Acknowledgement. I’ve been pretty much invisible my whole life. When people I love remember me, make space for me, the feeling in my chest is almost painful.
All of it. Being held (cuddles and hugs), sharing experiences, emotional safety, supported, good sex, intellectual challenge, open communication. Being able to be a child next to them.. as in playing and laughing.. not as in immaturity. It’s all important and separates them from “friend”
But I think I can’t ever get everything.. so settle for someone who is good communication and has accountability with a few of the above is ok too
Physical intimacy, feeling wanted by someone, doing the most simplest things with your favorite person by your side. Going through life with someone you love and someone that loves you back.
I’ve never been in a relationship till now and I’m 20 . I get sad seeing all of my friends having partners. I wish I could experience what it’s like to be loved by someone in that way.
Stability and feeling like the other individual actually loves me and doesn’t just keep me around because they don’t want to be alone. Not being taken advantage of, not being manipulated in anyway. Something that’s fucking healthy and doesn’t make me lose my shit. Something that doesn’t feel like my soul is being sucked away. Something where I don’t have to hide myself to make them like me better. Something where I don’t feel like I have to put a shield around myself and mask my emotions. Something where I don’t feel put down by the other party on a constant basis. Lastly, not be over sexualized, every person I’ve ever been with does that shit and I have severe trauma from all of that because of things that happened to me as a child. I start to feel really uncomfortable when over sexualized. Like I start getting scared tbh. Like damn, I’m more than just my body (women and men have both done this).
If I’m being quite honest. Thanks for coming to my TED talk LMAO 😬💀
Just the concept of that person being my person. My go-to for everything. Reels and Shorts, random thoughts, dream journal, everything. And they care about it
I miss asking for her advice and thoughts. I miss making her laugh. I miss the way she would smile at me. I miss the physical touch, but it’s the touch on my heart I miss the most. The light to my darkness.
Physical touch, having someone who you can rely on to have your back, spending time together in places couples would enjoy but would be awkward doing alone. I don’t mind the occasional eating out by myself or seeing a movie by myself but all the time sucks.
Comments
caring
Just having someone to talk to
Leaving.
Physical touch
It depends on the type of relationship
Being held
I need physical touch as odd as it sounds. I NEED to be able to reach out and know they’re there.
Being wanted.
Feeling deeply understood and emotionally safe with someone.
being loved
Knowing I’m wanted. We bicker like any other couple and even after our little wobble knowing we still have each others back 💟
the love part. The part where you know someone loves you
Yes to all these comments but then again, I’m traumatized with men 😌
Loving companionship
Having some to talk to who cares about me
Physical contact and validation, also setting up fun date stuff to do together
That mutual caring of each other
Fuckin
Being able to share anything which can’t be shared to anyone else.
The chance to be vulnerable, or to let it out sometimes.
The friendship
hugs and convo
Splitting all the bills
Definitely sex and the physical aspect of it if I’m being honest…
Stability of having my one person.
She needs me.
Chatting with someone who cares about you and who’s actually interested in you and what you have to say
Getting into one 🤣🤣💀
Being loved and cared for.
Having someone to hold me when I have days of bad pain and I’m stuck in bed, and just be there with me and let me know someone actually cares.
Just talking
Being heard and held when I’m at my lowest
Cuddling and laughing together
Being understood and cared for equally
Feeling of safety and basically feeling like home, if that makes sense.
Loved without lust
Being loved in a lovey dovey way.
Being taken care of in a calm and sweet way.
Being understood and empathized.
Having someone who loves me
I miss sex. Nah in all honesty I miss the sex. I mean I miss the seeeee- I miss having someone next to me that I can talk to about nothing.
Being held. Forehead kisses. Someone interested about my day
Knowing we can do bad things together and God won’t be mad at us, so long as it’s just us, and nobody else
Acknowledgement. I’ve been pretty much invisible my whole life. When people I love remember me, make space for me, the feeling in my chest is almost painful.
Being in someone’s embrace
Coming home to someone that genuinely cares, cooking dinner for them, and sleeping next to them. That is what I miss.
Sex
Having someone there when I’m scared or sad
Mutual support
Cuteness n thangs like that
Undying eternal love
Yada yada
Having someone to flirt and hangout with. Just experience love without the sexual / hook up part lol
True passion and appreciation… and physical touch!
All of it. Being held (cuddles and hugs), sharing experiences, emotional safety, supported, good sex, intellectual challenge, open communication. Being able to be a child next to them.. as in playing and laughing.. not as in immaturity. It’s all important and separates them from “friend”
But I think I can’t ever get everything.. so settle for someone who is good communication and has accountability with a few of the above is ok too
Being loved innocently without having to worry about getting cheated on or lusted on by someone.
Physical intimacy, feeling wanted by someone, doing the most simplest things with your favorite person by your side. Going through life with someone you love and someone that loves you back.
sharing and caring
Emotional connection and hugs
Being loved warts and all.
Being desired and cared for
I’ve never been in a relationship till now and I’m 20 . I get sad seeing all of my friends having partners. I wish I could experience what it’s like to be loved by someone in that way.
Literally nothing… This post right here helped me realize that lol.
Stability and feeling like the other individual actually loves me and doesn’t just keep me around because they don’t want to be alone. Not being taken advantage of, not being manipulated in anyway. Something that’s fucking healthy and doesn’t make me lose my shit. Something that doesn’t feel like my soul is being sucked away. Something where I don’t have to hide myself to make them like me better. Something where I don’t feel like I have to put a shield around myself and mask my emotions. Something where I don’t feel put down by the other party on a constant basis. Lastly, not be over sexualized, every person I’ve ever been with does that shit and I have severe trauma from all of that because of things that happened to me as a child. I start to feel really uncomfortable when over sexualized. Like I start getting scared tbh. Like damn, I’m more than just my body (women and men have both done this).
If I’m being quite honest. Thanks for coming to my TED talk LMAO 😬💀
Loyalty
Intimacy
Being desired as a partner in many aspects
Just the concept of that person being my person. My go-to for everything. Reels and Shorts, random thoughts, dream journal, everything. And they care about it
I miss asking for her advice and thoughts. I miss making her laugh. I miss the way she would smile at me. I miss the physical touch, but it’s the touch on my heart I miss the most. The light to my darkness.
Being held….and told I’m enough
Physical touch, having someone who you can rely on to have your back, spending time together in places couples would enjoy but would be awkward doing alone. I don’t mind the occasional eating out by myself or seeing a movie by myself but all the time sucks.
Decent conversation
intimacy
hug
Feeling loved and cared for. Intimacy (physical and emotional). Connection.