What do I (23f) do while he (31m) eats me out?

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I’m still super inexperienced and he’s actually the first guy to ever go down on me. I get really nervous every time and also shy and I haven’t had an orgasm from it yet.

It does feel good but I think I’m just too tense and in my head. I usually just close my eyes and moan, haha. Like it’s nice, but I’m never close to finishing.

When I masturbate I usually fantasize, so maybe I should try doing that while he’s going down on me—or maybe even watch him? To turn me on. But maybe he’ll get embarrassed.

Do any of you girls watch your guy when he’s eating you out to help you get more turned on? He watches me when I go down on him all the time.

Comments

  1. series_hybrid Avatar

    Every second, he is wondering if what he is doing is working for you. Most people are uncomfortable in specifically telling their partner exactly what is working, so you can encourage him when he is “hitting the right spot”

  2. YugeTraxofLand Avatar

    Best thing for me is to fantasize. It’s still very hard for me to get “out of my head,” I call it a mental block. Just think of whatever turns you on and try to relax and enjoy.

  3. Maximum-Celery9065 Avatar

    There are no rules! Try different things: watch, fantasize, tell him how it feels, tell him what you want him to do differently, or just relax and enjoy it.

  4. souryoungthing Avatar

    Hopefully: have an orgasm.

  5. softcore_UFO Avatar

    Watch. Instruct. Encourage. Enjoy 🪄

  6. Poison_the_Phil Avatar

    Squeeze head with thighs

  7. TeaBaggingGoose Avatar

    Communicate with him. Tell him when something feels good and he should continue to do it. Make a little noise, it will help you relax and will turn him on, knowing he’s giving you pleasure.

    I have given oral to woman who give zero feedback – honestly you wonder if you’re wasting your time or she is counting the seconds down for it to end.

  8. Ggoossee Avatar

    Grab his ears and go for a ride.

  9. gerundhome Avatar

    I love it when my partner runs her hands through my hair or grabs my hands when i go down on her, so that’s a possibility.

  10. mahblahblah Avatar

    Hi! Guy here (apologies if this perspective is unwelcome) – So all women are different. Different spots, motions, speeds, pressures. Every time I have ever gone down on a woman the first time I am learning what she likes. I’d say “worry” about your own pleasure, and give him feedback if it helps him give you more pleasure. Sure I love being watched, i love hands through my hair, I love hearing the woman enjoying what I am doing – but it all just means, to me, that I am making her feel good, which is the whole point.

  11. zoinkability Avatar

    Just close your eyes and think of England. /s

    But seriously, writhe, moan, exclaim when things are hitting right, touch his arms/head/shoulders/back, tell him what would take it to the next level, imagine what you want to happen next. Be an active participant in your own pleasure!