I’m going through a break up with someone I thought I’d get engaged to. I’ve lost faith in a happy ending for me after this one.
But when I was in Costco earlier this week, I found myself looking at all the older couples there and feeling joy for them. Possibly some of them have happy, healthy marriages. I want to hear all your stories. My personal feel good story session if you will.
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I met my husband when i was 20 and he was 24
Married him at 22
Its been 18 yrs and 16 married and i wouldn’t ever want to do life with anyone else on the planet! He still gives me butterflies and makes me feel like were still honeymooning even though its been forever and 2 kooky toddlers to deal with but he is and always will be my person 🥰
Hmm. My marriage isn’t happy every second of every day. But it’s happy 90% of our life in general. And I would emphasize that it’s okay to argue and disagree. It’s okay to be unsure about some things. It’s okay to challenge each other, and strive for more. It’s okay to question if it’s still working after many years together and as your personalities change and grow.
My husband and I aren’t the most lovey dovey couple that you’ll meet. We go through ebbs and flows with romance and sex. But that isn’t what marriage is. Anyone can have chemistry. But not everyone can intertwine chemistry with friendship with respect with longevity. This is what takes work. Because every working part isn’t always working; and to be in a happy marriage you are accepting that things will break but you will BOTH work to make it the marriage you want again.
Happy doesn’t equal perfect.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Breakups especially when you pictured a future with someone can feel like grief. It’s not just the relationship ending, but the life you imagined crumbling too. It’s okay to feel shaken, disillusioned, or just plain heartbroken
I don’t have one, I’m single myself and had given up until I moved next door to a an example of a couple that I can strive for.
my neighbors are an amazing couple, Gen Xers In their 50s but look 35. They’ve been married for 20 years, with no kids. They both have jobs that they love, moderately successful but more importantly happy. They have amazing parties that they invite me to, travel a lot that they don’t invite me to, lol etc. etc. I watch how he treats her and it melts my heart. I watch how they laugh and I mean seriously laugh, telling weird private jokes, etc. etc. One day my friend and I were hearing this hi pitch cackle and we looked outside and those two are taking a walk bent over laughing about something.
Im not ashamed to say I want to be them. Seriously. I want someone to laugh with, share hobbies with, travel with. I don’t want any kids and I want a guy that’s fine with that. I want someone that understands me. They met on their mid 30s, so maybe I still have time, but they have definitely given me hope.