I’m 15F, and my brother is 19M. So I’ll start from the time where he got into an online relationship- and my mother read his chats with his gf and it was all just sexting. He was scolded, but back then they were still together. Now, one day my mother gets a call, it’s a threatening call, where my mother was forced to pay 5k, because my brother put his number in some porn website. And 5k is a lot in my country. And then one day, he left his phone open with him messasing my cousin- and again it was straight up porn. I know I invaded his privacy (I already made a post about this on another sub, but they were all just bashing me instead of providing solutions), but I don’t want him to waste his years. He has to crack his medical exam, which is extremely difficult, yet he doesn’t seem that serious. I checked his chats on insta with our cousin, and it was just reels of half-naked women. What do I do? I don’t want him to waste his years, and please just move on if you’re going to bash me on “invading his privacy”. I know it’s wrong, even if I did it out of care. I need a solution, not criticism.
What do I do about my brother’s p*rn addiction?
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How about you mind your own business , how about that ?
What solution is there to give? I don’t quite see proof here that he has an actual “problem” besides making a bad choice with the phone number. Do you actually have any reason to believe this is truly inhibiting his life?
He is an adult. He can do what he likes, you don’t really have the right to DECIDE that he has a problem that needs fixing.
So, girly… sadly it is normal for men to look at porn. Unfortunately you had to see this side of your brother but that’s just how a lot of boys are and maybe it’s just a phase or maybe not but I highly doubt it’s going to ruin his life. I get that you’re concerned but there’s nothing you can do and honestly if you could I don’t think you should because lecturing your older brother on porn is actually crazy and super uncomfortable/invasive.
I mean, sounds like a normal dude to me. A lot of the boys’ group chats have the one dude that just constantly sends degenerate shit.
Also, Haunting_Bicycle isn’t incorrect, he’s 19, and it really isn’t your business at this point.
If I had any actual advice for you, it would be to just do nothing. I understand your concern, but he’ll do fine.
Also, people—as in me—need a little more context on the whole putting his phone-number into a porn site. I’ve never seen or heard of a porn site asking for a phone-number unless it’s a super obvious scam. If that’s the case, then he just made a stupid mistake because he was horny.
Not your circus… not your monkeys… mind you damn business
Just smear some caulk over it.
Its weird that a sister is so concerned about her brothers sex life.
I apologize in advance if this comes off a bit harsh…
Nothing.
There is nothing you need to do about it. He’s 19 you are 15. It is not your place to worry about his porn habit. he will get it out of his system at some point or it will consume him. Either way it is not your problem nor is it really your business. He is an adult and while I understand you mother’s frustration there is nothing she can do about it either. As for the 5k your mother should have made your brother pay it as it was not her problem either. If it continues to be an issue he is an adult and there is no reason your mother needs to allow him to live in her house.
Maybe try to talk to your parents about it. Nothing much else you can do as his sister. It’s a good thing you are worried about it potentially messing up his education and future, p*rn addiction can really f up your motivation and drive. Best of luck to you I think you’re a really great sister
You just have to let natural selection do its thing at this point. He cannot be saved, but he can be stopped from reproducing
You want ur brother to be gay? Wht do u want? He has a high sex drive. Let him fuck