I’m perfectly fine with sex outside of marriage, I’ve done it. With sex, I do require a base level of emotional commitment, love, and bonding. I don’t do casual, I do yearning. (I’m *not* demi, I do have sexual attraction…. It’s just a boundary thing.)
I’m also monogamous.
But I don’t require Traditional Dating or the Escalators to formulate a connection. I don’t wanna get married, I don’t wanna live together, I don’t wanna merge families or see yours as in-law status (or like “my” family.) I don’t wanna share pets. I absolutely don’t want kids.
Dating for me is about the emotional closeness and the bond, the time spent together. I don’t need all the above to feel bonded, close, and share intimate time.
That being said, I don’t need to be An Official Couple to have sex. I did four years of a situationship and that fit best with my lifestyle, especially as my lifestyle had zero room for a relationship. Emotions, yes. Closeness, yes. Exclusivity and monogamy, yes. Spending time together (including sfw), yes. But all the other stuff, extraneous.
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Dating and sex are two different topics entirely.
I’m perfectly fine with sex outside of marriage, I’ve done it. With sex, I do require a base level of emotional commitment, love, and bonding. I don’t do casual, I do yearning. (I’m *not* demi, I do have sexual attraction…. It’s just a boundary thing.)
I’m also monogamous.
But I don’t require Traditional Dating or the Escalators to formulate a connection. I don’t wanna get married, I don’t wanna live together, I don’t wanna merge families or see yours as in-law status (or like “my” family.) I don’t wanna share pets. I absolutely don’t want kids.
Dating for me is about the emotional closeness and the bond, the time spent together. I don’t need all the above to feel bonded, close, and share intimate time.
That being said, I don’t need to be An Official Couple to have sex. I did four years of a situationship and that fit best with my lifestyle, especially as my lifestyle had zero room for a relationship. Emotions, yes. Closeness, yes. Exclusivity and monogamy, yes. Spending time together (including sfw), yes. But all the other stuff, extraneous.