When I introduce her to one of my interests she doesn’t like it and has nothing good to say about it and expresses her dis-enjoyment of it in a very blunt way.
But you (me) being their partner, feel as though you were supportive of their interests even though you thought they were ‘meh’, but you always found at least some positives to say and enjoyed that they enjoyed it. But you don’t really feel the same energy.
I can’t just be like “actually if I wanted to I could have acted the same way to you” can I?
How are you supposed to say “well I felt that way about yours” when you did such a good job feigning at least baseline appreciation towards their interests when for any other person you wouldn’t have. And they didn’t for you?
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What you do is decide if it’s a deal breaker or not whether she shows interest and/or is shitty about it. If it is, leave. If it’s not, then continue to deal with it knowing that’s the deal. You could absolutely say that you could have acted the same way, but it’ll result in absolutely nothing.
Communicate how you feel as it relates to your interests and how you’d like her to deal with them. No one needs to be aligned on everything, but they can and should be respectful of them. However, if again it’s important to you to get a certain response/participation, then decide if it’s a deal breaker and make a decision accordingly. Good luck.
Neither of you needs to pretend to find something to like about the other person’s interest if it’s not your thing; you just need to stick with “I’m happy if you’re happy,” and she needs to not go out of her way to be a jerk about it. If she can’t manage that, then maybe it’s time to start asking yourself if you really want to be with someone you have so little in common with if they can’t even be polite about it.
Just find somebody that actually gives a fuck about you.
I listen to punk music and watch weird documentaries because that’s what my bf likes. He helps rearrange my artwork 10000 times and comes to dinners with my friends even though he finds a lot of it boring. We do things we both like, we take one for the team. That’s what being in a relationship is about.
OP did you just gender reverse the thread from yesterday to pull a “Reddit simps for women” test?