If you are going out, especially on a weekend night, to a place where you intend to meet women, what do you do beforehand to build your confidence or hype yourself up? My go to is the gym and a good forearm and shoulder workout so I can really feel the effects. I’m not super social but I feel like I have more confidence if I can feel that I’ve worked out recently especially my upper body. Any other advice would be appreciated
What do you do to build confidence?
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Wear a clean fit with nice cologne. Looking good makes me feel confident. I’ve also been complimented enough times on how I dress to feel confident in it.
Penis pump
Put on some music. Take a shower, line up my beard. Get my fit right. Take a drink. Gotta smell fresh, gotta look fresh. Then go get ‘er.
You got this, bredda
I try to do what I can to make myself look as best I can. Make sure clothing is ironed if it needs to be, lint-rolled if it needs to be, that my outfit matches, that I don’t stink, that my hair is done up, my teeth are clean and I’ve got gum/mint etc.
As they say, in my case it’s a bit like putting lipstick on a pig, but it still gives me a boost to confidence when I am not worrying about something appearance-wise that I can handle.
Watch this mans video.
Just look them in the eyes and see them smile
Well, for starters, there is no faking confidence. Doesn’t matter what anybody says. Real confidence isn’t spoken to others, it’s felt by others. Why say this? You’ll be better off for it. Not just a bar scene, but most aspects of life. First step, you need to make sure you want to be confident, cuz it does take some effort. Second, get used to a mindset of not caring about others opinions. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take constructive criticism, or advice. This means don’t take things personally, especially when you know there’s no weight to the words. Third, work on yourself. Make an effort to look in the mirror and give yourself compliments, and praise for progress made. You said you go to the gym, so when you notice you’ve built more muscle, give yourself props for self improvement.
Now, a few things for social settings. Hygiene is obviously important. Nicely trimmed hair, clean face, fresh smell, and a nice outfit. When it comes to interactions with other people, one of the biggest things to remember is most awkward situations are only awkward if you let them be. Obviously creepy things and such are just weird, but if you say something, and it clearly didn’t land then try and find a way to turn that fail into a funny crack at yourself. The key to social interaction is confidence in what you say and do, and the key to confidence is not overthinking your actions, and beating yourself up over them. Some of the funniest people I’ve ever known say and do socially awkward things, but they are funny, and great people to be around, because they know how to recover with confidence.