Different women like different stuff. I’d start with something light and then work your way up. “God I’m obsessed with the way you feel.” “Just touching your skin turns me on.”
Get some boundaries cleared and answered first. Find out generally what they think may be exciting to hear, but don’t be too predictable. And make sure to give an open/safe space for them to have you mix it up. It’s easy to get carried away.
If she has a few examples she can give you that would help, or you can clarify through questions.
“I’d love to try that, do you prefer more “good girl, I like it when you open your legs for me, you like feeling me inside?” Or are we more into “suck it you dirty little slut, I’m going to own that pussy”. Style”.
If she knows she’ll be able to tell you, if not she should be able to at least pick between the options to give you a clue.
Start simple. Moan when it feels good. Say her name. Ask her if it feels good. Describe what you’re doing. Describe what you want to do. Once that feels organic you can try some riskier shit, but don’t jump straight into the deep end or it’ll be really awkward.
Have her pick out some porn videos or passages of erotic literature that she likes and imitate that at first, then leaning into what gets you hot and bothered after gaining some confidence.
Can’t be taught; must be earned. Mistakes have to be made.
Best you’re gonna get in here is how not to proceed in hopefully-obvious terms. Already I see some responses that are making vaginas snap shut across the land, sounding like popcorn popping
Really depends on the woman. This is a time to use any kind of fetish she has if you know of it.
Girl i was with before a few times would be soaking at the muttering of the word ‘daddy’. So anytime you wanted to initiate anything, ‘daddy’ would come into conversation somehow.
Another girl I was with before used to love dirty talk, and also loved the whole idea of voyeurism and being watched (albeit we never actually did anything like that). But if we were driving along and getting close to home I’d start talking seriously about how if she started blowing me in the car (which she did regularly) that everyone would be able to see, and i’d waffle on about how we’d end up having to pull over in the street and have sex on the bonnet or such with people going about their daily lives around us.
Another girl had huge tits and loved them being squeezed and played with during sex, so if I was trying to plant the seed of sexy time, I’d start talking about her cleavage (always had cleavage on show) and how i’d massage her and pinch her nipples etc.
It’s not that hard, you just have to try to be a bit casual about it. If you sit upright and clear your throat, and start acting like you’re auditioning for a role in a TV show, then it kills the mood and you get flustered. Goal is to start off with something basic and silly like mention her clothes and what they show off (her tits, ass, etc.) and go from there.
Don’t start with “I’m gonna come all over your fucking face you dirty cunt!” cos then you’ve nowhere to go with it.
At first? Nothing. You reach up the side of the neck, allowing your fingers to gently glide up the side of the neck, slowly moving your fingers around to the base of the skull. Then grab a handful of hair and pull. Everything after that should come natural. Put some bass in your voice and calmy explain what you want. Make sure to say “good girl” when she complies. Compliment how well she is doing, as she does it, as well as how good she looks while she’s doing it. Build from this.
There is such a large spectrum of dirty talk that you really need to discuss it with a partner.
Otherwise you say the wrong thing and sexy time is over, sometimes permanently.
Some want a vanilla “do X to me” or ” you’re so hot I want to rip off your clothes” and other partners want some crazy degrading stuff that’d be verbally abusive if it wasn’t consentual.
Depending on the woman, their preferences, the setting/moment, the stage of relationship you’re in.
Sometimes I’d like them a bit more on the sweet side, like, “Wait until we’re all alone later tonight”, “I’m wanting you so much right now”, “Baby, if we’re not in public right now….”
Some other times, “You’re so wet for me already”, or “Do you want my fingers or my cock next?”, “Mm, good girl.”
And there are those moments… “Yeah, you like my big, hard cock in your mouth, baby?”, “I fucking love how tight your cunt is”, “Tell me who you belong to”, “Cum for me, now.”
I start describing each next move like I’m Winston Wolfe, following up with “I’m here to tell you what to do. And if self-gratification is an instinct you possess, you better fucking do it and do it quick. I’m here to help. If my help’s not appreciated, lots of luck, girlie.”
“Imma work dis, Imma make dis miiiiine. I’m gonna piss on your face! Then I’m gonna fart in your mouth!!! YEAH THEN IM GONNA SHIT ON THESE WALLS! OOOH!”
Mmm girl I’m gunna clean your garage cause that was filthy. It needs to be swept and there’s too many empty boxes in there. After that I’m going to mow your fucking lawn and renovate it, those grass clippings and dirt plugs gunna go everywhere! Ima have to take those bitches up and put them In your green waste bin for proper disposal
Honestly just describe what’s happening in positive terms and ask for affirmation. “Your skin feels so soft. Do you like the way I stroke your thighs? I love it when you do that to me.” and so forth.
(While slowly kissing random places along the front from the nape of neck to the belly button)’you want me to talk (kiss)dirty to you? What do you(kiss) want me to say?.. (kiss)..that I like to kiss you right (kiss) here and that this (kiss) curve right here is sexy (kiss) (nip/bite very lightly) or that I really want to … you get the idea
What do you think of pedestrianisation of Norwich town centre? I’ll be honest, I’m dead against it. I mean, people forget that traders need access to Dixons.
Don’t think too hard about it even though it feels a bit wonky at first. Remember, she wants it, so let loose. Always try to keep it positive and play by play and questions are fair game. You can just tell her she likes what you’re doing in graphic detail or tell her you like what’s going on in similarly explicit fashion. You can ask her if she likes it, ask her if she wants it, ask her to narrate for you too. Just look up some dirty talk porn and take it parts you like.
A couple of my go-tos that seem to be crowd pleasers are teasing her by keeping it on the outside, or just the tip, then making her ask for it. If she’s real into it, I’ll make her beg for it. This riles them up and if you get to begging, expect some pretty immediate fireworks upon entry. From there I like to get right into her ear at some point and reference her “hot little pussy” – some gals don’t like that word, but it’s pretty safe in general, especially in the heat of the moment. Then, if I’m absolutely destroying things, I might ask, “who’s hot little pussy is this?” Then they scream my name, I unload, the mariachi band shakes their maracas, and I go take a dump in her bathroom like a gentleman.
I tend to have the same issue. If I’m not stumbling through basic-bitch dirty talk, I’m probably breaking character and laughing. The “breakthrough” is learning exactly what type of “dirty talk” they’re into.
My person is really into domination and degradation, so I just use the basic recipe: say something that would be mean in any other context, command her to do something, then either reward her (a stern “good girl”, grunted right into her ear) or punish her (a smack with a “no”; or fully breaking the rhythm and withholding for a few min).
It’s not gonna work if you just have some pre-packaged lines. It’s way more about the attitude and energy. It’s more the how than the what of what you say. Gonna have to dig deep and find your inner creep and embrace it
When I get pain from her grinding toi hard on my cock, I look her in the eyes and say “cum for me now and suck me dry right after”, then I lick one bouncing tit like it’s my last ice cream and she explodes
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If my wife asked me, I would say the dishes are dirty, our clothes are dirty, and my mind is dirty. She would probably tell me that she would do the laundry and I could do the dishes, and I must be out of my mind.
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Actions speak louder than words.
I usually stutter and have issues as well
following.
i also need this advice. i tried looking this up, and most things come back are either incredibly creepy or i just feel weird saying it outloud.
“Yeah? You like that, you fucking retard?”
I ask if she leans more praise or degradation. With that, I at least have a basic direction to go in.
Just do it like this.
I’m usually finished long before that point
How do you normally talk to them? It may be more a matter of degree.
without more details, I’d say that there are two key things to do:
If you don’t know what to do with your face while saying such things, get close and use a rough whisper to say it directly into their ear.
Obtain consent: “I want to do XXX to you”
While doing the thing: “I’m doing XXX to you
After care “I did XXX with/ for/ to you, how did you like it?
Tell her you’re putting on your robe and wizard hat, always gets me going.
Talk about different types of soil and mud.
Different women like different stuff. I’d start with something light and then work your way up. “God I’m obsessed with the way you feel.” “Just touching your skin turns me on.”
Get some boundaries cleared and answered first. Find out generally what they think may be exciting to hear, but don’t be too predictable. And make sure to give an open/safe space for them to have you mix it up. It’s easy to get carried away.
If she has a few examples she can give you that would help, or you can clarify through questions.
“I’d love to try that, do you prefer more “good girl, I like it when you open your legs for me, you like feeling me inside?” Or are we more into “suck it you dirty little slut, I’m going to own that pussy”. Style”.
If she knows she’ll be able to tell you, if not she should be able to at least pick between the options to give you a clue.
Start simple. Moan when it feels good. Say her name. Ask her if it feels good. Describe what you’re doing. Describe what you want to do. Once that feels organic you can try some riskier shit, but don’t jump straight into the deep end or it’ll be really awkward.
I say SHOW ME THAT BUTTHOLE, WOMAN!
I’m gonna shit on these walls, Ray!
Laundry.
Something like, I’m not going to clean the dishes all week or I made another cup of coffee without rinsing the mug out first
Talk about playing in the mud
“I don’t know you! Let go of my purse!”, then kick em in the crotch.
“Your dog got into the trash can again, and not to make a big deal of it or anything, but I cleaned up the mess last time.”
Have her pick out some porn videos or passages of erotic literature that she likes and imitate that at first, then leaning into what gets you hot and bothered after gaining some confidence.
She’s probably asking me to do the dirty dishes in the sink
Assuming you don’t have a high pitch voice.
Firm (but not death grip) grab her neck with one hand, big kiss, and say “I haven’t showered in 3 days”
Now thats dirty
A family with an act visits a talent agent to talk about booking a performance and the talent agent asks what their act is…
Can’t be taught; must be earned. Mistakes have to be made.
Best you’re gonna get in here is how not to proceed in hopefully-obvious terms. Already I see some responses that are making vaginas snap shut across the land, sounding like popcorn popping
Really depends on the woman. This is a time to use any kind of fetish she has if you know of it.
Girl i was with before a few times would be soaking at the muttering of the word ‘daddy’. So anytime you wanted to initiate anything, ‘daddy’ would come into conversation somehow.
Another girl I was with before used to love dirty talk, and also loved the whole idea of voyeurism and being watched (albeit we never actually did anything like that). But if we were driving along and getting close to home I’d start talking seriously about how if she started blowing me in the car (which she did regularly) that everyone would be able to see, and i’d waffle on about how we’d end up having to pull over in the street and have sex on the bonnet or such with people going about their daily lives around us.
Another girl had huge tits and loved them being squeezed and played with during sex, so if I was trying to plant the seed of sexy time, I’d start talking about her cleavage (always had cleavage on show) and how i’d massage her and pinch her nipples etc.
It’s not that hard, you just have to try to be a bit casual about it. If you sit upright and clear your throat, and start acting like you’re auditioning for a role in a TV show, then it kills the mood and you get flustered. Goal is to start off with something basic and silly like mention her clothes and what they show off (her tits, ass, etc.) and go from there.
Don’t start with “I’m gonna come all over your fucking face you dirty cunt!” cos then you’ve nowhere to go with it.
I say Lady I just came here to pay my electric bill.
Apologize that I suck at it
Tell her about her panties that her mother laid out for her.
You mean the panties your mother laid out for you?
At first? Nothing. You reach up the side of the neck, allowing your fingers to gently glide up the side of the neck, slowly moving your fingers around to the base of the skull. Then grab a handful of hair and pull. Everything after that should come natural. Put some bass in your voice and calmy explain what you want. Make sure to say “good girl” when she complies. Compliment how well she is doing, as she does it, as well as how good she looks while she’s doing it. Build from this.
I’ve never seen you look so good, you never act the way you should, but I like it. And I know you like it too, the way that I want you.
There is such a large spectrum of dirty talk that you really need to discuss it with a partner.
Otherwise you say the wrong thing and sexy time is over, sometimes permanently.
Some want a vanilla “do X to me” or ” you’re so hot I want to rip off your clothes” and other partners want some crazy degrading stuff that’d be verbally abusive if it wasn’t consentual.
Depending on the woman, their preferences, the setting/moment, the stage of relationship you’re in.
Sometimes I’d like them a bit more on the sweet side, like, “Wait until we’re all alone later tonight”, “I’m wanting you so much right now”, “Baby, if we’re not in public right now….”
Some other times, “You’re so wet for me already”, or “Do you want my fingers or my cock next?”, “Mm, good girl.”
And there are those moments… “Yeah, you like my big, hard cock in your mouth, baby?”, “I fucking love how tight your cunt is”, “Tell me who you belong to”, “Cum for me, now.”
So yeah. It depends on what your woman likes.
I start describing each next move like I’m Winston Wolfe, following up with “I’m here to tell you what to do. And if self-gratification is an instinct you possess, you better fucking do it and do it quick. I’m here to help. If my help’s not appreciated, lots of luck, girlie.”
“Oooh…you smell so good…unlike the hangover shits I had at work today…”
“You like dirty, huh? I dare you to take a look at my toilet brush.”
Go read one of their popular smut books. You will have plenty to pick from.
Damn, baby…you fart with that thang!?
“When’s the last time you dusted that ceiling fan?”
“Imma work dis, Imma make dis miiiiine. I’m gonna piss on your face! Then I’m gonna fart in your mouth!!! YEAH THEN IM GONNA SHIT ON THESE WALLS! OOOH!”
“I put on my robe and wizard hat”
Recite a sonnet.
Mmm girl I’m gunna clean your garage cause that was filthy. It needs to be swept and there’s too many empty boxes in there. After that I’m going to mow your fucking lawn and renovate it, those grass clippings and dirt plugs gunna go everywhere! Ima have to take those bitches up and put them In your green waste bin for proper disposal
Talk about her kitchen….lmao
Just say whatever comes to mind in a really forceful voice, don’t think too much it’s not about the content it’s about the delivery
Christ we need a [SERIOUS] tag…
Honestly just describe what’s happening in positive terms and ask for affirmation. “Your skin feels so soft. Do you like the way I stroke your thighs? I love it when you do that to me.” and so forth.
“I love ____ing your ____” or “It’s so hot when you _____ my ______”
A lot of it is really stupid, obvious observations. that boil down to “I am enjoying myself and find you physically desirable”.
Some women do have specific triggers, but that’s something she should discuss with you.
I choke and say nothing. I hate making up dirty talk it takes me 100% out of the sexy headspace and makes me be an improv sex talking guy instead.
You have spinach between your teeth.
“Oh, baby, I haven’t done the dishes in weeks, and my toilet looks like it just got back from 4-wheeling!”
Eres un cochina
Woman here. It won’t work for everyone, but…
“That’s my good girl”
“You re taking my cock like such a good girl”
“You’re so wet/ tight, it feels so good”
“Do you like the way that cock tastes/ feels inside you?”
“I want you to cum for me”
“I want to taste you”
“Ohh igneous!! Igneous! …oh sedimentary… sedimentary… Metamorphic!! Metamorphic!!”
(While slowly kissing random places along the front from the nape of neck to the belly button)’you want me to talk (kiss)dirty to you? What do you(kiss) want me to say?.. (kiss)..that I like to kiss you right (kiss) here and that this (kiss) curve right here is sexy (kiss) (nip/bite very lightly) or that I really want to … you get the idea
Say trashcan
Vacuum cleaner’s in the closet. Knock yourself out.
“This house is fucking filthy! And who just left their bowl in the sink instead of putting it into the fucking dishwasher?!”
What do you think of pedestrianisation of Norwich town centre? I’ll be honest, I’m dead against it. I mean, people forget that traders need access to Dixons.
“Filthy dirty little pirate”
Dishes
You got a purdy mouth!
No thanks. I’m more physical, less verbal.
Try telling her that her sister is prettier.
They love that.
Grosse cochonne!
“Go clean those dishes”
You are a bad girl
Tell them I haven’t done the dishes in a week and the sink smells so bad… really bad.
Go shit in your hat.
Do you like to travel? Good fuck off then.
“I can see the mites in your eyelashes”
Depends if you’re gonna be a good girl
I washed the filthy laundry and dirty dishes then I scrubbed the windows and vacuumed the carpet.
I haven’t dusted the shelves since I moved in.
Tell her about the kitchen.
Don’t think too hard about it even though it feels a bit wonky at first. Remember, she wants it, so let loose. Always try to keep it positive and play by play and questions are fair game. You can just tell her she likes what you’re doing in graphic detail or tell her you like what’s going on in similarly explicit fashion. You can ask her if she likes it, ask her if she wants it, ask her to narrate for you too. Just look up some dirty talk porn and take it parts you like.
A couple of my go-tos that seem to be crowd pleasers are teasing her by keeping it on the outside, or just the tip, then making her ask for it. If she’s real into it, I’ll make her beg for it. This riles them up and if you get to begging, expect some pretty immediate fireworks upon entry. From there I like to get right into her ear at some point and reference her “hot little pussy” – some gals don’t like that word, but it’s pretty safe in general, especially in the heat of the moment. Then, if I’m absolutely destroying things, I might ask, “who’s hot little pussy is this?” Then they scream my name, I unload, the mariachi band shakes their maracas, and I go take a dump in her bathroom like a gentleman.
Get on your knees and suck my cock now
It’s got to come from you otherwise it’s fake. What dirty things do you like ?
Tiny rocks, decaying & decayed organisms , living organisms, oxygen, silicon, aluminum, iron, calcium…. dirty enough yet?
“Mud mud mud mud mud”
You can say oh I haven’t taken a shower in a week and I don’t want to.
I usually change seats or just get off of the Bus.
I say, “Mud, dust, dirt, sawdust, rust, calcium buildup, lime scale, [groan] SOAP SCUM!”
Then ask if that’s dirty enough for her?
“Mud, clay, top soil, moisture content” – I haven’t listened and I’m trying to talk dirt.
“dishwasher needs loading”
Want to hear a dirty joke?
A man fell in the mud!
I drink my bathwater.
Not right now, Mom
Ask her why? Is it cause she’s a bad girl?
I tend to have the same issue. If I’m not stumbling through basic-bitch dirty talk, I’m probably breaking character and laughing. The “breakthrough” is learning exactly what type of “dirty talk” they’re into.
My person is really into domination and degradation, so I just use the basic recipe: say something that would be mean in any other context, command her to do something, then either reward her (a stern “good girl”, grunted right into her ear) or punish her (a smack with a “no”; or fully breaking the rhythm and withholding for a few min).
Shhh. There’s dirty laundry in the hamper that needs a good wet rinse.
I end up sounding like Steve Carell in The 40 Year Old Virgin, and she usually asks me to stop.
Lok Tar Ogar – Kek.
They don’t have to ask.
Tell her about the last time I deep cleaned the drains in the dish pit or what I got out of the bottom of the deep fryer last night.
I’m gonna shit on these walls, I’m gonna fart in your mouth.
Damn I love Scary Movie
I approve of the wage gap and gender stereotype roles. You like that, you like that hard glass ceiling?
Yeah? You like that dirty talk, Mud on your face, a big disgrace!
It’s not gonna work if you just have some pre-packaged lines. It’s way more about the attitude and energy. It’s more the how than the what of what you say. Gonna have to dig deep and find your inner creep and embrace it
I know you want to be my good girl. That is top tier but anything that includes good girl is very effective.
I hope you’re ready to clay! You’re really going to loam this.
Just say what you’d like to do to them, or what you’re gonna do to them.
“Mud, grime and limescale”
When I get pain from her grinding toi hard on my cock, I look her in the eyes and say “cum for me now and suck me dry right after”, then I lick one bouncing tit like it’s my last ice cream and she explodes
“I didn’t wipe…………since yesterday. “
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This is Reddit so… not gonna happen
My woman enjoys being fucked like a whore while I call her a slut. She’s fun.
“You mean the panties your mother laid out for you?”
I usually panic and say something like “uh… taxes are due and the dishwasher’s still broken” but I’m working on it.
It’s not my thing at all….
Then they find someone who will and I’m alone again
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Call her a cunt
If she asks me to talk dirty to her I’ll usually whisper simmering in her ear like “your kitchen”.
If my wife asked me, I would say the dishes are dirty, our clothes are dirty, and my mind is dirty. She would probably tell me that she would do the laundry and I could do the dishes, and I must be out of my mind.