Not to have to carry the whole chat myself. If all I’m getting is “oh yeah” or “ur hot” I’m flattered by the attention, but I would love a little more effort. One guy made sure that everything he said was something that would make me jump his bones if he said it in front of me. That’s not what I expect from everyone, but if I could have at least 10% of that.
I feel like it’s hotter to focus on the desired experience rather than the physicalities. I’d rather you tell me you want to be inside me than tell me “I want your 😸 so bad”
like cool that’s what you want but what do I want?
Sorry idk if I’m the best at explaining it but sometimes guys focus on the things they find attractive and describe them in detail and it’s really self serving. I don’t care to hear all about my sexy breasts and ass. You talking about them doesn’t turn me on cause I’m not into tits and ass.
Guy here. I have been sexting with women for a little over a decade, and what is being sought by most women is literature which makes them feel physically connected with you. Empathy and good elaboration which guides them through every physical feeling. Dont force yourself on her unless she asks you to. Dont send unsolicited pictures unless it has become a norm for y’all. Be understanding, and be elaborate. Everything falls in place eventually.
Not a woman, but I’ve found that it like all things, it depends on the woman. Some like long, descriptive messages that really paint a picture of the scenario in mind.
Some just like to be complimented and praised.
The dudes pretending to be women just wanna see your dick.
I look for connection first. We need to be able to talk easily and understand each other at once. If I have to explain for the second or third time what I made by my previous comment, then whatever we have already built up starts to lose the appeal for me. On the other hand, if the dialogue between us, both in and out of character, runs smoothly, the rest is usually easy to fix. Like, he wants this and that, I would prefer something else, but we can talk about it playfully and reach an agreement. (Tbh, I mostly agree to almost everything 🤣)
I’m the same. I want to imagine the connection and what is feel beyond the descriptions but I also understand for guys it’s the visual or imagining that turns them on lol
I’m only going to speak about this from my personal opinion, but I love being told what to do, and pushed to my limits. I love being abused, but of course being loved after care.
Not saying this is healthy but being used and abused helps me cope with past trauma. If your partner is into this make sure to do supportive after care and make sure they are loved and cared for
I’m assuming they expect you to sit there with your dick in your hand. I prefer to invite over and whisper what sexy things into their ears as a form of softer foreplay.
As far as I have seen they just want you to also put some effort while texting. Conveying your desire properly rather then spitting yes, oh fuck and all. But I again it depends. One of my ex also asked naked photos while texting.
Goddamn it gentlemen get descriptive! Let the passion flow through your words. Read some smut if you need some inspiration, don’t be afraid of getting real naughty but don’t be crass. You need to be able to not only elaborate on what you’re typing, but have it lead into the next while also leaving space open for them to add.
Sexting is a creative writing exercise, so get creative!
It’s nice to hear things that they want to do with you if you were with them. I don’t want to say I’m the best at it, but if most reaction I get is just a reaction to the words and not a continuation of the convo it’s just gets… boring and then I get awkward cause I feel like I’m pulling at someone.
So someone who’s happy to engage with you about it even if it’s a bit cheesy sometimes.
Women tend to be highly imaginative, so it’s important to be vivid and sensory in your approach. Create an experience/fantasy, not just a message. If you know what she likes, tailor your words to that. Subtlety and finesse go a long way; avoid being overly blunt or clumsy with your language. It also helps if you’re genuinely engaged, people can often sense when you’re not fully present, and that can kill the mood. Confidence plays a big role here. Ultimately, don’t rush things or come off as overly hesitant. Learn to read the other person’s signals, but don’t be afraid to lead and guide the moment either.
Think about all the naughty books that women love reading. There’s a reason they enjoy that. The best thing you can do to really turn her on is to craft a passionate scene and describe in detail what’s happening. Pretend you’re an author, and you’re the main character of their favorite erotica book, and you guys are having “that” scene. Mix in with noods to spice it up further.
Be unique, I feel like some men have a script, sometimes I hear the same thing “baby you taste so good” 🙄. And no nicknames, don’t call me baby or hun or sweetie etc
Man here. I used to write what was more or less erotic novels about us in a different situations.
Started with a location and a specific setting, moved on to romantic foreplay and teasing, of to more rough stuff before climax, then some calm and cute fade out.
Only negative part was it felt a bit exhausting to write what could end up as 300-500 word messages on on a cellphone 😅
let’s just say she really loved it and showed it when we had time to see each other physically.
What I dont seek or expect is D pics, unless I ask for them. I know guys expect pics, cuz they are more visual, but it would help if guys understand we are not.
Tbh, I’m extremely extremely forward, and fairly graphic, and they absolutely fucking love it. In saying that, I know my audience, and everything I’m writing about has generally already happened, or will happen.
Woman here.
Never make a woman carry the whole chat on her own — write to her with detail, put yourself into it, not just empty lines like “oh yeah baby, I’m close.”
A woman always looks for open and genuine involvement.
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they want to feel sexy and find out the guys intentions (like what kind of sex they might have if they were to take it IRL)
Unsolicited dick pics
Be descriptive, paint a picture with your words, take it nice and slow, tailor it to her responses
Biblical scriptures,
Not to have to carry the whole chat myself. If all I’m getting is “oh yeah” or “ur hot” I’m flattered by the attention, but I would love a little more effort. One guy made sure that everything he said was something that would make me jump his bones if he said it in front of me. That’s not what I expect from everyone, but if I could have at least 10% of that.
I feel like it’s hotter to focus on the desired experience rather than the physicalities. I’d rather you tell me you want to be inside me than tell me “I want your 😸 so bad”
like cool that’s what you want but what do I want?
Sorry idk if I’m the best at explaining it but sometimes guys focus on the things they find attractive and describe them in detail and it’s really self serving. I don’t care to hear all about my sexy breasts and ass. You talking about them doesn’t turn me on cause I’m not into tits and ass.
Guy here. I have been sexting with women for a little over a decade, and what is being sought by most women is literature which makes them feel physically connected with you. Empathy and good elaboration which guides them through every physical feeling. Dont force yourself on her unless she asks you to. Dont send unsolicited pictures unless it has become a norm for y’all. Be understanding, and be elaborate. Everything falls in place eventually.
Not a woman, but I’ve found that it like all things, it depends on the woman. Some like long, descriptive messages that really paint a picture of the scenario in mind.
Some just like to be complimented and praised.
The dudes pretending to be women just wanna see your dick.
No involvement
To have an orgasm lol
Describe things in detail so I can picture it. Paint me a picture (not a literal picture unless I ask, and I might) and make it yummy.
Un tesoro unico e inigualable!
Full bush
I look for connection first. We need to be able to talk easily and understand each other at once. If I have to explain for the second or third time what I made by my previous comment, then whatever we have already built up starts to lose the appeal for me. On the other hand, if the dialogue between us, both in and out of character, runs smoothly, the rest is usually easy to fix. Like, he wants this and that, I would prefer something else, but we can talk about it playfully and reach an agreement. (Tbh, I mostly agree to almost everything 🤣)
I’m the same. I want to imagine the connection and what is feel beyond the descriptions but I also understand for guys it’s the visual or imagining that turns them on lol
Hand pics and voice notes of you orgasming can be like a cheat code to some tbh. Consensually, of course.
Connection
attention
Details and a good language
I’m only going to speak about this from my personal opinion, but I love being told what to do, and pushed to my limits. I love being abused, but of course being loved after care.
Not saying this is healthy but being used and abused helps me cope with past trauma. If your partner is into this make sure to do supportive after care and make sure they are loved and cared for
Mind games.
Where can we find ladies who are actively willing to sext?
Like a script to the movie on your mind: A detailed description of what you wanna do to me, what would turn you on and what you feel by imagining it.
Make me feel your lust, your desire by reading about it!
I once came pretty hard from sexting, without touching myself, just by reading and moving my hips back and forth.
It was an amazing experience!
Dick pics 100% my dude, just out of the blue aswell
It makes them go feral, especially if its your opening move
Patience. Respect enough to know when you can be a little “disrespectful”. Some focus.
Why are you asking on a platform filled with men?
Here are some highly effective examples:
https://www.albinoblacksheep.com/text/bloodninja
I’m assuming they expect you to sit there with your dick in your hand. I prefer to invite over and whisper what sexy things into their ears as a form of softer foreplay.
Don’t get distracted with random sexual conversation keep the rhythm in texts
As far as I have seen they just want you to also put some effort while texting. Conveying your desire properly rather then spitting yes, oh fuck and all. But I again it depends. One of my ex also asked naked photos while texting.
Goddamn it gentlemen get descriptive! Let the passion flow through your words. Read some smut if you need some inspiration, don’t be afraid of getting real naughty but don’t be crass. You need to be able to not only elaborate on what you’re typing, but have it lead into the next while also leaving space open for them to add.
Sexting is a creative writing exercise, so get creative!
It’s nice to hear things that they want to do with you if you were with them. I don’t want to say I’m the best at it, but if most reaction I get is just a reaction to the words and not a continuation of the convo it’s just gets… boring and then I get awkward cause I feel like I’m pulling at someone.
So someone who’s happy to engage with you about it even if it’s a bit cheesy sometimes.
Women tend to be highly imaginative, so it’s important to be vivid and sensory in your approach. Create an experience/fantasy, not just a message. If you know what she likes, tailor your words to that. Subtlety and finesse go a long way; avoid being overly blunt or clumsy with your language. It also helps if you’re genuinely engaged, people can often sense when you’re not fully present, and that can kill the mood. Confidence plays a big role here. Ultimately, don’t rush things or come off as overly hesitant. Learn to read the other person’s signals, but don’t be afraid to lead and guide the moment either.
Do not use the words “Boobies” or “hooters” in a text🤣 It doesn’t go well.
Think about all the naughty books that women love reading. There’s a reason they enjoy that. The best thing you can do to really turn her on is to craft a passionate scene and describe in detail what’s happening. Pretend you’re an author, and you’re the main character of their favorite erotica book, and you guys are having “that” scene. Mix in with noods to spice it up further.
Consent, creativity, and at least some plot this isn’t a loading screen, gimme lore
I just want love😔
Be unique, I feel like some men have a script, sometimes I hear the same thing “baby you taste so good” 🙄. And no nicknames, don’t call me baby or hun or sweetie etc
And tenderness and rudeness🫷🏻🤷🏼♀️
Man here. I used to write what was more or less erotic novels about us in a different situations.
Started with a location and a specific setting, moved on to romantic foreplay and teasing, of to more rough stuff before climax, then some calm and cute fade out.
Only negative part was it felt a bit exhausting to write what could end up as 300-500 word messages on on a cellphone 😅
let’s just say she really loved it and showed it when we had time to see each other physically.
To be cuddled after
What I dont seek or expect is D pics, unless I ask for them. I know guys expect pics, cuz they are more visual, but it would help if guys understand we are not.
Attention.
Tbh, I’m extremely extremely forward, and fairly graphic, and they absolutely fucking love it. In saying that, I know my audience, and everything I’m writing about has generally already happened, or will happen.
its all about fantasy i guess.
Posts like this give a bad reputation to reddit
Woman here.
Never make a woman carry the whole chat on her own — write to her with detail, put yourself into it, not just empty lines like “oh yeah baby, I’m close.”
A woman always looks for open and genuine involvement.
Reading and taking notes from the comments (I’m never going to experience sexting)