I’ll tell you one:
Sometimes it’s accepted that you have to constantly entertain a woman, because if you don’t, she’ll get bored and leave.
Honestly, if I have to constantly entertain like a clown, or have “Game” throughout the entire relationship, I don’t want a relationship. You can’t build anything worthwhile in life if you’re constantly worrying about pleasing.
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I’ll tell you one:
Sometimes it’s accepted that you have to constantly entertain a woman, because if you don’t, she’ll get bored and leave.
Honestly, if I have to constantly entertain like a clown, or have “Game” throughout the entire relationship, I don’t want a relationship. You can’t build anything worthwhile in life if you’re constantly worrying about pleasing.
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I thought that you should make someone smile and laugh, because you wanted them to have a good time and not because they expect it as an obligation.
So if the vibe is not there, I don’t think it matters if you make jokes or not. Maybe this is an absurd thing in itself – why would you date someone that you don’t want to be goofy with all the time, idk
A partner who claims to be Bi or uses any of the other identity oriented neo pronouns to indicate they screw everybody. You’re not safe in that space and are at high risk for emotional pain and being infected with a nasty disease too.
Not being upfront about what you want long-term. If you’re on a date, you should open with if you want kids, if you’re religious, anything that would be make-or-break if you found out about it later on.
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Most dating is now predicated on meeting and working with a total stranger, which is just madness. You don’t know them, their family, their friends, you probably won’t know anyone who knows them either, the only history you get from them is what they let you hear, you’re going to have to crowbar your goals together to make a future at all and then hope they stick to it.
It’s like hiring a pilot mid-flight.
Unrealistic expectations.
Idk I don’t date, I’m married but listening to all the completely unattractive women and loser men feel like they “deserve” someone just is absurd.
That you deserve the attention of someone simply because you like them or because they’re single. Just because someone is hungry doesn’t mean they want to eat a half eaten hot dog they found on the ground in a park.
For me it was all the girls that had kids with the bad boy and is now looking for a father figure…..
That it’s fine to go on dates with several people at once till something gets serious enough to be exclusive. With me, either I’m the first choice or I’m not an option at all, and I go by that principle too. If I’m dating you I’m dating you, I’m not hosting a game show with the winner being rewarded with an exclusive relationship
Abundance dating culture and all the consequences of that. When a new potential partner is a few swipes and messages away, it causes everyone to view the current partner as not the potential “one” but only the practice one until something better comes along. This is leading to people with excessively high standards, and those who are short of the standard having to put in disproportionate amounts of effort.
Asking what the other person is looking for. Apparently that’s a no no.
The mistaken belief that men have to bow down and forgo their mating strategy and abide by women’s mating strategy.
Meh. It’s never been easier to disqualify women because they put all the crazy out there for the world to see. The problem is that so much larger a share of the women are more or less completely useless as a partner now because of culture and lifestyle choices. It’s like a large part of the population had done a complete moral inversion and women bought in the most. It’s going to be really sad.
The upside of that is that you can avoid it all or abuse it to your heart’s content. The world is more connected and you have more freedom of choice. My wife and I were born 6500 miles apart. There aren’t a lot of times in human history where that was convenient and mostly accepted like it is now.
Try not to get so negative and remember you don’t have to settle for what is being sold.
There are both blessings and curses in this time.
That you have to ask for sexual exclusivity. How people can date someone whom they know is fucking someone else (even multiple other people) is beyond me. Its fine to go on dinner/movie/coffee/hiking dates with multiple people until you find one you like but how casual and meaningless sex has become is insane to me.
If you’re having to entertain her to keep her around she’s not that interested and is stringing you along.
If she likes your company for its own sake then you’re onto something.
Honestly you just have to find the right person. I’ve had good relationships where we just sat on the couch and talked or watched TV. Or sat on the porch. You shouldn’t have to entertain every bit of the day.
Trust issues being okay.
Someone with trust issues has a likelihood of being manipulative and controlling
This whole idea that its someone’s job to fix their own trust issues seems to be a go to mindset with some men and women..
Tell their partners who they can and cannot talk too. Tell them where they can and can’t go. Demand to see their phone, emails etc thus giving their partner no privacy. Act like the victim when confronted or gaslight and apply thr gulity until proven innocent to their partners.
I had some idiot on AskReddit say something really dumb. She said “How can someone with trust issues being controlling and manipulative? You’re part of the problem if you think that”. Ignoring all the evidence to show trust issues does make someone manipulative and controlling.
That if you have a penis and your date doesn’t, there’s an expectation you should pay for and plan everything.
The 6 feet requirement, only about 14.5% of men in the U. S. are that height, and even less are single.
exactly what you just said too. It feels like I’m expected to be an entertainer which is something I absolutely do not expect from whoever I am dating.
Just look at whatever post about how to get good with women. Women do not have to even learn to do half of it.
All the services that want my money but do not really have an incentive to get me a partner?
Women having absurd requirements while being utterly worthless themselves, for example 250 lbs woman with an ugly face and three baby daddies demanding a guy be 6′, make 6 figures, and have 6-pack abs.
Another one is women who have slept with Chad the player and Tyrone the thug within hours of meeting them but when they find a decent guy who would make a good husband and father they make him wait for a long period of time.
The Ick Factor.
The Green Flag – Red Flag pop psychology.
Unreasonable Requirements masquerading as High Standards.
Requirement to be a comedian to maybe get a one-word response back on dating apps.
That a man’s height has any importance at all.
‘Constantly entertain her or she’ll leave’? If you see connection as a circus act, you’re not ready for a relationship
You don’t even know what “game” means:
‘Game’ is for strangers. With someone you like/love? It’s replaced by quality time
The fact that gender equality applies to everything but dating.
Monogamy or the idea of life-partnership being the ideal is absurd to me. The vast majority of people are looking for an illusion and insecurity imo.
Men and women on dating app have opposite issues. Guys get nothing, women have their stuff oversaturated.
I think thats a toxic expectation, and relationships should be built on mutual respect and trust, not constant entertainment.
have to do everything, expect for me to full loyalty in exchange for nothing. Basically, a one-sided thing.