My birthday is tomorrow, and my lady keeps bugging me about what do I wanna do, and what do I want etc. I’m just not feeling it, cause I keep telling her 31 isn’t any big age milestone.
I don’t wanna keep making her feel bad, so what are some activities you guys did for your bday after 30?
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Nothing.
Work all day n maybe get some Mexican that evening.
I go golfing with my homies then have some beers outside while grilling (my bday is in July!)
Spend the money that I work for. This year, im taking my sports car to the track.
I typically forget it’s my birthday until my wife reminds me.
Go to Dave n Busters. Have some fun.
Hookers and cocaine
Birthdays stop at 16. I’m an adult and I probably won’t even remember it’s my birthday unless someone reminds me.
Usually just a nice restaurant experience, maybe an item sub $200 that I’ve been wanting to get (e.g. headphones, bedding). I typically make my larger purchases as needed.
Duuuude you’re speaking to all of us. Honestly my birthday is more about my wife than me now.
Just go to dinner with her and have a date night and that’ll be all she needs.
Surprise party at 30. A couple glasses of whiskey and steak every year after that. I had a cookout for 40. I spent most of the day grilling for my friends, and that’s exactly what I wanted. I even told others to get away from my grill when they asked to take over so that I could mingle. “They can come to me if they want to talk with me, otherwise Ill be over when I’m done feeding everyone.”
I haven’t really cared much for my birthday since my teen years, but thats a whole other story
I was in the same boat. I realized it meant a lot to her, which I didn’t entirely get, so I told her that going to one of my favourite restaurants would be great. Couple beers at home later on, and it honestly was a good time, and she felt better being able to do something for the day.
Have friends over for a party. Different vibe than parties in my 20s, but still very fun.
Or sometimes we just go to an expensive restaurant and splurge on a nice date night.
A few times we stayed in a hotel for a night.
I’ve done Distillery tours that were good even if you don’t drink (though more fun if you do). Indoor golf simulator or top golf.
Cried myself to sleep
I just like a nice dinner. Maybe a piece of cake.
Make memories. Time with loved ones, a nice meal, reminiscing about the last year… I would just pick an activity you enjoy, company you enjoy, and make a day of enjoying that activity in enjoyable company.
My last cake and celebration was 30s 😅 I mean there is nothing to celebrate after 30 😁
I stopped celebrating my birthday after I turned 18, I don’t care about it, people can gift me stuff, but I am not celebrating and I am not asking for presents.
I always celebrate. Usually have a dinner or meet ups for drinks with friends. My wife threw a party for me for my 40th. I think we should celebrate everything, only live once. Happy birthday!
Welcome to the age where if you want birthday stuff, it’s on you to organize it. It’s also the age where you have to convince your partners that “nothing” is acceptable and *not* “sad”. If she wants to show you that she cares or that it’s a “special day” then that’s fine, but it’s on her. Personally with my spouse we don’t celebrate birthdays or holidays at all, and it saves us from all the pressure. We get each other gifts when we feel like it, and it makes them 150% more impactful.
Order out or something, lol. Happy bidet.
Have your favorite meal for dinner, be it at home or out, and read a few cards my family sends. Other than that it’s all preference and timing.
I stopped caring about birthdays after around
15 or so. Grow up. Maybe have an ice cream cone and move on.
Nothing really… maybe get myself a cupcake.
I like a weekend camping with friends if I can organize it. But I get it, I’m turning 40 in a few months and my wife keeps asking what I want to do and I just don’t have any ideas
My wife takes me out for dinner to the same steakhouse every year and that’s what I’m happy with!
Might do something different for 32 though since myself and two close friends have back to back to back birthdays that line up on a weekend this year. It’s during deer season and we all hunt so we are trying to plan a hunting weekend together with our larger friend group to celebrate. Then it’s back to the same routine after that.
Nothing. It’s just another day.
At my current job, my first year, I mentioned my birthday was coming up. My boss (who was about a decade younger than me) INSISTED that I had to have it off. I told her I didn’t care, she scheduled me off.
The day rolled around, work was short staffed. I went in and worked just about a regular shift.
My wife gets me a ribeye and a bottle of whiskey (nothing crazy, like a $40-50 bottle or so) and watches our baby while I cook up the steak. She gets a sirloin (by request) and we have a nice meal. Before that she’d take me out to dinner. It doesn’t have to be crazy
Take this as a hint though, people like doing for others what they like having done to themselves often times. It’s just how people work, that’s her idea of doing something special. So make sure you do something special for hers 🙂
I drink and hang with my wife and kids. Get a nice dinner for takeout.
My wife makes me a surprise dinner, she invites my friends over, she bakes a nice cake, and we all have a drink or two and enjoy ourselves.
Something low-key like grilling out with family or playing a round of golf with my brothers and dad. My birthday is on July 4th so we usually shoot off some fireworks and have a little bonfire as well.
Nothing, last time I celebrated my birthday was when my parents insisted that I do as a child!
I don’t see the reason for it, it’s not my accomplishment.
Same thing I did when I was 12. Nothing.
Big dinner with the family, lots of gifts, put up a tree and decorate it with lights and ornaments, stockings on the mantle…Of course, my birthday is also Christmas, so maybe that doesn’t quite track with everybody else’s experiences…
I feel like life is made for celebrating whatever moments you can, from little things to huge things to the birthdays in between. If you can’t see the benefit of celebrating milestones like birthdays, I guess I’d ask why not? It doesn’t matter what society thinks of the number you’re at–just find a reason to celebrate the year, you know? Especially if you have people you care about around you.
Nothing
My birthdays haven’t been special ever. Not gonna trauma dump.
All I ask from my wife after I hit 30: Dave’s Hot Chicken combo #1 and a personal vanilla ice cream cake.
I haven’t done anything for my birthday since I was around ten.
drink
Can’t remember
Generally my girlfriend picks out dinner i guess – so we go out to eat. Usually some steak place.
If it were up to me I’d eat tacos at home and shoot some pool at the local bar.
Board game day at a brewery with friends, skydiving, fishing trip, camping trip, axe throwing, local food tour…plenty of cool stuff just to mark the occasion.
I use a vacation week and game my entire bday away while using the rest of the week to do shit I’ve been putting off, like house hold projects and doctor visits. Then my girl and I do a fancy dinner somewhere during the weekend so she doesn’t get sad about me hating birthday fuss. Everybody wins.
Last year wife organized my first celebration since I was in like Middle School. We had a few people over, it was nice.
Ideas:
Golf
Go to a local game (baseball, other sports)
Escape Room
Dinner
Hike
Try an alcohol who rarely get (nicer than usual whisky or beer)
Cigars
Poker
Paintball
Laser Tag
I went to work, mostly.
Last year it was on a Saturday though so I went a friend’s house, did some coke, and got a kitchen tattoo. Which made me realize that 43 is too old for doing coke and getting kitchen tattoos.
I just went bowling for my 32nd bday.
It’s not a typical activity I do but it’s fun, interactive and can be engaging with some good friends.
Plus we can get beers and have a light competitiveness variable to add to the night.
Plenty of places unlimited bowling at a price so people can leave whenever their ready.
Same thing I’ve done for every birthday after I was 18. Nothing. It’s what makes me happy.
I like to go out to dinner with my wife and kids and then have a couple friends over to play board games of my choosing.
Same thing I did for all my birthdays. Which, as an extreme introvert, is basically nothing. Do what makes you happy.
Some of my favorite post 30 bdays have been.
Go to the movies. Splurge on the popcorn.
Go to the library and rent a bunch of dvds and order a pizza like it’s a blockbuster party.
Go to a local bar and just watch a game. Get some wings. Chill.
Look up birthday freebies and drive around town getting free meals or desserts and shit. Jersey mikes. Ben and Jerry’s. A couple of local restaurants all have some good free stuff.
A day in bed with the misses. Wink wink. All day.
Hit the gym. Start the new age off on the right foot.
A do nothing day. Literally stay at home and do nothing.