So me and one of my mates haven spoken for about a year, just drifted apart. He was one of my best mates growing up and there’s always been a part of me that wants to reconnect with him. We snap back and forth but no words are ever said. What would be and appropriate thing to do that allows us to catch each other up on life. Keeping in mind we’re both 17 so going to the pub for a beer is off the table. Thanks
What do men do with their male friends?
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walk around the city, hike, go out for dinner
Fishing?
I was gonna say go to the pub for a beer. For me, it’s beers at a bar or we occasionally will have a whisky tasting at one of our houses. We also play basketball a lot and I have a few friends that I’ll go for runs/jogs with on Saturday morning. Other than that, my kids are young – so a lot of my “new friends” are their schoolmates’ parents or the other parents from the baseball or footy teams.
If you’re that young and haven’t talked in a year, that’s a lot different than drifting apart because one of you is raising kids or moved for a new job.
Why did you drift apart? Why do you want to un-drift? That might dictate how best to reconcile.
Try and have a hobby in common or a group thing you would like to do together.
Adults don’t spend time together like you do at school.
They have independence. Find a common hobby or go on a road trip?
I go to gym with my friends
Play magic. Or jerk eachother off
Go the soggy sao
Low effort: grab coffee, grab a burger somewhere, go watch a movie, meet up to play a video game
Higher effort: go for a hike, go for a drive / road trip somewhere
You don’t really need a pretext to catch up with friends. You can just say “hey we haven’t spoken in a while. Want to catch up?”. Then just meet up somewhere and grab food
Touch tips
You’re 17 and you don’t know how to hang out with a friend?
Figure out anything you like doing outside of the house and offer to catch up while doing it.
Smoke weed, watch sports, go fishing, help eachother move or do yardwork, Bible studies or religious/philosophical debate
Go fishing, camping, work on cars, get together and bullshit. You know, stuff people do with their friends.
Go to the gym. Hang at a bar. Go golfing
Wait ya’ll still have friends? Im normally either gaming alone or hanging out with my wife all the guys i grew up with are too busy nowadays
Go for a walk, have coffee or something sweet, discuss what happened in your life over the years, ask about his life and show interest in him.
Good luck!
Practice kissing, you just gotta say no homo before and after
This is a very weird question. Your wording is like you’ve been friends for decades lol.
It depends. I play video games with my buds but we all moved away after college so finding time to hang out after work makes it hard especially since one of them is a bartender and I’m working from early morning to mid evening. When we do hang we like to have a few beers and just catch up with everything- keep in mind 90% of us have girlfriends too so making time is even more difficult.
My best friend came to visit me for the first time since I moved out of the country 4 years ago. We hung out and painted miniatures together.
Next time we’re gonna build Gundams.
It’s a great way to catch up. Throw on some music, break out the tools and just chill and chat.
Pick up something fun together that’s not a video game that gets you out of someone’s house
Have fun
Just hang around your house and drink beer.
Play cards, play video games, go to a movie, find a wings place and talk while watching whatever sports are on, go fishing. Literally anything that can be done can be done with a friend.
I’m a woman but i remember my dad taking me fishing and camping and hiking. Maybe going to a game if your into that. Video games possibly.
We talk about shoes, clothing, boobs, cars, favorite food, balls, sports, not understanding women, cats, and bodily noises.
Sometimes we throw stuff.
They kiss 😘
Make plans with your friends and carry them out? We can’t plan your day out for you, I’m sure you know things you both life. Friends come and go and the ones that should go are the ones who always find a way out of plans and who vaguely communicate, if at all. Like if you guys snap each other for the sole purpose of maintaining a steak you should make a plan and if they bail on it then it’s time for a new friend
Play games mostly. Go get food. Random other activities like laser tag, bowling, escape rooms
Compare willy sizes
Me and my buddy hang out a lot, sometimes I just need somebody for emotional support when I’m doing my taxes or texting a girl I really like, in return I help him with his garden, clean the house, chill and watch TV, make food, smoke a cigarette and talk, whatever feels right.
My best friend I don’t see as often, but we grab coffee and play chess, go on hikes, and play video games.
I’m in AA and with my friends from that we often go out to dinner before or after a meeting.
You’re 17 and when I was 17 we used to smoke a lot of weed, do psychedelics, and play music. Maybe avoid the drugs until you’re like 25 and your brain has finished developing. Weed, at least, can be really damaging to your frontal cortex when you use it a lot at a young age. But playing music, that’s healthy at all ages
Go do something fun like race go karts, play laser tag, go camping or fishing or kayaking, or put all your gear in some kayaks and do all 3 for a couple of days, go ride bmx bikes at 3am around town, have a bon fire, play golf, go to the batting cages. Just, go have fun, my dude! The world is your oyster!
Archery, motorcycle, video games, bbq outside and chit chat, bowling, bicycle, basketball, axe throwing, go to the movies, camping, dungeons and dragons, magic the gathering, medieval battles,paintball
All things I do with friends.
Soggy biscuit
Circle jerk.
Video games! Pool. Darts. Bowling. Chat up girls.
Me and my male friends have hot gay sex (no homo).
Nothing gay for sure
“hey bud, haven’t seen you in a while, let’s grab lunch/hit the gym/watch people in the park/play hackey-sack/go for a walk”
There are so many activities, pick one you think you’d both like and ask.
Send memes go to the gym convince each other to smoke while on probation
This is why sports are so important for men. What can you guys do or talk about? Sports!!!!
Could you go for a wander round your area to places you hung out when you were younger?
Curse at each other
Objectives. We bond thru function with a target in mind
Smoke weed
Talk …… Dine out …. Discuss the things
we cook and play games
Toast party!!!!!
You’re 17, go play video games and get on discord.
Maybe I’m old but go shoot pool
Just hang out, sometimes we will hang out at someone’s house but when I was your age we would usually meetup someplace and go hiking at the lake or go cause trouble.
playing game , gym , football and talk about girls that we have known
This comment section is pretty homo
Complain about women mostly.
Hang
Butt stuff mostly
Drinking copious amounts of beer. Thats what keeps my friend group together.
Just hit him up and say something simple like “yo we should hang soon.” Keep it casual—go for a walk, play some games, hit up a movie, whatever feels low pressure. Most guys just chill, joke around, and catch up naturally while doing something side by side. You don’t need a deep talk to reconnect, it’ll come on its own once the vibe’s back.
Talk about hobbies or get drunk together. Or both at the same time.
Well we just do whatever we like. We hang out in our rooms and chill. We play video games together, go out to eat together, go watch movies together, go do activities together. Just normal every day shit expect your bro is there with you.
Play pool. Movies.
Mostly just call each other gay on discord
We ride our motorcycles, go mountain biking, and stuff like that!
You could call him, that’s what I do after not talking with a friend for awhile.
I play videogames with them once a week and I run a (mostly) online D&D campaign via FoundryVTT with a few others every other week. I’m in my mid-50’s. I also annually or bi-annually suggest some kind of get together to meet at a pub or restaurant with my old coworkers and I also every couple of months invite the D&D guys over for a board game.
It doesn’t take a lot of effort to stay connected, just a shared hobby or interest (even if it is just 70% getting to hang out and 30% tolerating whatever you are doing together), picking a date and a time that works for most.
We get food. Play ball. Catch a show. Play video games. Smoke weed. Movies. Touch tips? Hangout and do nothing
Drink drugs watch sports go to concerts find stuff to do with our kids together
Offer food, entertainment and their drug of choice.
Could be going for a hike, grabbing dinner and a drink. Or it could be ordering take out, playing board games and smoking weed.
Ski, hike, skateboard, and paddleboarding are the main things I usually am doing with friends.
Sometimes, we might get a fire started on a Friday or Saturday night and have some beers and toke some ganja.
Our wives are typically involved, too, though. They are all skier and hiker types for the most part.
Normalize homie head ✌️
I would do what we used to do together. Play games, chill, watch a movie, talk about stupid shit, work out, biking, skateboarding, you name it! If these are really people that want you in their lives, they will make the time!
I can’t help but hear Barry White playing in the background rofl
You’re just growing up. Maybe you don’t really have anything in common anymore. I’m 35 and starting to feel this way about most of my friends that I’ve known since I was 12. I’ve always been more into playing sports and following politics. They watch sports but aren’t into physical activities. And seem completely uninterested in what’s happening around them politically. But when we get together it’s all good. It’s not a date, just hangout
I don’t have any friends.
Buggery.
I have a friend like this, we may go years with out talking them next thing you know we hang out and catch up, do that a few times over a couple months then we both get busy with life and the cycle repeats. I could call him right now and he would most likely answer or call back asap
Find a shared hobby to do together. I realized late in life that I just want to co-play with my friends. If there’s no shared hobbies, help each other with a project or something.
My friend and I would text each other “you wanna go get gas with me” if we didn’t know what else to do but wanted to hang out. Stupid but stupid is fun. 😂
men? make friends?
tell them how much you love them and touch them
Video games.
Men tend to do better connecting emotionally when they both have a task that they are doing with their hands. Often this is video games, but any kind of tandem activity works. This is why dudes in old movies and TV shows often fixed cars together. You could golf, low impact enough for talking and catching up. You could make a Lego model. Any kind of arts and crafts really but because of misogyny/patriarchy arts and crafts is seen as weak and feminine and silly so we call arts and craft for men things like legos and wood working lol. Jigsaw puzzles. Fixing anything. Cleaning up a public area (just last week me and a friend cleaned up a little pond near our place with just a disposable glove and a Walmart shopping bag lol. Anything where you are doing something and can look at that. Men generally aren’t as good at women as connecting on a deep level while looking at each other directly and focusing on each other. I’ve asked why and usually got some variation of “feels gay” 🙄🙄🙄
Videogames. Duh.
Dutch rudder
What did you do with your friend before?
Go from there.
Some advice… “Boys will be boys.” There is a positive side to that saying. You’ll rediscover it.
Stuff, activities, shoot guns, work out, ride motorcycles, etc
Brojobs
I lost touch with some friends when we each had kids and got overrun by family life and responsibilities, but you’re only 17. Pull your finger out and get outside and do something together. Go for a hike, go to the park and kick or throw a ball around, go for a bike ride, go to the beach and buy a burger and chips, go camping, or one of a million other things.