Im (27M) often running in my neighborhood and it’s such a weird feeling when I can tell a someone is staring at me.
Today I finished a run and walked home down my street and this dude who was staring at me looks away as I give him the ✌️sign (I low key caught him looking and he probably thought he was in the clear).
I’m not scary lookin dude I have chest and knee tattoos visible when working out but I find it so weird I often get the attention of other men a lot. Not in a gay way in like a nosey way ,it’s the strangest thing.
Has any experienced this and if so what do others do when you catch them staring?
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Say, “Hi! Would like to take a picture? It’ll last longer”. 🙃🥂
I can’t say I experience that often enough to make note but I’d probably be on alert or standby, just in case.
unless theyre being overly weird or aggressive, i wouldnt think too much about it. technically, cant stop somebody from just using their eyes lol. but i get it bruh. i wouldnt worry about it unless theyre making you feel overly uncomfortable, i suppose.
If this happens all the time, it’s something very obvious that you’re oblivious to, or it’s all in your head.
Just smile.
Sometimes that’s all it takes to make someone’s day.
I ignore people and mind my own business. If someone wants to stare, well… get a good look cuz I don’t care
Well I’m bi so I usually smile or if he’s cute I wink. I’m categorized as a bear in gay/bi culture. Personally I might be looking at your tattoos; But if you caught me staring I would definitely look away in embarrassment, especially since with ADHD I don’t always realize I am. Even the way you describe yourself sounds appealing. 😉
Edit: Oh you asked what other guys do if I catch them staring! My bad. Well since I usually wink at them for staring they usually either do a double take, look away, scowl, or seem surprised and confused at the same time. 😌
Subtle nod down to say “hey I saw you looking at me.” Subtle nod up to “hey what’s up.” Based on the look on your face either can be positive or negative.
Probably thinking that guy looks cool. Maybe I should go out running.
I don’t do anything. Maybe a nice little wave? “How’s it going”?
He probably thought you were cute
I think it is natural to stare at the black spot on a white canvas. If you look very different from the background, then yes people will have a natural instincts to stare because you stand out. If it is because you have tattoos in a place most people don’t show it off, flashy clothes, or anything else that could be physically very different from surroundings. I think you don’t need to pay too much mind to it.
The traditional downward nod and keep on my way
I usually grab a handful of chest hair and rip it out never breaking eye contact or showing any pain. Establish dominance
Probably thought you looked familiar and was trying figure out where they know you from
We’re all just animals underneath it all. People are just sizing you up, comparing, deciding if you’re a threat, etc. etc. I HATE unwanted attention but, I’m 6’4″ and get it wherever I go – I’ve learned to block it out/ ignore it after all these years. I’d say if anything, consider it flattering that you’re garnering their attention.
Could be he was checking you out.
There’s a guy who runs in my neighborhood who wears nothing but spandex shorts and an arm band to hold his phone.
I am looking disrespectfully as he deserves for putting it on display like that. That poor kilbasa is fighting for its life in them shorts getting Shaken Baby syndrome bouncing off his thighs.
You still care when people stare? Seems like you handled it well enough. People are gonna people bro, you shouldn’t let it bother you. If they stare and aren’t being violent then why care?
Either a nod up to say what’s up and acknowledge them, or if it’s someone I know I’ll make a jacking off motion while maintaining eye contact
Usually, I’m aware but act as if I don’t. I’m usually measuring their intentions, and the vast majority of the time, they’re just looking through me. If my instinct tells me to be cautious, I listen, and will usually meet their eyes, so they’re aware I’m well aware they’re there. For potential pickpockets or beggars, that’s usually enough to get them to back off.
I’m pretty in tune with people looking at me, but I’m used to women more so than me. But I certainly have had guys inspecting me, in both a gay way and not. But honestly, I’ve only had a few instances where I needed to be aggressive with other guys out in public, in my whole life, so it’s not usually an issue.
Usually I will briefly return eye contact, and that will be enough to break them out of their spell. They’ll either look away or we’ll exchange a courteous smile.
If they continue staring, I will pointedly return the stare without attempting to be friendly.
I can’t explain why, but being stared at triggers some kind of lizard brain defensive attitude. I am a pretty big dude so I either feel a threat or disgust when someone else is just staring.
I realize it’s not the best behavior for avoiding confrontation. That said, it has (so far) resulted in the staring stopping.
Some people are just running on Windows 95 inside.
Throw up some finger guns
I don’t think anything of it anymore. Guys and gals stare and look and it has nothing to do with me. I can feel it out the corner of my eye and just don’t look back but let them keep staring. It’s weird yes and I do my fair share of people watching but I strive to not stare.
Most women will only check you out if you’re looking in the other direction. If your head starts turning their way, they have trained since childhood to look away before your eyes ever reach them.
So most of the time, the only ones you will ever see just looking at you openly is other straight guys. Gay guys look of course, but in my experience it’s more likely to be judging the hell out of you, or obviously checking you out. lol
Ask any guy who rides a motorcycle. 90% of the time they get approached by older men and little kids. Women will be conveniently looking anywhere else but at you or your bike. At least when you look at them.
Smile & wave like a weirdo