I hate posting about relationship stuff, but this is beyond. My bf is estranged and is staying at home with me over the summer (we are students). He isn’t employed and doesn’t pay rent, neither do I, but i’ve had a surgery and would struggle to work due to my general health at the moment. His memory loss thing started fairly recently, I’ll ask for some water because I can’t stand and move to get it (surgery was on my foot), and he’ll come back upstairs with no water. It’s mostly happening when i’m asking for something, and he’ll either forget for a while or get confused and run back for it. It’s been ok for now, because I get what it’s like to be forgetful, but he has literally nothing else on his plate that could be causing this currently. It escalated yesterday as we all went out for a couple of hours for an event, everything was fine but when we got back, guess who’d left the front door wide open. Yup, wide open, for hours, with my car and house keys on the side table, i’m lucky they didn’t get stolen. Anyone could’ve walked in. I’m horrified and I snapped at him last night and said if it was memory loss and not plain carelessness he needed to go doctors on monday tomorrow. (he was the last one out as he’d promised to organise my parents car and take my wheelchair out, super convenient he’d forgot until we had to leave and he couldn’t get in). I’m sorry for the format and writing, i’m knackered, stressed and nobody in my house is talking to each other today. I’m so angry, I don’t know what it is and there’s no other “symptoms” he’s showing apart from basic laziness. Do I kick him out? Where do I go from here? I don’t want to put myself or my family in a vulnerable position because of this stuff, he’s left windows downstairs open and stuff before which has left the house unsecured overnight. It’s stressing me out.
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Have you guys lived together before? This could be what he’s like all the time, and you just hadn’t seen it yet. As someone with ADHD he sounds a lot like me, maybe get him to look into it? Good luck recovering from your surgery!