I’m a 28 year old woman. My body stats are: 5’6-5’7, 176 pounds/80kg.
Growing up, I never had boys interested in me. In fact, no one has ever had a crush on me. I know I’m not strikingly beautiful. I’m a bit chubby/thick. I don’t want to brag but I’ve been told I have a hourglass figure. I am actively trying to lose around 5kg/11 pounds. I want to keep some of my thickness so I don’t see myself losing more than that.
Anyway, back to the point. I went to this event last night with my friend where you stick flags stickers on your chest and you are encouraged to approach people and talk to them. Its not the typical bar where mostly people keep to themselves. You’re actually meant to approach people, almost like a singles event.
Guys came up to me and talked to me but no one asked for my digits but 2 guys approached my friend for her number. I am not jealous of my friend but I was sort of sad no guys asked for my number lol.
Overall, I think I’m like a 5-6/10. Maybe after I lose some weight, I will be more attractive. I think my personality makes up for my lack of physical attractiveness. Ive been told I’m bubbly, warm and outgoing. So, if you made it this far, what do you think I should do? Is it okay to be average looking?
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Of course it’s ok to be average. You don’t even need to lose the weight and there will be someone who likes you. Or, if you want to be hot, work with a trainer/nutritionist and put a plan together – and work it. You really can be whatever you want.
80kg at 5ft6 as a women is ridiculous regardless of how it is held, u are really fat
Shocking revelation here. Everyone is average looking. Like fucking everyone. You might think X or Y is hot but next to people that are just as attractive, they are average. The problem is that we have people that are picked out cause people find them attractive and never see the rest of the attractive population. The same goes for ‘ugly’ people. We are all just average.
What does this mean? Ultimately nothing and how you look doesn’t greatly matter in the quest to find a mate. Someone will find you attractive at some point. It is up to you to act on that. Also, don’t give a damn what anyone thinks you look like. They don’t matter unless they are your mate. You should only seek to appease whoever you wish to impress upon.
I am average, with no defining qualities outside of my skills in my job and hobbies. And I just don’t care.
Lose weight, make dude fall in love with you, gain weight back. Simple three step program to finding love
In all seriousness, try to be healthy should be the overall goal. If losing weight is part of it, then great. If the goal is attract a mate for life, then losing a few pounds should be a focus. Good luck to you OP
Find someone that loves you for you. Did not settle for less. Have self respect and if you wanna work on ur self first or a long the way, Do it at your pace. And remember you are changing and bettering yourself for you.
I would give anything to be average looking. I’m downright ugly and I’ve been told so by a few people down the years. It’s not fun.
Whenever I think about average, I always think about the people who have it way worse and still make it work.
There are extremely tiny women who still give birth to fully large, healthy babies. There are dirt poor people, deformed, handicap, disabled, unhealthy people who still go out and live their best lives every day. There are overweight, “ugly” (stereotypically) people who still get married and have happy lives. Don’t ever let your circumstances define your outcome. Your outcome is your mindset.