I (27M) got out of a 6 year relationship last month (27F), two weeks later I met a girl (25F) at the club and we hit off. We were making out all night then went to a diner after the club closed and had some deep conversations. I dropped her off home and she kissed me goodbye and told me she’d come home with me if I come back to the club next week. I did, and she did. The sex was phenomenal, but the conversations between and after sex were, believe it or not, even better. We had breakfast at a different diner the next morning then I dropped her home and she said we can hangout next week.
I already told her I’m not in a place to get into something serious and she said she isn’t either. But now I regret saying that because I felt feelings with her that I never did with my ex. If we hangout again, should I bring up exclusivity or keep it open and see where it goes? Or should I just not hangout anymore if she’s not open to exclusivity and just focus on myself.
But here’s the thing, I’m discovering that I don’t like one night stands. So I’d rather have my sexual needs met by an amazing girl like her that I can also build a meaningful connection with rather than emotionless sex with multiple women. Idk if I’m falling for her because I’m in a vulnerable state or because she’s amazing or both.
How do I proceed without scaring her off with my intense emotions?
Tldr: I’m scared of scaring a girl I have a crush on with my emotions and don’t know how to proceed, especially after breaking up from a 6 -year relationship.
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Does she know you just got out of a long relationship?