My life is great! My wife, garden, dogs, birds, and home are way beyond anything I dreamed about attaining. All it cost me was to stop drinking. Who would have thought that something I thought was a remedy was blocking this life.
Absolute shit. Had a very traumatic experience almost 4 months ago and my soul is gone. The physical body is still here but I wish that was gone too. I’m holding out because I’m moving to England in September for grad school, maybe something good will come there
I’m counting my blessings after the gut punch of fibromyalgia diagnosis last month. Went to rheumatologist to be screened for Rheumatoid Arthritis, on the guidance from my retinal specialist due to eye condition. I was thinking maybe I had RA but after the physical exam the doctor said I clearly have fibromyalgia. At 53 I’m concerned with the endless worry about what life will look like & feel like as I age. And being very selfish for a minute, I always looked forward to being an involved grandparent some day & now I’m worried that might not be the case.
It’s been one of the hardest years of my life. Severe mental health causing problems with physical health. Coming to terms with being childless not through choice.
I am so so lucky to have a supportive husband, family and friends. I don’t think I would have made it through this year otherwise.
Life has been great. As a 23 year old, there is nothing that I could ask for more in my current life. Romance maybe? But that is something that I am not actively pursuing, I have dedicated all of my free time on myself and hobbies. I go on dates here and there. The odds are good, but the goods are odd. I work from home and make enough to do everything that I want to do, go wherever I want to go, eat whatever I want to eat, etc. I live in a beautiful city that I adore, and there’s plenty of events here for young adults. Some of my friends are my neighbours about 10-15 mins walk away and my parents live 45-60 mins drive away.
I have a very functional happy relationship and we are getting married in Nov which I’m thrilled about. (Mostly everything’s done that can be done right now, ill be stressing way more by the end of summer)
Im in school FT, and just went back to work FT. So the struggle on getting into the swing of things again, my body being so tired and sore etc.
My fiance works midshifts and with just school i used to have every week day morning with him. Now, it’s maybe once a week, if that. I have to go to bed before he gets home, and I’m out of the house by the time he wakes up.
He has a son who is with us all weekend every weekend and with summer coming up the days I’m off, and the mornings he’s free, the kiddo will be with us.
I also have cptsd with bad depression and anxiety. I can tell my depression is getting worse because all I do is sleep and exist, doom scrolling mostly. I hardly leave my home unless I have to. And I don’t have friends nor a relationship with any of my family. Before I started my job, the only time I had contact with other people was twice a week for 4 hours when I was in class. The rest of the time, I’m home alone doing chores, sleeping a ton, or just there.
I’m working on losing weight too but forever the struggle. It seems like I gain pounds over night even when I’m not eating much.
I overall feel very alone and isolated. Just like I’m existing and not living.
JFC I took great pains to never get pregnant because I didn’t want to be a mother. I’m in my late 50s now, and all I do is take care of other people. My husband, my addict brother, my loser uncle. I’m the rock of the family and I hate it. I daydream about disappearing and just living the rest of my life in a little house with a little garden with just me and my little pets. And no other people.
I’m in my 40s. I’ve reached a whole other level of DGAF. I do care a lot about important things but quick to never spend energy on things that don’t matter.
I’ve never been so content. Not like unrealistically happy but a sense of peace and confidence that everything will be okay. I wish that for everyone TBH.
I just want to say I appreciate how you are listening to people, giving them a safe place to vent then lifting them up. I’m sure you will positively affect many people today. I hope your current life is as lovely as you are.
Well, after the last week, I have come to the conclusion that the writing is on the wall and my husband is very likely gay. We are separated with two adult children, but we are still friends. He just will not speak openly about anything. So I’m living by myself for pretty much the first time of my life. Married for 28 years, have just entered the workforce the last two years. It just seems like everything is changing and I have nothing to look forward to.
Well, I’m trying to live out my dream of being an expat, but because of the industry I fell into, I find myself physically strained by the stress of my perceived “worth.” I’ve spent 22 years dedicated to service and the further into my career I get, the less I am worth, the less equity I retain, and the less mental clarity I have. I keep finding myself hoping for motivation, but the thought of starting all over again is just daunting.
I can no longer afford to work for such low money (minimum wage). I have no help, my family is distant, I’ve been single throughout my career and the more at peace I am being single, the more I realize how much I actually need help. Not just companionship, but support. I’ve always found immense amounts of pride in being an independent woman with an incredible work ethic, but my body is repelling the thought now and I find myself taking naps when I should be looking for more opportunities.
I’m tired & I look around to see so much privilege and it’s daunting that I don’t know if I’ll be able to make rent. Then I walk the streets to find folks resting without even a glimpse of what I have and feel incredibly guilty. I have been finding lots of gratitude in where I’ve gotten, but I’m exhausted by being on my own in the world and find it hard to connect with people because of this.
My gratitude and my exhaustion have created an internal earthquake that’s destroying my thyroid, and causing my joints to not be able to handle my career any longer, but I’ve worked 22 years to accumulate my skills and I’m incredibly proud of the skills I’ve obtained but cannot figure out how to monetize them enough to find joy like I used to. I’m so lost.
I am in no way at all religious, but have been hoping and praying currently for a lucky coincidence. The dream job I moved countries for turned into a scam and immigration became a severe blockade to my income. I’ve been in severe need for the missing piece to click.
I find myself loathing traditional structure of relationships, but also yearning to be comforted and told everything will be ok by someone who can actually help them be ok. I’m searching for and trying to brew positivity and motivation.
Wish me luck! & The same sentiment goes right back to all of you beautiful people who deserve the same!
My life is exactly what I hoped it would be after divorcing my abusive ex. Took a lot of years of therapy, burning out, and moving 1200km away from my hometown to get here. Been happily remarried to the most amazing human (5 years this year!) and we cultivated a pretty awesome life together. I live in the place I’ve wanted to be since I was a kid, have a new career in an industry I have a personal vested interest in and loving it, and found a new circle of friends here that I feel good being around. Finally got diagnosed with ADHD and getting the help I need after a lifetime of thinking I was stupid (nah bro it’s just a learning disability lmao). I honestly don’t think I’d change a thing. Happiest and most content I’ve ever been in my entire life.
I was actually crying about things earlier. I felt like everything was going great a few years ago. I had my own place, my freedom and solitude. I wasn’t worrying about the future so much. Circumstances in my life were still difficult (ageing parents – my mum is very vulnerable and needs carers, and my dad is just depressed and lonely).
However, in order to save enough to be able to buy a property rather than rent, I had to give up my flat and move in with my dad to be able to save. I’m very grateful but since October life has just completely changed.
I no longer have any real time to myself. I’m constantly either keeping my mum company or my dad company, meaning I am living in between homes. They are both severely depressed which rubs off on me. I’m basically my dad’s therapist and he’s also got problems with alcohol. My mum is ill and often in and out of hospital which keeps me up at night.
I don’t have time to date anyone and when I lived alone I was happy being single. But now I constantly have my parents telling me I need to settle down and have kids and they make me feel bad for being alone, which has now given me a complex that there’s something wrong with me. So I’ve started feeling unlovable and hideous etc. etc.
I just really miss my space. I really miss being able to do what I wanted, when I wanted without having expectations on me constantly. Idk. I’m grateful and I love them, but I don’t get much support and I’m too independent/stubborn to ask anyone for help so I’ve made a rod for my own back.
I rarely socialise anymore. I could easily isolate myself but that’s not good for me either. The most I do for myself now is play Xbox on weekends with a friend I’ve never met that I developed feelings for, which also makes me feel like a loser instead of going out and meeting new people.
It’s just a blip. Short term pain for long term gain, I guess. But it really is painful.
That I’m in a place I never imagined I’d be, doing things I never thought I would. And that while I wish I didn’t have so much shit to go through I know I wouldn’t be where I am right now if I did. And where I am is finally happy.
Today is great. 3 day weekends are wonderful. A little burnt out at work so not looking forward to going back to the grind. But my philosophy is to use the free time I have to take steps, however small, toward building the life I want.
It’s a shit show. I’ve seriously pissed someone off in a previous life because it’s seems to be one disaster and/or traumatic event after another continuously for 42 years so far
Things haven’t been good for awhile. I’ve been trying to leave my job due to toxic work environment from my boss and have applied everyday for months and getting rejection emails. My partner and I are trying to save the relationship for the 1000th time even though I’ve tried to leave. Everything is getting more expensive and it’s so hard to keep up. The only thing that really makes me happy is my son.
I’m not trying to be a downer and idk if this is what happens as you get older or if anyone feels the same way. I’m very scared for the future, politics, finances, healthcare, education. I live in Texas and things here keep getting worse. There isn’t very much keeping me hopeful except for my son. Maybe it’s burn out or due to my job being toxic but I really feel like I’m not doing anything with my life. I’ve rarely traveled which is what I always wanted to do. Tried to get a house but prices keep going up and then groceries, bills etc. I’m not living life, I exist to work and pay bills.
im very happy with where i am, there are still more life goals id like to achieve but i have a good job, good friends and family, and im finding hobbies that bring me joy
ive met a man that i like and it looks like its going the right way too but still too early to tell
I’ve made myself a priority for the first time in 20 years.
It’s been an amazing 6 months, and I’m looking forward to continuing. I’ve lost weight, regained function I lost after an injury that lead to a lot of chronic and debilitating pain. Had surgery to correct something that bothered me for a long time, under went intensive mental health treatment, and now I’m medication and symptom free from all physical and mental pain. It’s been truly a life changing beginning of the year. I never want to go back to where I was a year ago.
But, I hate my job, my spouse and are in the early contentious stages of divorce, my kids are moving into adulthood in a time of a lot of uncertainty and unaffordability, and my social circle is non-existent.
I spent a long time really sad and unhappy. Oncoming traffic looked really inviting more and more frequently. PTSD flashbacks got worse and worse, and in general, I just knew I couldn’t keep going the way I was. For those struggling with mental health challenges, don’t give up. Talk to others, find your reason to ve alive each day, and just keep going forward even when the abyss calls to you. Highly recommend TMS therapy to anyone who isn’t getting results with medications for depression, anxiety, or PTSD (are all 3 like me). It’s changed my life
It’s okay. Until recently I was really excited about the possibilities of my newish relationship but apparently that’s not going to go anywhere. So I’m bummed about that. Trying to figure out the best way forward. But the good news is I enjoy being on my own so if it doesn’t work out I’ll be fine, just disappointed.
While I love my life with my husband and kids, there’s a few things that I would change. Younger me would not have imagined being a SAHM or having three kids. So I’m losing myself a lot and want something that’s for me and such, which I’m in the process of starting my own business, but it’s really hard right now.
I’ve also sacrificed a lot of the things I’ve always wanted, like a big wedding, hobbies, and the house I wanted, etc. So someday I’d like to get those things back (vow renewal, pick up some new hobbies, build our dream house, etc).
It’s really good. I retired last year and I’m happier than I have been in many many years. My grandchildren who live nearby are a part of that. Before I retired I made sure to establish social connections with church, yoga, class, and a chorus.And I’m getting to know my neighbors finally!
Things are going super good. I have a loving and caring husband. My career keeps becoming better..I have the greatest friends and family and supported to be me.
There are some minor things going on that I would like to change but overall I’m very stable, much much more than two years ago when I was deep in the throws of addiction. In two weeks I will be having a major surgery that will greatly increase my quality of life and I am very very excited
My life is going great but my brain has decided I’m not allowed to be happy about that and have to worry about what ifs. So I’m also in therapy
Seriously, I have an amazing boyfriend, we own a house and have 2 cats, he has a creative job, I work 4 days a week and have a 3-day weekend, I also have 8 weeks of holiday a year??? I’m playing the lead in an upcoming musical theatre play in a group I just joined with amazing people, I’m about to restart singing lessons because I’m now financially stable and can save up money…
But no, I gotta worry about the future and stuff ._.
I’m the happiest I’ve been in a long while. I left an emotionally abusive marriage in February and moved in to a beautiful new apartment that I’ve decorated exactly how I want. Selling the house and all the bad memories with it – I can’t wait until the divorce is final. Absolutely loving my job and I got a promotion last October. I just started seeing a new guy who is incredible and so kind and I can’t wait to see where it goes.
Transitional.I want to move and change jobs. I’ve been through a lot in the past six years so it’s time for a refresh. I just don’t really know how to start. I’ve been saving and updating my resume so hopefully something comes along sooner than later. 🤷♀️
My life is really beautiful! I’m 2 years and 5 months clean. I live in an apartment that I love, with my best friend in the entire world. I have a beautiful Godson, he lives with his momma right up the street. We’ll be celebrating his first birthday soon 🥰 I lost about 80 pounds, so I’m feeling really confident about my body and self image lately. I enjoy my life and I’m grateful for it. I’m looking into becoming a court stenographer or massage therapist because I’m tired of my job, but otherwise life is grand!
Life is magic and I am grateful to be a part of it. My husband and I are young and in love, we have two gorgeous healthy kids with a third on the way, we live in a cozy and clean 2-bedroom apartment in a beautiful complex in a safe neighborhood in central California. The AC works and the fridge is full of food. I have the privilege of working part-time at home while raising the kids. We live a peaceful, small, humble life that revolves around our kids. I had big ambitions as a young woman, and I am grateful that none of them panned out and I ended up on this path instead. Thank you for the opportunity to reflect express my gratitude. <3
I am loving life right now. I am turning 30 next month and have never been happier. Living w the love of my life. We will never be able to buy and my salary is really quite shite, but we have what we need and are able to make the best of what we have and stretch our money enough to go on some nice vacations. Leaning in to gratitude and not letting the life scam of “buy house, have baby, make money” get me down.
It’s scary and there are many moments where I want do die/wish I never existed. Sometimes I feel so alone, and to be honest I am. I get this feeling mainly when I’m around my family, I cannot emotionally rely on them and I hate that. I hate the fact that I want to leave them so badly…but it’s literally the only way I could feel something resembling happiness. I just want a normal life and that’s not possible as long as I live with them.
It’s ok. Kinda boring. I’m (48f) at that point in my life where I’m just humming along until I can retire. I’ve got an eye on a management position that I’d like to move up into and finish out my career in.
I’ve got 10-12 years left in the workforce then my husband and I will be ready to travel! By then, our pets will all be dead and, it feels awful saying this but it’s true, probably both our moms (both of our dads are gone). We have one adult son but he’s doing really well – no worries there. He doesn’t plan on having kids which is totally fine and his choice.
My health is okay, nothing major but definitely a few more aches. I’m learning about menopause and stepping up my skincare routine. I really really need to start lifting weights.
Overall, I feel very fortunate and grateful and I recognize life is getting a lot harder for a lot of women. I’m extremely worried about the future of the USA and for my sisters around the world.
Im probably in the worst position I’ve ever been in. Going on 49, house is falling apart, no money to fix anything. 3 non working vehicles in my driveway, the only working one isn’t registered or insured because, money. I hardly hear from daughter anymore due to life, she’s not in a very good financial situation either. Household of 3 I’m the only one working and paying for everything which is why I don’t have money to fix anything, or register the damn car. My ac broke years ago due to the electrical wiring in this God forsaken shit hole that was built in the 60s. BUT, it’s owned out right at least. My husband doesn’t fix anything, always an excuse as to why but I know why, he’s lazy. My youngest is turning 21 next month and isn’t working either. Had a very long discussion about that, that left me even more worried than I was I’m the beginning. Im always worrying, about my kids futures, my future, the future of the world. God help us.
Shit but not, I’m disabled after an illness, spent years studying for my degree & PGCE, then 3 years after I qualify – boom, brain disease.
I feel so ungrateful and I don’t usually pity myself because I have a very loving fiancé, lovely pets, otherwise I’m relatively healthy, but where I’m improving it’s taking too long (2 years), I honestly thought I’d be better by now, and I’m just so sick of it. I feel so miserable today.
My best friend dropped me after I got unwell, I was meant to be her MOH but couldn’t because I was in hospital not sure if I was going to live (not even dramatic, my condition is rare and my brain was so swollen it was touch and go for a couple weeks). I still feel so sad and lonely, and this was over a year ago. I miss her, we’d been best friends since we were 7. I live away from my family and feel so isolated every day. Tbh if I didn’t have my family I’d have just taken my own life, I’m struggling to see how just existing in the world is a good thing, when I’m not really living.
Ugh, thanks for letting me rant Reddit, I needed that.
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My life is pretty much a restart right now, a clean slate. 1 month into a 1.5y relationship ending and I really had lost who I was. I’m excited to see what happens now. ☀️
It’s good! I have a good job (that I don’t like and I’m looking for another one), I have a safe and cozy home, a healthy child who I battle with but that’s ok, I have a great friend group. I struggle with my mental health and some chronic health/pain issues but my life is good. I am lucky.
Sometimes I wish it was over. But I’m going to keep fighting till it’s better. ❤️🩹
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My life is great! My wife, garden, dogs, birds, and home are way beyond anything I dreamed about attaining. All it cost me was to stop drinking. Who would have thought that something I thought was a remedy was blocking this life.
It has some lows because parenting is tough (and coparenting is even tougher!) but all in all I’m happy, grateful and excited to see what comes next!
That I really should prioritize myself more 😅
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It could be better but it’s getting there. I have my own place, a car, a job I can retire from. If the world doesn’t go tits up, I’ll be okay.
It’s probably great but in kinda just like “it’s okay”
Absolute shit. Had a very traumatic experience almost 4 months ago and my soul is gone. The physical body is still here but I wish that was gone too. I’m holding out because I’m moving to England in September for grad school, maybe something good will come there
That I’m not taking care of my health and drinking a bit too much. Also feeling a bit bored/lost with every day life.
I’m really happy right now. If you asked me even just a few months ago, I’d say I was miserable and depressed.
I’m counting my blessings after the gut punch of fibromyalgia diagnosis last month. Went to rheumatologist to be screened for Rheumatoid Arthritis, on the guidance from my retinal specialist due to eye condition. I was thinking maybe I had RA but after the physical exam the doctor said I clearly have fibromyalgia. At 53 I’m concerned with the endless worry about what life will look like & feel like as I age. And being very selfish for a minute, I always looked forward to being an involved grandparent some day & now I’m worried that might not be the case.
It’s been one of the hardest years of my life. Severe mental health causing problems with physical health. Coming to terms with being childless not through choice.
I am so so lucky to have a supportive husband, family and friends. I don’t think I would have made it through this year otherwise.
Life has been great. As a 23 year old, there is nothing that I could ask for more in my current life. Romance maybe? But that is something that I am not actively pursuing, I have dedicated all of my free time on myself and hobbies. I go on dates here and there. The odds are good, but the goods are odd. I work from home and make enough to do everything that I want to do, go wherever I want to go, eat whatever I want to eat, etc. I live in a beautiful city that I adore, and there’s plenty of events here for young adults. Some of my friends are my neighbours about 10-15 mins walk away and my parents live 45-60 mins drive away.
It’s high time that I stop grieving and that it’s okay to live again
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I’m struggling….
I have a very functional happy relationship and we are getting married in Nov which I’m thrilled about. (Mostly everything’s done that can be done right now, ill be stressing way more by the end of summer)
Im in school FT, and just went back to work FT. So the struggle on getting into the swing of things again, my body being so tired and sore etc.
My fiance works midshifts and with just school i used to have every week day morning with him. Now, it’s maybe once a week, if that. I have to go to bed before he gets home, and I’m out of the house by the time he wakes up.
He has a son who is with us all weekend every weekend and with summer coming up the days I’m off, and the mornings he’s free, the kiddo will be with us.
I also have cptsd with bad depression and anxiety. I can tell my depression is getting worse because all I do is sleep and exist, doom scrolling mostly. I hardly leave my home unless I have to. And I don’t have friends nor a relationship with any of my family. Before I started my job, the only time I had contact with other people was twice a week for 4 hours when I was in class. The rest of the time, I’m home alone doing chores, sleeping a ton, or just there.
I’m working on losing weight too but forever the struggle. It seems like I gain pounds over night even when I’m not eating much.
I overall feel very alone and isolated. Just like I’m existing and not living.
JFC I took great pains to never get pregnant because I didn’t want to be a mother. I’m in my late 50s now, and all I do is take care of other people. My husband, my addict brother, my loser uncle. I’m the rock of the family and I hate it. I daydream about disappearing and just living the rest of my life in a little house with a little garden with just me and my little pets. And no other people.
I’m in my 40s. I’ve reached a whole other level of DGAF. I do care a lot about important things but quick to never spend energy on things that don’t matter.
I’ve never been so content. Not like unrealistically happy but a sense of peace and confidence that everything will be okay. I wish that for everyone TBH.
It’s not good right now. My mental health issues have the upper hand and they are causing havoc.
I’m struggling financially and it’s just so much stress.
I hate my job which doesn’t help my mental health issues.
I just want to say I appreciate how you are listening to people, giving them a safe place to vent then lifting them up. I’m sure you will positively affect many people today. I hope your current life is as lovely as you are.
Well, after the last week, I have come to the conclusion that the writing is on the wall and my husband is very likely gay. We are separated with two adult children, but we are still friends. He just will not speak openly about anything. So I’m living by myself for pretty much the first time of my life. Married for 28 years, have just entered the workforce the last two years. It just seems like everything is changing and I have nothing to look forward to.
I’m extremely happy, aged 65 and all is well. I’m appreciating my time a lot more than I did when I was younger.
It’s a waste. Recovering from neurological illness and hopefully back to work soon so I have some use.
I got married yesterday so it’s feeling like a dream come true
Well, I’m trying to live out my dream of being an expat, but because of the industry I fell into, I find myself physically strained by the stress of my perceived “worth.” I’ve spent 22 years dedicated to service and the further into my career I get, the less I am worth, the less equity I retain, and the less mental clarity I have. I keep finding myself hoping for motivation, but the thought of starting all over again is just daunting.
I can no longer afford to work for such low money (minimum wage). I have no help, my family is distant, I’ve been single throughout my career and the more at peace I am being single, the more I realize how much I actually need help. Not just companionship, but support. I’ve always found immense amounts of pride in being an independent woman with an incredible work ethic, but my body is repelling the thought now and I find myself taking naps when I should be looking for more opportunities.
I’m tired & I look around to see so much privilege and it’s daunting that I don’t know if I’ll be able to make rent. Then I walk the streets to find folks resting without even a glimpse of what I have and feel incredibly guilty. I have been finding lots of gratitude in where I’ve gotten, but I’m exhausted by being on my own in the world and find it hard to connect with people because of this.
My gratitude and my exhaustion have created an internal earthquake that’s destroying my thyroid, and causing my joints to not be able to handle my career any longer, but I’ve worked 22 years to accumulate my skills and I’m incredibly proud of the skills I’ve obtained but cannot figure out how to monetize them enough to find joy like I used to. I’m so lost.
I am in no way at all religious, but have been hoping and praying currently for a lucky coincidence. The dream job I moved countries for turned into a scam and immigration became a severe blockade to my income. I’ve been in severe need for the missing piece to click.
I find myself loathing traditional structure of relationships, but also yearning to be comforted and told everything will be ok by someone who can actually help them be ok. I’m searching for and trying to brew positivity and motivation.
Wish me luck! & The same sentiment goes right back to all of you beautiful people who deserve the same!
Some days feel like I’m making progress, other days like I’m just staying afloat but I’m learning to be okay with both.
My life is exactly what I hoped it would be after divorcing my abusive ex. Took a lot of years of therapy, burning out, and moving 1200km away from my hometown to get here. Been happily remarried to the most amazing human (5 years this year!) and we cultivated a pretty awesome life together. I live in the place I’ve wanted to be since I was a kid, have a new career in an industry I have a personal vested interest in and loving it, and found a new circle of friends here that I feel good being around. Finally got diagnosed with ADHD and getting the help I need after a lifetime of thinking I was stupid (nah bro it’s just a learning disability lmao). I honestly don’t think I’d change a thing. Happiest and most content I’ve ever been in my entire life.
Starting over in many ways after a lot of people showed their true colors.
I was actually crying about things earlier. I felt like everything was going great a few years ago. I had my own place, my freedom and solitude. I wasn’t worrying about the future so much. Circumstances in my life were still difficult (ageing parents – my mum is very vulnerable and needs carers, and my dad is just depressed and lonely).
However, in order to save enough to be able to buy a property rather than rent, I had to give up my flat and move in with my dad to be able to save. I’m very grateful but since October life has just completely changed.
I no longer have any real time to myself. I’m constantly either keeping my mum company or my dad company, meaning I am living in between homes. They are both severely depressed which rubs off on me. I’m basically my dad’s therapist and he’s also got problems with alcohol. My mum is ill and often in and out of hospital which keeps me up at night.
I don’t have time to date anyone and when I lived alone I was happy being single. But now I constantly have my parents telling me I need to settle down and have kids and they make me feel bad for being alone, which has now given me a complex that there’s something wrong with me. So I’ve started feeling unlovable and hideous etc. etc.
I just really miss my space. I really miss being able to do what I wanted, when I wanted without having expectations on me constantly. Idk. I’m grateful and I love them, but I don’t get much support and I’m too independent/stubborn to ask anyone for help so I’ve made a rod for my own back.
I rarely socialise anymore. I could easily isolate myself but that’s not good for me either. The most I do for myself now is play Xbox on weekends with a friend I’ve never met that I developed feelings for, which also makes me feel like a loser instead of going out and meeting new people.
It’s just a blip. Short term pain for long term gain, I guess. But it really is painful.
That I’m in a place I never imagined I’d be, doing things I never thought I would. And that while I wish I didn’t have so much shit to go through I know I wouldn’t be where I am right now if I did. And where I am is finally happy.
It’s ok and I’ve come far but I need more money and bigger goals, don’t want to be stuck at this level forever.
It’s pure torture, I hope that I will survive it.
It sucks
Today is great. 3 day weekends are wonderful. A little burnt out at work so not looking forward to going back to the grind. But my philosophy is to use the free time I have to take steps, however small, toward building the life I want.
They’re not good thoughts 🩵
It’s a shit show. I’ve seriously pissed someone off in a previous life because it’s seems to be one disaster and/or traumatic event after another continuously for 42 years so far
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Life is pretty damn good. I just need to get a few health issues under control!
It’s going too fast
I’m proud of where I’m at now, I fought hard to get here and now I feel safe, content, and peaceful.
Right now, it sucks. Low paying job, career on decline, 4 year relationship ended abruptly, dont have friends & i can’t afford to live on my own.
In the flip side, at least I don’t have kids lol
Things haven’t been good for awhile. I’ve been trying to leave my job due to toxic work environment from my boss and have applied everyday for months and getting rejection emails. My partner and I are trying to save the relationship for the 1000th time even though I’ve tried to leave. Everything is getting more expensive and it’s so hard to keep up. The only thing that really makes me happy is my son.
I’m not trying to be a downer and idk if this is what happens as you get older or if anyone feels the same way. I’m very scared for the future, politics, finances, healthcare, education. I live in Texas and things here keep getting worse. There isn’t very much keeping me hopeful except for my son. Maybe it’s burn out or due to my job being toxic but I really feel like I’m not doing anything with my life. I’ve rarely traveled which is what I always wanted to do. Tried to get a house but prices keep going up and then groceries, bills etc. I’m not living life, I exist to work and pay bills.
It’s a mess, but it’s my mess 🥲
No thoughts, just depression. Please be a normal day is all I ask.
I’m living the dream. It’s not my dream, but it’s someone’s dream, so I practice gratitude as much as I can.
im very happy with where i am, there are still more life goals id like to achieve but i have a good job, good friends and family, and im finding hobbies that bring me joy
ive met a man that i like and it looks like its going the right way too but still too early to tell
Kinda ass. Like it’s alright, but I am broke and jobless so like that sucks
I’ve made myself a priority for the first time in 20 years.
It’s been an amazing 6 months, and I’m looking forward to continuing. I’ve lost weight, regained function I lost after an injury that lead to a lot of chronic and debilitating pain. Had surgery to correct something that bothered me for a long time, under went intensive mental health treatment, and now I’m medication and symptom free from all physical and mental pain. It’s been truly a life changing beginning of the year. I never want to go back to where I was a year ago.
But, I hate my job, my spouse and are in the early contentious stages of divorce, my kids are moving into adulthood in a time of a lot of uncertainty and unaffordability, and my social circle is non-existent.
I spent a long time really sad and unhappy. Oncoming traffic looked really inviting more and more frequently. PTSD flashbacks got worse and worse, and in general, I just knew I couldn’t keep going the way I was. For those struggling with mental health challenges, don’t give up. Talk to others, find your reason to ve alive each day, and just keep going forward even when the abyss calls to you. Highly recommend TMS therapy to anyone who isn’t getting results with medications for depression, anxiety, or PTSD (are all 3 like me). It’s changed my life
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It’s okay. Until recently I was really excited about the possibilities of my newish relationship but apparently that’s not going to go anywhere. So I’m bummed about that. Trying to figure out the best way forward. But the good news is I enjoy being on my own so if it doesn’t work out I’ll be fine, just disappointed.
While I love my life with my husband and kids, there’s a few things that I would change. Younger me would not have imagined being a SAHM or having three kids. So I’m losing myself a lot and want something that’s for me and such, which I’m in the process of starting my own business, but it’s really hard right now.
I’ve also sacrificed a lot of the things I’ve always wanted, like a big wedding, hobbies, and the house I wanted, etc. So someday I’d like to get those things back (vow renewal, pick up some new hobbies, build our dream house, etc).
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It’s really good. I retired last year and I’m happier than I have been in many many years. My grandchildren who live nearby are a part of that. Before I retired I made sure to establish social connections with church, yoga, class, and a chorus.And I’m getting to know my neighbors finally!
I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.
I’m happy. Yeah it could be better but honestly I’m really lucky.
Things are going super good. I have a loving and caring husband. My career keeps becoming better..I have the greatest friends and family and supported to be me.
There are some minor things going on that I would like to change but overall I’m very stable, much much more than two years ago when I was deep in the throws of addiction. In two weeks I will be having a major surgery that will greatly increase my quality of life and I am very very excited
My life is going great but my brain has decided I’m not allowed to be happy about that and have to worry about what ifs. So I’m also in therapy
Seriously, I have an amazing boyfriend, we own a house and have 2 cats, he has a creative job, I work 4 days a week and have a 3-day weekend, I also have 8 weeks of holiday a year??? I’m playing the lead in an upcoming musical theatre play in a group I just joined with amazing people, I’m about to restart singing lessons because I’m now financially stable and can save up money…
But no, I gotta worry about the future and stuff ._.
Working a job I don’t like. Craving a relationship I don’t have. Lol.
It has been like this for 1.5 years now. So this will be it until it fortunately ends.
I want more from life is what I think. I also want to save more money, be better and do better for myself. I barely think of myself these days
I’m the happiest I’ve been in a long while. I left an emotionally abusive marriage in February and moved in to a beautiful new apartment that I’ve decorated exactly how I want. Selling the house and all the bad memories with it – I can’t wait until the divorce is final. Absolutely loving my job and I got a promotion last October. I just started seeing a new guy who is incredible and so kind and I can’t wait to see where it goes.
Transitional.I want to move and change jobs. I’ve been through a lot in the past six years so it’s time for a refresh. I just don’t really know how to start. I’ve been saving and updating my resume so hopefully something comes along sooner than later. 🤷♀️
My life is really beautiful! I’m 2 years and 5 months clean. I live in an apartment that I love, with my best friend in the entire world. I have a beautiful Godson, he lives with his momma right up the street. We’ll be celebrating his first birthday soon 🥰 I lost about 80 pounds, so I’m feeling really confident about my body and self image lately. I enjoy my life and I’m grateful for it. I’m looking into becoming a court stenographer or massage therapist because I’m tired of my job, but otherwise life is grand!
It’s 70% chaos, 20% overthinking, 10% pretending I’ve got it together. So basically… thriving? 😂
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I’m doing extremely well on the love and companionship front. Def found my soulmate.
As far as money is concerned; I am not able to support myself. So desperately trying to cobble together a career in my mid-thirties.
But if I get the money sorted, then I’m pretty much living my ideal life.
I have multiple creative hobbies, lots of friend circles, lots of things to do, lots of love, but hardly any money.
So almost perfect.
No complaints 😊 Thriving, very happy.
I’m bored, I’m pregnant, but what else would I be doing? I’ve done everything else
Life is magic and I am grateful to be a part of it. My husband and I are young and in love, we have two gorgeous healthy kids with a third on the way, we live in a cozy and clean 2-bedroom apartment in a beautiful complex in a safe neighborhood in central California. The AC works and the fridge is full of food. I have the privilege of working part-time at home while raising the kids. We live a peaceful, small, humble life that revolves around our kids. I had big ambitions as a young woman, and I am grateful that none of them panned out and I ended up on this path instead. Thank you for the opportunity to reflect express my gratitude. <3
I am loving life right now. I am turning 30 next month and have never been happier. Living w the love of my life. We will never be able to buy and my salary is really quite shite, but we have what we need and are able to make the best of what we have and stretch our money enough to go on some nice vacations. Leaning in to gratitude and not letting the life scam of “buy house, have baby, make money” get me down.
I need to get my shit together.
Im about to say fuck it and give up on meds and therapy.
I want to fuck and love somebody I can’t have, boo.
At least I’m no longer in an abusive relationship and I have a job!!
It’s scary and there are many moments where I want do die/wish I never existed. Sometimes I feel so alone, and to be honest I am. I get this feeling mainly when I’m around my family, I cannot emotionally rely on them and I hate that. I hate the fact that I want to leave them so badly…but it’s literally the only way I could feel something resembling happiness. I just want a normal life and that’s not possible as long as I live with them.
Pure shit. Way too much work to do. Poor relationships irl. My grandma passed last week and my mom has had her car break down twice. GREAT TIME!
It’s ok. Kinda boring. I’m (48f) at that point in my life where I’m just humming along until I can retire. I’ve got an eye on a management position that I’d like to move up into and finish out my career in.
I’ve got 10-12 years left in the workforce then my husband and I will be ready to travel! By then, our pets will all be dead and, it feels awful saying this but it’s true, probably both our moms (both of our dads are gone). We have one adult son but he’s doing really well – no worries there. He doesn’t plan on having kids which is totally fine and his choice.
My health is okay, nothing major but definitely a few more aches. I’m learning about menopause and stepping up my skincare routine. I really really need to start lifting weights.
Overall, I feel very fortunate and grateful and I recognize life is getting a lot harder for a lot of women. I’m extremely worried about the future of the USA and for my sisters around the world.
Im probably in the worst position I’ve ever been in. Going on 49, house is falling apart, no money to fix anything. 3 non working vehicles in my driveway, the only working one isn’t registered or insured because, money. I hardly hear from daughter anymore due to life, she’s not in a very good financial situation either. Household of 3 I’m the only one working and paying for everything which is why I don’t have money to fix anything, or register the damn car. My ac broke years ago due to the electrical wiring in this God forsaken shit hole that was built in the 60s. BUT, it’s owned out right at least. My husband doesn’t fix anything, always an excuse as to why but I know why, he’s lazy. My youngest is turning 21 next month and isn’t working either. Had a very long discussion about that, that left me even more worried than I was I’m the beginning. Im always worrying, about my kids futures, my future, the future of the world. God help us.
Shit but not, I’m disabled after an illness, spent years studying for my degree & PGCE, then 3 years after I qualify – boom, brain disease.
I feel so ungrateful and I don’t usually pity myself because I have a very loving fiancé, lovely pets, otherwise I’m relatively healthy, but where I’m improving it’s taking too long (2 years), I honestly thought I’d be better by now, and I’m just so sick of it. I feel so miserable today.
My best friend dropped me after I got unwell, I was meant to be her MOH but couldn’t because I was in hospital not sure if I was going to live (not even dramatic, my condition is rare and my brain was so swollen it was touch and go for a couple weeks). I still feel so sad and lonely, and this was over a year ago. I miss her, we’d been best friends since we were 7. I live away from my family and feel so isolated every day. Tbh if I didn’t have my family I’d have just taken my own life, I’m struggling to see how just existing in the world is a good thing, when I’m not really living.
Ugh, thanks for letting me rant Reddit, I needed that.