What do you expect from a romantic partmenr when they make you really sad/mad, you scold them and they became numb?
What do you expect from a romantic partmenr when they make you really sad/mad, you scold them and they became numb?
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What do you expect from a romantic partmenr when they make you really sad/mad, you scold them and they became numb?
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In the moment, I expect them to apologize and explain that they need some time to deal with their own thing before we can address whatever made me upset.
If this is a common experience, I’d later expect them to seek out a therapist who can help them find coping strategies to deal with their reaction to my discomfort. A partner cannot just claim numbness and sadness whenever I have an issue that needs to be addressed.
My partner and I give eachother time to calm down then the one that chooses to brake the ice will usually start tickling the other. It sometimes ends with more argument after and sometimes ends with apologies. Often it turns into an agreement to disagree thing really depends what the fight it about
I expect them to use the fuck ton of skills they e learned in therapy over the years to manage their emotions and our interpersonal interactions.
What do you mean by scold? I don’t scold him… he’s not a child.
If he makes me sad or mad, I collect my thoughts and communicate my feelings calmly, and I expect him to listen and acknowledge that he hurt me in some way, and I expect him to apologize after we have a conversation and understand where the other is coming from.
If your partner becomes numb after you say something to them, you’re likely invoking a trauma response in them from past “scoldings.” Learn to communicate more effectively.
Can you clarify what you mean by “scold them”? I’ve never “scolded” my husband because he’s not a child. We have, however, discussed how we like to be treated in our relationship.
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Like others have said, I really wouldn’t communicate with my SO that way.
And if I did, to the point he’d go numb from it, I expect him to leave me.
I just want them to care enough to come back later, talk it through, and show they’re trying. Going numb sucks, but silence forever feels worse.
If he shut down, I expect him to come back when he’s calm and actually talk to me. Not just pretend nothing happened. I need to feel like he care, not just freeze me out.