I’m a 17 year old boy. I have my dreams and goals but I feel my parents are choosing the ones that appeal to them and only support those.
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For example they support my goal to get into medical university but straight up call me an idiot because owning a BMW E39 is a dream of mine. Never even asked for the car or anything, just mentioned that it’s a dream for me and I was immediately given the “I won’t pay for any of that” talk, really common from my parents.
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They show support me moving out of this country(Hungary) as it’s only getting worse and worse here but didn’t like the idea when I told them that travelling around the world is a big dream for me. They said I won’t have time for my family and my own life also I’ll just spend all my money.
Context for 1.: both of my parents have worked in healthcare with my father still being there as a surgeon. They owned 3 BMWs before. 2 were made with parts from various other BMWs, no wonder they were bad. 3rd one was an E39, but the M variant, so they had a racecar as a daily. Again, no explanation needed.
Context for 2.: we experience our country’s downfall pretty heavily, we’re shifting back into a communist regime again, healthcare and other fields like that eg: lawyers, teachers, etc are targeted heavily. They never really travelled until now as adults and don’t understand why I want to live differently than they used to.
I hope the context paragraphs help to give some insight on why they think how they think
Ps.: I’m not trying to confront them or make them appear as bad people, it just bothers me that they only support the things that’d be good for them