That’s a phrase that my mom drilled into me again and again. It basically means if you grind now, then after you’ve finished your work you can relax. But if you are lazy, then you’ll just end up having to work even more to make up for it.
probably that you need to ‘risk it’ at least once when you are young, either for money for relationship whatever reason, risk it to become who you are gonna become when you grow up. (my perspective as a woman)🙋🏼♀️
That life experiences are what shape you into a man. You could have been on your own from 12, and at 14 you’re still a boy. You need 15-20 years of experience in the real world to really and truly understand who you are, what your values are, and what respect is.
I think its a solid combination of realizing that you are on your own, that you dont have the massive support that women do, AND that a sign of true strength is kindness. Dont get me wrong, you should be capable of defending yourself if need be, but the default of a strong man should be having a gentle and kind soul.
So these are some words I’ve aimed to live by, and you should interpret them in your own way, but they are good words to live by, regardless of their origin.
I strive for the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. I strive for the strength to change the things I can. And the wisdom to know the difference.
It’s originally an AA mantra, but rewritten to not rely on a god and more about knowing your own limits, is what I take from it. The serenity prayer, some call it.
Today may feel like the hardest day of your life. And maybe it is. But tomorrow no one will care and you’ll be expected to do it all over again. No one remembers all of your sacrifices but, they will remember your one and only fuck up.
“Even if it’s not your fault, there will be cases where it’s your responsibility to deal with it. Doesn’t matter who’s fault it is if it’s your job to fix”
I think you hit the nail on the head. When you come to the realization that those bills are in YOUR name and they’re YOUR responsibility. That’s when you grow up real quick.
Nobody owes you shit. Nobody is coming to help. But in the same vein, your no more or less important than anyone else on this world. Work for it and you will get it
That other people’s opinions don’t mean shit, and you shouldn’t have to worry about upholding a masculine image or fearing being seen as gay or feminine
Your behavior impacts others. Every day you choose to do things that may cause pain, fear, confusion, embarrassment, or anxiety to others. You will not always know this before you do it. You will not always know it after you do it. It may be shameful when you find out. A child does nothing with this information. A man makes it right, changes his behavior, acknowledges his error.
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“Work now, play later. Play now, work later”.
That’s a phrase that my mom drilled into me again and again. It basically means if you grind now, then after you’ve finished your work you can relax. But if you are lazy, then you’ll just end up having to work even more to make up for it.
Pretty much this. Better learn to swim/fly before you get pushed out of the nest.
Nobody owes you anything but you owe yourself everything
probably that you need to ‘risk it’ at least once when you are young, either for money for relationship whatever reason, risk it to become who you are gonna become when you grow up. (my perspective as a woman)🙋🏼♀️
The reason why your emotions are downplayed and invalidated is because an emotional man is quite often a dangerous man
That life sucks and will take everything from you.
You can’t fail if you don’t try.
That life experiences are what shape you into a man. You could have been on your own from 12, and at 14 you’re still a boy. You need 15-20 years of experience in the real world to really and truly understand who you are, what your values are, and what respect is.
How to defeat the Huns
You’ll spend a massive amount of time knowing there is no safety net for you, and it sucks but… it’s also motivating
The Dude said it best: “…that and a pair of testicles.”
The Big Lebowski for all your life lessons.
Treating others with kindness and respect isn’t being a pussy. It’s being a man. Treat others how you want to be treated and you’ll get far in life.
Being “cool” doesn’t matter. Stand up for people who can’t stand up for themselves.
When you no longer depend on others and can fend for yourself.
How to handle your own.
Consent and empathy.
I think its a solid combination of realizing that you are on your own, that you dont have the massive support that women do, AND that a sign of true strength is kindness. Dont get me wrong, you should be capable of defending yourself if need be, but the default of a strong man should be having a gentle and kind soul.
Discernment
The ability to put situations into perspective
Picking & choosing your battes
So these are some words I’ve aimed to live by, and you should interpret them in your own way, but they are good words to live by, regardless of their origin.
I strive for the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
I strive for the strength to change the things I can.
And the wisdom to know the difference.
It’s originally an AA mantra, but rewritten to not rely on a god and more about knowing your own limits, is what I take from it. The serenity prayer, some call it.
Today may feel like the hardest day of your life. And maybe it is. But tomorrow no one will care and you’ll be expected to do it all over again. No one remembers all of your sacrifices but, they will remember your one and only fuck up.
“Even if it’s not your fault, there will be cases where it’s your responsibility to deal with it. Doesn’t matter who’s fault it is if it’s your job to fix”
I understand that I’ll get downvoted for this.
Save your crying for funerals because literally nobody else cares or wants to see you crying.
I think you hit the nail on the head. When you come to the realization that those bills are in YOUR name and they’re YOUR responsibility. That’s when you grow up real quick.
To look beyond definitions.
Nobody owes you shit. Nobody is coming to help. But in the same vein, your no more or less important than anyone else on this world. Work for it and you will get it
Integrity. It’s the foundational block of masculinity. Without integrity you will not have the respect of your peers, your wife, or your kids.
There is a cliche saying “a man is only as good as his word.” It’s a cliche because it’s overused but it’s overused because it’s true.
He must willingly pay for dinner at a nice restaurant with his parents. (Posting for a friend.)
Actions have consequences
That other people’s opinions don’t mean shit, and you shouldn’t have to worry about upholding a masculine image or fearing being seen as gay or feminine
You are your own best asset
In other words take care of yourself so you can take care of others when you need to.
No one’s going to hand you the life you want.
That he’s going through puberty.
That you don’t have to fight to be a man, but sometimes you do.
Learn how to self validate.
Peel the banana first
You’re on your own….
No one cares about you and no one is going to save you
You are flawed, you are wrong, you are damaged and its up to you to decide to fix yourself.
Your behavior impacts others. Every day you choose to do things that may cause pain, fear, confusion, embarrassment, or anxiety to others. You will not always know this before you do it. You will not always know it after you do it. It may be shameful when you find out. A child does nothing with this information. A man makes it right, changes his behavior, acknowledges his error.
You need to be your own advocate. Nobody will look out for you the way you do.
Deckard was a replicant.
“If I want it to be, it’s up to me.”
So many here about doing things alone. Or about having no one to rescue you.
It makes me sad this is people’s experiences and their main idea of manhood. It sounds like such a lonely and stressful existence.
When you are a boy you believe your parents, mom, dad will help you. When you are a man you help others.
I’ve noticed that there are a fair number of pretty depressed people on this sub. Y’all need to help yourselves and talk to a professional.
Sometimes the clothes do not make the man
Love yourself before you can love others.
How to treat women