What examples of the statement that true friends would call you out on your bullshit? And does it ruin or strengthen a friendship?
What examples of the statement that true friends would call you out on your bullshit? And does it ruin or strengthen a friendship?
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Well, depends if its done with resentment or not, and then if its fair, or not.
Does getting punched in the face count? Because my best friends have punched me in the face. I deserved it.
A good friend should be able to tell me “Hey, that thing you said is hurtful due to reason x. I know you probably didn’t know that, but stop that.”
I should be able to trust my friends to tell me when I’m being an asshole and they should be able to trust that I would do the same.
A true friend will tell you your fucking up because he wishes only good things for you. A bad friend won’t even bother to correct you.
In our early 20s my best friend a couple others and I met up with my female cousin at a club. We were hanging out and the inevitable “hey hook me up with your cousin” conversation began. “I wouldn’t hook any of you clowns up with her.” “What? Not even [best friend]?” “No, he’s cheated on every girlfriend he’s ever had.” No punches pulled, just the truth. As far as I know he never cheated on another girlfriend after that.
I mean my sons are in their 20’s now. When they are acting like sad sacks I tell ‘em straight up. And with my friends it’s a “help me help you scenario” like if their drinking too much etc. if you care about your peeps you need to help them best you can. Just my 2c
In one word, depends.
If it’s a sore spot and the delivery was too harsh; it will damage a friendship. If the delivery was just right, it will strengthen the friendship. [+]
I always call my friend out on ditching us for 6 months whenever he gets a new gf.